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[46and2]

Hello everyone,
I'm going to bring up a subject which will probably make some of you uncomfortable. I struggle with this quite a bit: Does your fetish dominate your life? Do you feel that your need for tickling is an unhealthy obsession at times? Is it more of a need then a desire, so much of a need in fact that you place it above other important responsibilities in your life? I am not speaking only of the act of tickling or being tickled. I am also reffering to the use of tickling media.I really do want to hear from people that can say yes to the above questions as well as no. I also ask that you really examine yourself before answering. Input from anyone would be welcome.

-Thanks

 

[sirjasper2002]

Re: The monkey

I enjoy it, it turns me on, but I don't need it to be satisfied, if you catch my drift...

 

[tactillianlover]

Just last night I pondered this. Actually a lot of nights. I do not shirk my priority duties over tickling. However in the last year or so I've made actual tickling a much bigger priority. It was just the time in my life where I decided I must. Some make time for sports or concerts , etc. I make time to cultivate tickling relationships.

Also I feel the war compiled with my normal everyday concerns for this country in general has cultivated a stress level that can often be overwhelming- a helpless , though not hopeless, state of mind.

Sometimes I simply must retreat to a quick fix(tickle oriented media). It's no different from getting lost in sports, sex, etc.

Only human, I tell my self.

 

[R. Davis]

I enjoy tickling women but it doesn't dominate my life. Life is full of other pleasures to explore.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Hello everyone,
I'm going to bring up a subject which will probably make some of you uncomfortable. I struggle with this quite a bit: Does your fetish dominate your life? Do you feel that your need for tickling is an unhealthy obsession at times? Is it more of a need then a desire, so much of a need in fact that you place it above other important responsibilities in your life? I am not speaking only of the act of tickling or being tickled. I am also reffering to the use of tickling media.I really do want to hear from people that can say yes to the above questions as well as no. I also ask that you really examine yourself before answering. Input from anyone would be welcome.

-Thanks

Dominate my life? No not at all. A dominate factor in a relationship, perhaps.
An unhealthy obsession? No...an fun obsession? Yeah.

A need? Hmmmm, in a way yes, but not to the fact that it is "bad" by any respect. A desire, absolutely!
It is just plain fun and when circumstances dictate, an intense and incredible turn on!
It is also a show of affection,trust and close friendship and just plain FUN!!!!!!!!!!😉 😀


Most sincerely,

TTD

 

[Myriads]

Tickling is but one aspect of my sexuality, and my sexulaity is but one aspect of my entire life.

So, nope. It's not something that takes me over.

Fetishes can take over. But I feel I've found a very solid balance.

Myriads

 

[46and2]

Thanks for replying guys, but I would like to see the other side of the coin now. In other words: who in here is or was hopelessly addicted? Did you overcome it and how? Please speak up if you here.

 

[Krokus]

Yea

I was once like you. My advice: Get out more. Make some new friends. You would be suprised at how much better your life will get.

-My 2 cents...

 

[P50]

The Scientific Truth

I have started in a separate thread on the topic of O.T.D.

 

[Strelnikov]

Don't know if this qualifies as an "addiction" per se...

I'm a dinosaur, grew up in the B. C. (Before Computer) era. Until I found internet sites like this one, I thought I was alone in having this kink. Every so often, over a 30 yr period, I would be overcome by a fit of self-loathing over being "wierd". That led to "The Purge" - toss all tickling-related material in a dumpster across town after dark, then resolve to sin no more. Didn't work, obviously, or I wouldn't be here.

Now, I guess I'm like Myriads. It's just part of my sexuality, which is just part of my life. And since finding this place, the guilt is gone too.

Strelnikov

 

[46and2]

Re: Yea

I was once like you. My advice: Get out more. Make some new friends. You would be suprised at how much better your life will get.

-My 2 cents...

Thank you for the advice, however I do get out quite a bit.🙂

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

Does the fact the many of us spend substantial amounts of our free time in this forum have anything to do with our answer???

But really no, I really enjoy it, but if this forum was gone tommorrow, I would pick up the pieces and move on!

 

[NotreDame6]

For 46and2....

I don't know if this qualifies as being hopelessly addicted, but I could never be happy in a relationship with a woman who was either not ticklish or had an unbending desire to never be tickled. Plus whenever I enter into a new relationship, the one burning question about all others is finding out if she is ticklish. So I guess for me, it is a bit unhealthy. I don't think I'm a candidate for a straight-jacket though. At least not yet. lol

 

[U.N.Owen]

Obsession hasn't really been my problem. My problem used to be worrying that I was mentally warped. I actually told a therapist, who I saw in college about academic stress, about my tickling interest. She assured me I was quite normal, and that my particular kink was one of the cleanest she'd ever encountered. I worried a lot less after that.

 

[46and2]

Re: For 46and2....

I don't know if this qualifies as being hopelessly addicted, but I could never be happy in a relationship with a woman who was either not ticklish or had an unbending desire to never be tickled. Plus whenever I enter into a new relationship, the one burning question about all others is finding out if she is ticklish. So I guess for me, it is a bit unhealthy. I don't think I'm a candidate for a straight-jacket though. At least not yet. lol

No sir,
That hardly qualifies you for a straight jacket. Naturally if you have a fetish which your partner won't indulge (at least to a degree), you won't be happy in that relationship. I was reffering more to something that you can't stop doing, even if you want to. I think what your talking about is natural for most people into tickling.

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

There have been many times in my life that I wished I could stop my obsession with tickling. It has brought me trouble on more than one occassion in my relationships. I do find that my thoughts turn to tickling several times a day (and that is probably a slight understatement.) And whenever I meet someone who I'm attracted to (like most of you) one of the first things I wonder is "is he ticklish?"
But on the flip side, when things with my partner are good, and the tickle monster inside me is being at least somewhat satisfied, then things are very good. Can I do without being tickled? I don't know...probably not. I have learned to deal with the tickle starved moments in my life, and relish the happy tickle days I do get. It is part of who I am, and like it or not (mostly I do like it), it will probably always be there.

If it helps at all 46and2, I do know what you are talking about. I know that the solution to decreasing the intensity of our fetish has nothing to do with "getting out more" or "socializing with people" (I know because I go out quite a bit too!) It is in the very fabric of your being and no matter what else is going on in your life it is still there (to some degree.) I've been there, and re-visit that intense level every now and then (mostly when I go for a very long period of time without being tickled.) And I think it's okay as long as you can still be a happy person without it, and it doesn't severly impede on your ability to function in your daily life. When your fetish is getting the best of you and making you more miserable than satisfied then it's time to stop. But as long as you are enjoying yourself, then I say tickle on!!

Maggie

 

[ShiningIce]

I wont date a girl if shes not ticklish. As for her hating it well, shell eventually want something from me down the road so......we'll talk it out.

 

[46and2]

Re: Daisycrazy5496

Daisycrazy5496,
I appreciate your kind advice, I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from on this. I think it's a good idea for anyone to examine themselves and try to understand whether or not they've crossed the line from a healthy to an unhealthy obsession. Just so nobody misinterpets me: I'm not saying my tickling fetish is some kind of disease I have that needs to be cured. Simply because it's something I am, not something I chose, and it can just as easily be healthy as unhealthy.