Last year, there was a Southern Gathering during Mardi Gras, in New Orleans. There've been two private gatherings in Memphis. All the women there are known to be both 'ler and 'lee. Met 'em. Nice folks. Fine hosts. I highly encourage you to meet 'em and attend.
How?
Well, that's the trick. I was brought out there 'cause I socialized with some of the fine folks hosting it, and 'cause some of my attendees were also going, and mentioned that I was "okay" as far as these events.
Meet people. Make the effort to meet others, socially. Not to find a lover. Not to seek a wife. Not for sex. Socialize. Picture it's like "starting over", and getting to know folks in school before tryin' t'date that one that lights ya up.
Meet folks. Show for a NEST in Philly, or visit a MidWest NEST in Columbus. Flights are now cheap, and a cheap motel and rent-a-car is easy enough. It's possible to come out here, and flop at one of the host's houses sometimes. Some folks meet friends online, and flop with them.
The whole point, though, is that you can step out once, anywhere in the country, the moment you can afford a cheap flight and a reasonable flop. Waiting until the previous 49 states start an event is not a way to go, brother. Find an existing event somewhere in the country, and attend. Make friends. Meet a bunch of folks. Odds are, you may actually find an interest beyond friendship. Some folks already have.
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