Feeling Lonely During the Holidays

[njjen3953]

Growing up Jewish, I always felt this way. I had a reprieve from it last year. This year, I am not so certain as I am starting to feel it already.

Have any of you felt this way?

Jen

 

[TicklingDuo]

Jen, I think most people have felt that way at some point or another. During the holidays especially, if others are together having a good time and we're alone (or simply not feeling involved in it), it's easy to feel lonely. I've felt that way before in the midst of a crowd of friends. It's no fun.

Ann

 

[njjen3953]

I've felt that way before in the midst of a crowd of friends. It's no fun.

I have often felt that way. I think feeling lonely in a crowd is worse than actually being alone. I hope that no one feels lonely this holiday season, myself included.

Jen

 

[sole seeker]

You're not alone, lots of people feel that way Jen.

Just a suggestion, but you might consider calling some old friends you haven't heard from in a long time. If you're concerned about interrupting their celibrations, make the calls brief. Call several of them. From what I've learned about you from reading your posts on this forum, I'm sure they'd love to hear from you. I like hearing from pals I've not seen in a few years.

When I was single I felt lonely on holidays. I have to work most holidays because my job is in the emergency services field, so I didn't get to fly back to the east coast to see family. I looked into working down in the "soup kitchens" of my nearest large city. I find that helping someone less fortunate than myself takes my focus off my problems, and my efforts to help makes me feel better.

Here's something else that might make you feel better. Sometime on Christmas day I will make it a point to think to myself, "I wish I could meet Jen today and tickle the living crap out of her feet!" Count on it!

 

[njjen3953]

You're not alone, lots of people feel that way Jen.

Here's something else that might make you feel better. Sometime on Christmas day I will make it a point to think to myself, "I wish I could meet Jen today and tickle the living crap out of her feet!" Count on it!

I will not BE alone. I am just afraid of feeling that way. Although I will be with loving and caring people, I am still the outsider. Hopefully it will be ok though. I just woke up in that kind of mood today. As soon as I get out in the crowds, I am sure I will WISH I was alone. LOL

Thanks sole seeker. I didn't think anyone was intereted in doing that to me. 😉

 

[Haltickling]

Yes, Jen, I know that feeling very well. Being lonely is something I don't wish on my worst enemies. And as Ann said, it's even harder to bear in the midst of a crowd. That's one of the reasons why I chose to isolate myself even more during X-mas, it's easier on me.

So if you've got a family and/or friends, enjoy the togetherness as long as it lasts. It may be over one day, and then all you can enjoy are the memories.

Merry Christmas (or whatever you celebrate in these days) to you all!

 

[phfttklr]

You're never alone with us around Jen.

That goes for everyone else in the TMF community.

 

[njjen3953]

Thanks all. I posted this before I had my happy pills. LOL I am just great. Hope you all have a fantastic holiday.

Jen

 

[Moses25]

Er, uhhhh...can you pass some of 'em my way, Jen?

Moses likes happy pills!!

Cheers.😀

 

[luv2bt&tickled]

You are not alone, Jen!




Glad to see that you are feeling much better Jen, you are not alone! See All your friends her at TMF love you!
Wishing you a Merry Christmas! Take care!
Love Tracy
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[Moses25]

If you were any sweeter, you would be illegal, Tracy-poo...er, I mean Bubbles.😛

Cheers.😀

 

[lite]

If I were there, Jen, I'd give you a great big hug!

My religious upbringing was of the Southern Baptist variety (see my location for more info 😉 ), but I've certainly felt alone at this time of year, even when surrounded by loved ones.

Just remember, Jen, that you don't HAVE to feel anything in particular; your feelings are your feelings...they aren't right or wrong, they're YOU!

*lite, who also has happy pills...and kwildoctr!* 😀

 

[amk714]

Hey Jen, glad you're feeling better--what's in those pills? 😀 Seriously, if anyone should feel lonely, it's me, because I'm an atheist. But I don't! As long as I have friends and family who like/love me and care (including those on the TMF), I'll never feel lonely, and neither should you. Be well, Jen, and Happy Holidays!

 

[venray]

I always get a little down around this time of year, until I see the look on my son's face when he opens something to discover it's just what he wanted and runs and gives his mother and me a big hug.

Kids tend to make things more difficult at times....but they make up for it tenfold at others....😀


Ray

 

[JPie1]

Growing up Jewish, I always felt this way. I had a reprieve from it last year. This year, I am not so certain as I am starting to feel it already.

I can certainly relate to this. I feel this way every year on Christmas Day. Its not my holiday but with everyone else off celebrating I always end up feeling a little blue. But my house is toasty, my husband and son are here, and last night my 16 year old nephew flew in for 2 weeks for a visit...I just whipped up a batch of nice homemade cocoa, we are watching the snow come down and there is a pot of chicken cacciatore on my stove for supper, perfect day for cooking and chilling.

I hope everyone has a safe, loving and warm Holiday Season!!

Love ya,

Judy aka JPie

 

[luv2bt&tickled]

Jen you are not alone!

I think that we all have these feelings Jen. The holiday's for a sad. But then I think of all my many blessings, it helps me.
I recently lost my Daddy, and other things not going so good right now that I want go into. So just remember Jen that you we all care about you. If you ever feel the need to talk, my e-mail address is available and I will be there for you, all you have to do is contact me. I mean that Jen *big Hugs*
When Twilight draws it's curtain and pins it on a star, remember Dear you'll have a friend no matter when you are.


Jen, pick up the phone and call a friend or someone that you haven't talked to in a while, maybe you just might help them to feel no so lonely too!
Love ya!
Tracy

 

[Venus51099]

Re: Jen you are not alone!

I think that we all have these feelings Jen. The holiday's for a sad. But then I think of all my many blessings, it helps me.
I recently lost my Daddy, and other things not going so good right now that I want go into. So just remember Jen that you we all care about you. If you ever feel the need to talk, my e-mail address is available and I will be there for you, all you have to do is contact me. I mean that Jen *big Hugs*
When Twilight draws it's curtain and pins it on a star, remember Dear you'll have a friend no matter when you are.


Jen, pick up the phone and call a friend or someone that you haven't talked to in a while, maybe you just might help them to feel no so lonely too!
Love ya!
Tracy

Tracy that was touching,I am sorry to hear about your Dad and other problems! Where did you get that saying from? That is nice

For Jen, I hope that you are feeling better today!🙂
PS Jen, I also find it helps to call a friend or a family member that you have got out of touch with, you make them feel better and you feel better too.
Rose

 

[4Pawz]

Ah I can understand how ya feel. Personally, I don't celebrate xmas, but my family does and so do some of my friends, so I try to at least be in the "spirit" of the holiday for them. But then again, at least we still get to celebrate the new year 😉

Pawz

 

[kwildoctr]

For about 12 years I felt alone & isolated (& yes, lonely) at Christmas every year. During the season of 13, I finally started to feel like there was something to enjoy about Christmas again (I had met a bunch of new friends at the TMF). Finally, during year 14, a "lite" has entered my life & shown me how wonderful it is to love Christmas again.

Hope you feel "Christmas-sy" again, soon, Jen.

By the way, about those pills.......

R