For those wishing "she" was tickled in a movie/TV scene instead of "he"

[kucheeku]

More times than I can remember, I've seen tickling media reaction posts "wishing" someone else was tickled in a particular movie or TV scene. By overwhelming numbers, the reason is because a man is tickled instead of a woman. Bypassing any criticism for a script rewrite, I almost never see an explanation from the reactor as to WHY they would want to a particular person to be tickled instead of the lee chosen for the scene.

For more than a decade, I've chatted with men on this (and other) boards who are still--in 2024--shamed and embarrassed to admit a desire for tickling submission, especially from men. I think many folks, in the interest of expressing opinion, don't realize that posting wishes not to see men tickled in scenes reinforces the idea there's something wrong with men being submissive.

What I would love to see is each reactor state why they need for the change to happen. If it's to get hard and moist, be upfront and say so. If you insist on making it everyone's business that you don't want see someone tickled, follow through and tell us why, or is it an embarrassing disclosure of prejudice? I've stated on numerous occasions that I've no interest in any /f scenes. They don't turn me on at all, but I haven't written posts wishing scenes would be different to cater to me.

I'm definitely not saying that M/M tickling boards get it right also. At times, I've seen inappropriate complaints of male lees criticized by posters with ageist and looksist issues.

What I just ask is for those members in the community who don't find a particular scene catering to them to realize there's an entire ocean of tickling media online that does. It's not difficult to find them.

 

[BlueLine7045]

First of all, the word moist is gross. Eww.

Moving on to the main discussion, I agree with parts of your post and disagree with others. I admit I am one of those guys as well who frequently see /m tickle scenes in cartoons and shows and kind of wish it was one of the females I was attracted to being tickled instead, but that's just because I'm into /f. I don't particularly remember starting an entire thread about it or making a long post but I have probably made an offhand comment somewhere.

I am honestly not quite sure how people expressing their interest in /f scenes makes males that prefer to be lees feel more ashamed and embarrassed. I know a few men that prefer to be lees and I see nothing wrong with that. I, myself, am personally both a ler and lee, but enjoy being dominated or tickled by a woman occasionally. Especially a strong woman or a revenge scenario. Very sexy.

I'm not quite sure what posts you're talking about. I would have to read them. If people are insulting and putting down /m scenes, then shame on them.

 

[kucheeku]

First of all, the word moist is gross. Eww.

Moving on to the main discussion, I agree with parts of your post and disagree with others. I admit I am one of those guys as well who frequently see /m tickle scenes in cartoons and shows and kind of wish it was one of the females I was attracted to being tickled instead, but that's just because I'm into /f. I don't particularly remember starting an entire thread about it or making a long post but I have probably made an offhand comment somewhere.

I am honestly not quite sure how people expressing their interest in /f scenes makes males that prefer to be lees feel more ashamed and embarrassed. I know a few men that prefer to be lees and I see nothing wrong with that. I, myself, am personally both a ler and lee, but enjoy being dominated or tickled by a woman occasionally. Especially a strong woman or a revenge scenario. Very sexy.

I'm not quite sure what posts you're talking about. I would have to read them. If people are insulting and putting down /m scenes, then shame on them.

You joined TMF in 2020. I joined in 2002. Go back through the posts over the years in the media section, and believe me, you'll see the "better she than he" comments.

 

[maniactickler]

I absolutely, 1000%, refuse to watch a man get tickled.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I absolutely, 1000%, refuse to watch a man get tickled.

What happens if you accidentally stumble across it? Like, people who aren’t interested in tickling women are constantly having */F shoved in their faces all the time and we kind of just have to put up with it.

 

[BlueLine7045]

No one is forcing anyone to watch anything. I will say I have seen one or two /m clips I found interesting before, but other than that, think it's more fun to watch women get tickled.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

This is just my opinion, so take it with a grain of salt.

IMO, a lot of the /m content out there is usually m/m. It isn't always the case, but IMO that is what I remember more than other types. M/m tickling is certainly popular with a certain percent of people, but I would say that there are a lot more, at least in this community, who would prefer f/m if there is going to be any /m tickling content. M/f, and f/f content is preferred by more people, particularly amongst men who have strong hetro preferences. It only makes sense they would prefer to see Catwomen get tickled instead of the Joker.

I think the reason you see so many complaints about this, is that it's more or less a numbers game. If you get a hundred people together, you're probably going to find more people complaining than if you just grabbed ten people.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I mean, surely people understand that scenes from mainstream media aren’t specifically made to cater towards a small minority of heterosexual male niche fetishists? Like, the tickle scenes are written with a vanilla audience in mind. I’d imagine the concept of a big strong man getting tickled is probably funnier?

 

[Iggy pop]

More times than I can remember, I've seen tickling media reaction posts "wishing" someone else was tickled in a particular movie or TV scene. By overwhelming numbers, the reason is because a man is tickled instead of a woman. Bypassing any criticism for a script rewrite, I almost never see an explanation from the reactor as to WHY they would want to a particular person to be tickled instead of the lee chosen for the scene.

For more than a decade, I've chatted with men on this (and other) boards who are still--in 2024--shamed and embarrassed to admit a desire for tickling submission, especially from men. I think many folks, in the interest of expressing opinion, don't realize that posting wishes not to see men tickled in scenes reinforces the idea there's something wrong with men being submissive.

What I would love to see is each reactor state why they need for the change to happen. If it's to get hard and moist, be upfront and say so. If you insist on making it everyone's business that you don't want see someone tickled, follow through and tell us why, or is it an embarrassing disclosure of prejudice? I've stated on numerous occasions that I've no interest in any /f scenes. They don't turn me on at all, but I haven't written posts wishing scenes would be different to cater to me.

I'm definitely not saying that M/M tickling boards get it right also. At times, I've seen inappropriate complaints of male lees criticized by posters with ageist and looksist issues.

What I just ask is for those members in the community who don't find a particular scene catering to them to realize there's an entire ocean of tickling media online that does. It's not difficult to find them.

I always thought the forum should be split between /F and /M. I find that as a lover of /F, I share almost nothing in common with /M lovers. I have no desire to read /M stories, watch /M material, or have discussions about /M tickling. In my experience, most /m lovers have no desire to learn about /f material. I don't find /M tickling offensive. Just like I don't find spanking, cast fetish, amputee fetish, or foot fetish offensive. It is just not my thing, just as /m tickling is not my thing. But when you have a board that is catering to all these interests, you will have to put up with things like this, or you make a decision to find another place to go.

 

[C4urself85]

I don't think the posters wishing for female lees are going out of their way to try to hurt /M lovers feelings. I'd say it's less disgust and more jealousy. Like you got a shiny new toy and we didn't. Yes the TMF and most clips are female lee focused but mainstream is different and I think that's getting a little lost here.

Sure I can get all the /F content I can stomach, but it's little different to tune into a show and see a famous actress getting tickled. I can relate to all the "man, I wish that had been blank" people, because frankly it would have been awesome to see Starlight or Victoria Neuman get tickled in The Boys to cite one recent example, because really, how many high profile tickle scenes do we get?

I'm happy for the people that do like that kind of content. I can imagine it's thrilling. I know I like a good mainstream scene. I would just try not to take it too personal if certain people go out of their way to yuck your yum. They're not worth paying attention to.

 

[LeatherRebell]

I don't think it's any deeper than straight men with tickle fetishes wanting to see women get tickled. Think about it like this: If you went to a restaurant with someone and they expressed their disappointment to you that there was cheesecake on the dessert menu and no chocolate cake, would you view that as them saying cheesecake shouldn't exist? Of course not, they just have a preference.

I think it's really that simple for most of us who prefer /f tickling. And yeah, I get that some people will say 'this should have been a woman being tickled' instead of 'I would personally prefer if this were a woman being tickled' which makes it sound more like what you're suggesting, but I wouldn't take that too seriously. Some people probably do believe men shouldn't be submissive, but most are probably just expressing their disappointment with too much anger.

And anyway, it's like Jezebel said, we all know these scenes aren't intended to provide us any sexual pleasure. It's just good luck when we happen to get a good mainstream tickle scene, and even better luck if it's the kind we prefer. I don't think there's any secret meaning behind someone saying they wished it was different, even if it was kind of unnecessary for them to say anything at all.

 

[dashboard]

For me, I wouldn't even mind it so much if there were more /f mainstream content but the amount of /m scenes compared to /f scenes is so ungodly uneven. Like, we might get one good /f foot tickle scene for every 20 /m foot tickle scenes out there. Like, seriously go type in 'tickle scenes' on Youtube and it's almost entirely /m content. Even as a kid when I didn't even realize that what I had was a sexual fetish, I always found it unfair that guys were tickled in media way more than women. Like, I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade when I complain about it, it's just really frustrating and disheartening as someone who has no interest in /m content whatsoever.

 

[Iggy pop]

I don't think the posters wishing for female lees are going out of their way to try to hurt /M lovers feelings. I'd say it's less disgust and more jealousy. Like you got a shiny new toy and we didn't. Yes the TMF and most clips are female lee focused but mainstream is different and I think that's getting a little lost here.

There are quite a few /f mainstream clips out there; however, most of the tickling in them is playful or accidental tickling. When it comes to "tickle torture" this is almost exclusively /m. Now, I could go on a rant explaining why "tickle torture" is fictional and not real, but I'll save that for another time. I will say that "tickle torture" in the mainstream is often viewed through a comedic lens, and in the non-fetish view of tickling, men being "tickle tortured" is more comedic. I think PC also plays a role, where many producers would feel that a woman being tickle tortured would make them appear to be weak or is too analogous to sexual assault, but somehow it is not for a man. Look, I don't understand that logic but somehow it exists. I will say there seems to be an exception in Asia, in particular, China, where "tickle torture" of women is completely acceptable, and this is where I see the vast majority of tickle torture scenes of females come from. Therefore, if you want to see /f tickle torture, then you are going to have to watch Asian shows or fetish material.

 

[BlueLine7045]

For me, I wouldn't even mind it so much if there were more /f mainstream content but the amount of /m scenes compared to /f scenes is so ungodly uneven. Like, we might get one good /f foot tickle scene for every 20 /m foot tickle scenes out there. Like, seriously go type in 'tickle scenes' on Youtube and it's almost entirely /m content. Even as a kid when I didn't even realize that what I had was a sexual fetish, I always found it unfair that guys were tickled in media way more than women. Like, I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade when I complain about it, it's just really frustrating and disheartening as someone who has no interest in /m content whatsoever.

It's interesting. I was actually thinking about this a lot about a week or so ago. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but I have noticed that in more westernized tv shows/movies/cartoons, there seems to be more male tickle scenes than female. For every 1 good /f tickle scene, we get about 2 to 3 good /m tickle scenes. However, in more Eastern TV shows/movies/cartoons and anime for those who watch it, there is an overwhelming number of /f tickle scenes. How many East Indian tickle scenes come to mind? Not to mention all the Korean and Japanese tickling games how's they have. Just food for thought. An observation.
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I can relate to all the "man, I wish that had been blank" people, because frankly it would have been awesome to see Starlight or Victoria Neuman get tickled in The Boys to cite one recent example, because really, how many high profile tickle scenes do we get?

Funny you should mention this scene as well. It actually seems to be pretty frowned upon / criticized by the mainstream audience. I'm not into /m tickling, but it was nice to watch an actual tickle session scene of that caliber play out on a popular TV show. However, a lot of people seemed to be triggered/upset by it, making all different types of claims about sexual assault, extremely inappropriate and unnecessary scene for the director to film, uncomfortable and hard to watch, etc. General consensus was that it crossed the line and is one of the most inappropriate scenes in the Boys to date. I guess I'm a little surprised at the amount of backlash the scene has received given the nature of the Boys and how graphic some of their scenes and actions get. Though, I guess I'm not really that surprised in the end. Seems like a typical response by non-fetishists regarding bare feet and tickling scenes.

The scene definitely seems to fit in with the comics as I believe something similar (not tickling) happened to Hughie in the comics. I don't necessarily wish the scene were Neuman, Starlight, or the Girl, but it would have been nice to see them tickled at one point or another in the show.

 

[LeatherRebell]

Like, seriously go type in 'tickle scenes' on Youtube and it's almost entirely /m content.

Eh? I don't know if it's different by region or if it's randomized a bit but I just did this, and in an incognito tab where I wasn't signed into YouTube so it wasn't tailored to my actual viewing habits, and the first like 15 results were all scenes where the it was a woman being tickled. The first hint of male tickling I came across was actually in a video where there were two women and one man being tickled. Did you conduct this experiment yourself or were just assuming?

The more this conversation the more I think the disparity is overblown. It would be impossible to determine if there are more male or female mainstream tickle scenes, but if you search for them on YouTube or in the Mainstream section here, it seems pretty even. I think the reason why this conversation has kicked off so much is because there have been two instances of a very specific type of tickle scene in the last little while.

Both The Boys and the new Batman show have had extended scenes where a man was tickle tortured on his feet. And yes, there are very few female equivalents of that in Western mainstream media (Asian media is a different story of course but that's not what people are debating). But that's just one type of scene, and it's such a bizarre scenario for the general audience that there needs to be a very good reason for it to happen in a show or movie.

And this kind of male-focused foot tickle torture scene isn't actually common at all, it's just that there have been two recently and it's made everyone feel like it's infinitely more common than female scenes of the same kind, when in reality, it's not that much more common at all.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

You guys only want to see women being tickled? Then buy some /F clips, problem solved! 🙂

 

[C4urself85]

You guys only want to see women being tickled? Then buy some /F clips, problem solved! 🙂

How does buying /F clips solve the "problem" of people wanting to see more /F in mainstream media?

Seems natural for people who like /F to want to see their preferred gender, no? Maybe not realistic, but understandable at least.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

How does buying /F clips solve the "problem" of people wanting to see more /F in mainstream media?

Seems natural for people who like /F to want to see their preferred gender, no? Maybe not realistic, but understandable at least.

Well, as I said, mainstream scenes are written with a vanilla audience in mind. I don’t imagine it would be very effective if a bunch of straight male tickle kinksters wrote in a bunch of complaints to the writers about not enough females being tickled. In my opinion there are already plenty of mainstream /F tickle scenes but even more so, there’s a fuckton of /F tickle fetish content out there. So like, just watch that?

 

[C4urself85]

Well, as I said, mainstream scenes are written with a vanilla audience in mind. I don’t imagine it would be very effective if a bunch of straight male tickle kinksters wrote in a bunch of complaints to the writers about not enough females being tickled. In my opinion there are already plenty of mainstream /F tickle scenes but even more so, there’s a fuckton of /F tickle fetish content out there. So like, just watch that?

I didn't say it was realistic, I said it was natural to want to see it. I think it's ok to voice that desire. I don't see how there being a fuckton of /F of tickle fetish material satisfies the fantasy of wanting to see female celebrities tickled.

I'm simply pointing out the two things are different categories and it's ok to say you wish one type of material was more prevalent.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I didn't say it was realistic, I said it was natural to want to see it. I think it's ok to voice that desire. I don't see how there being a fuckton of /F of tickle fetish material satisfies the fantasy of wanting to see female celebrities tickled.

I'm simply pointing out the two things are different categories and it's ok to say you wish one type of material was more prevalent.

The main problem I think is that people who comment things like “why couldn’t SHE be tickled instead?!” literally every single time a male character gets tickled are obnoxious and tiring. There’s a difference between wishing or fantasising, and just being an obnoxious entitled pest.

 

[C4urself85]

The main problem I think is that people who comment things like “why couldn’t SHE be tickled instead?!” literally every single time a male character gets tickled are obnoxious and tiring. There’s a difference between wishing or fantasising, and just being an obnoxious entitled pest.

Agreed. Most are probably better served to just not say anything at all and move on if they don't have anything constructive to add.

 

[BlueLine7045]

You guys only want to see women being tickled? Then buy some /F clips, problem solved! 🙂

If you're in them, definitely. Top quality model!

 

[Hiphophooray2]

If you want to view some extremely hardcore /f pretty much anything, check out the Asian Market. I've seen Rooster's treat their least favorite hen better...

 

[ManInDistress]

As someone who enjoys male tickling, I've never taken any such comments personally. I think it's someone relaying their dissatisfaction with something that in the grand scheme of things, isn't very salient even to them. They were given X when they would have much rather had Y. Sometimes a person just wants to vent their frustrations with like minded people, and the internet has become an ideal place for such things.

I don't think there is any homophobic intent behind such comments. If there were, I still wouldn't pay it any mind since I'm fine with someone hating what I like or even hating me in particular. As long as your distain ends with cantankerous comments online and you aren't harming anyone, I'll continue to be unperturbed.

 

[BlueLine7045]

I agree with what Jezebel and the others are saying though. I am personally not into /m tickling myself, but if certain people on this forum are actively targeting /m mainstream media posts and complaining about how it was a male instead of a female, it can create an uncomfortable environment for those who are into /m, whether that is the desired intent or not. Making the occasional comment here or there is one thing... "Man I would have loved to see Starlight tickled...", but every single post is annoying.

This community is supposed to be a safe and open space for everyone into tickling. We just have to be mindful. No offense to anyone, not targeting anyone. I'm just saying we need to be mindful of each other.