Every Read this please.

[jhop220]

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I just read a replay from frowg and I think I want to follow up so everyone can read my opinion. Everybody has their deep dark secrets that they keep from the world. They don't tell anybody unless they are in a community of others with the same fetish. They think the world will reject them if they tell people. You can tell someone that you have a tickling fetish and that guy could laugh at you or reject you but he might like things such as pain, beastality, eyeball licking, or a smoking fetish. Tickling isn't the worse thing out there and I am not ashamed to admit it. People out there lick child pornography and such. Tickling is connected to other fetishs such as bondage. Bondage is connected to alot i don't even want to start to name it. Back to the point I feel that if we arn't afraid to tell others what our fetish is then they won't reject us. In fact in some cases if you tell someone your fetish they will tell you theirs. If you had a friend for lets say 5 years and you decide to tell him/her and they just stop talking to you and stop coming in contact with you then they were never a friend to begin with. A real friend would accept you for who you are and what you like. I just thought I would share that with you guys. Feedback would be appreciated. Thanks

 

[jhop220]

sorry

sorry mispeeled words

 

[jhop220]

sorry again

Man i am a horible speller guys

 

[maverick83]

About telling someone, and them avoiding you, well put. That's been what I've been telling friends, about their various predicaments, for years. If someone doesn't want to be your friend, why do you want to be theirs? I haven't told anyone outside this community about my fetish, but no one has asked. What I mean is, I'm not ashamed of it, but I'm not about to start announcing it to people. I accept myself for who I am and am not ashamed (hell, I drive around blasting music from Final Fantasy games. Get some odd looks from people...), but that way of thinking is not for everyone. If we claim that everyone should be open about every aspect of themselves, we are now stigmatizing people who aren't, making them ashamed of the fact that they're not, and that feeling of shame is what we were trying to eliminate in the first place...well, I kinda went cross-eyed here...anyway, if you want to hide anything about yourself, it is your decision. The only one who truly knows what is best for you is YOU.

 

[kurchatovium]

I think you can have lots of friends who don't know about every aspect of your life. It would perhaps be nice to have a few who do and still choose to be your friend but I don't think it is necessary. None of my friends know about my fetish, a few know I'm kinky lets say but don't know the particulars. Everything is fine this way and I have no need to fill my friends in about my sexuality.

I would agree with you jhop220 that should a friend find out about a tickling fetish and then suddenly choose not to be your friend that they were not much of a friend. My guess is though that we are better at choosing our friends than we think.

 

[BigJim]

I have to say that the TMF has taught me a lot about myself. The growth I've had would not have been possile without the interaction I've experienced with the great people I've met here.
One thing that most people experience when they become a member here, is a feeling of being at peace with themselves. After years of guilt and feeling that they were warped or "different" from "normal people."

Having said that, very few people outside of the TMF are aware of my inner workings, such as they are. 😀 That said, I don't feel the need to share my sexuality with my friends. This isn't because of my tickling and foot fetishes being fringe, but because I think it's natural to keep details like that to certain select people; even if you are what the vanilla world would call "normal".

That is just my feelings on the subject though. If you feel you needto be that intimate with all your friends, then more power to you. We need to do whatever we can in this life to make ourselves feel at peace, so long as we don't restrict other peoples freedom in doing so. Only you can decide what that entails jhop, so good luck in finding it out. Take care.

 

[Oddjob0226]

Hhmmm... interesting things to think about.

Well, I have a number of friends, but only 3 know my fetish, & they are all women (sadly, they don't indulge me, but at least it's one less secret to hide...) The first one figured out I had a foot fetish on her own, and I eventually opened up about everything, and she about her own fetishes..... She doesn't like tickling at all, and even seeing it makes her feel strange in a not-good way (we've talked about it and we can't figure outwhere it started or why this is) So I haven't been able to share too much, but she is still my friend. And she indulged in my foot fetish becuase quite obviously, she got the full advantage from it. But now she has a damn boyfriend who does all that stuff. The second woman knows pretty much through my behavior and talking with the 1st woman. The second woman has such ticklish feet! But, again, she's recently gotten an ew boyfriend.


The 3rd woman was a good friend in High School. We had lost touch for almost 15 years and I found her (thank goodness for teh Internet!) She had "outed" herself as a lesbian but was still a little unconfortable about facing the truth about herself; some people were'nt accepting her because of it, and many others she didn't even tell,she had pretty much just finally found peace with it herself. Well, I kind of knew what ws going on, so I sort of confronted her in a friendly way - "this is what I've heard - tell me if it is true and not only will I still be your friend, but I will tell you a secret about me!"

So we swaped secrets, and we were both cool with each other. Besides, I knew I could tell her - I remember her in high school tickling a lot of the younger girls! Perhaps we can form an alliance of evil together and kidnap helpless college girls for inhuman tickling experiments!

A third woman, a Chinese lady who lives about 15 miles from me, we've only been Internet pen pals, she not only knows all about it, but likes to tease me about it, what would happen to me if she got ahold of me, etc...... It's just play, but she's very cool about it, & it's fun.

As far as the people at my work, or my other friends, especially my guy friends, well, I'm sure most of them would be a little amused but accept me in the long run, no problem (I suspect one guy might even have a milder form of the fetish - his former girlfriend did - and I think he suspects it about me) However, I still find it difficult to come forward. Part of me, however, wonders why I would even need to.