I'm going to echo what Myriads said, you have not really posted much here. You can only get out of this place what you are willing to put in. How is anyone supposed to know you are "a cool dude" if we've never seen much from you in discussions? Second, friendship isn't just a one-way street, you could also be reaching out to people as well, sending messages or friend requests, and trying to get to know people (although it would still help if you participated more in discussions, I personally get a sense of who someone is by the things they post, to see if we would click beyond just sharing this kink). I know this is a pretty basic statement, but I'm sure you realize you do have to be a friend to make friends, or at least try to be friendly. Posting about how you don't have any incoming friend requests or messages is not necessarily going to result in you suddenly receiving incoming friendships. Posting in general may not do it either, and in that case, I suggest you take a look at the General Gatherings section to find a local event or munch to attend. I've made a lot of great friends from attending a few events.
