Get your partner into tickling (guaranteed results, read it, try it, you'll see...)
First off, please reply to this post with your thoughts on this piece. Hopefully the mod's will listen and post it on the main page because of how incredibly beneficial this document could be to the tickling community. Let them know what you think.
I felt that this should have it's own thread (just so it would be read by more people), so I'm replying to cloudgazer2k via a new post..
First keep in mind that this is all coming from my own mind and going straight to the keyboard (meaning this is a first draft, not something I've had, I know this is going to be a mite bit long-winded 😉 ). These are my own thoughts, but, of course, that doesn't mean they will come out even remotely coherent or 100% accurate. This is basically my disclaimer. Yes, this method can work, and it has, does, and works well if you are careful, patient, and understands your friend/lover. There *is* a certain psychology involved. No, psychology is not a prerequisite to this course 😉 (Whew). Yes, I will be replying to replies to this post and answering any questions about it for the next 10 years or so. Just keep it in the thread so it benefits everyone.
Some parts of this will sound like I'm preaching; I'm not. Look for those momenhts, I'm building up to a point that I'm making, that is all. I hope at least one person finds this information helpful or at least informative. So without further ado:
This may be blunt and undesirable as an introduction to one of many possible answers to our age-old question about getting others into tickling, or about how to tell others about the fact that we enjoy tickling as anyone does their sexual fetish(es), without our throats climbing up into our eyes and hiding. But as Myriads said, honesty is the best policy, hell, in any situation. Just tell the truth, how hard is that? If you don't, ask yourself why you are lying and how many times can you remember telling a lie to someone (or just that person) recently. Now ask yourself if you'd consider someone who has lied to you in the same manner a good person. If the answer is no, you need to get to know yourself better. And that is as easy as being truthful with everyone. If I don't like someone, and they ask if I don't, yea I'm going to tell them that. It might hurt them, but at least I didn't lie to them and alter part of their reality.
Now on to the whole point here regarding tickling:
Lying is what gets you in trouble the most. If you have a relationship with someone and you opt out of telling them that you're into tickling (meaning you don't tell them), what is that? Honesty? In this case it fortunately doesn't make you a bad person per se, but you are essentially hiding from them something about you that is a large part of your life and your personality. They don't fully know you because of that fear of talking to them about it. The relationship is always stronger when couples know each other as much as they possibly can. If they still care about each other as much as or more than they did before they knew all that THAT is love. Those two could very well be together forever.
This method will work for both guys and girls, Guys and Girls. Now listen...
Get to know a person "as usual" and if you really like them, tickle them on the feet or ribs at some opportune moment, gently mind you. Always be very gentle and not intimidating about it at first. When they squirm, giggle, pull back, etc, just tell them something to the affect of "I like tickling you" 🙂 or "You're so fun to tickle". 🙂 I've used that elementary strategy about 4 times and it has yet to fail. If the person really likes you back, they will accept the idea of your enjoyment of tickling without being judgmental. If they do not seem cool with it and not necessarily because they hate being tickled, then perhaps you'd better look hard at that person and decide what they want from you, since they seem unwilling to accept something that you enjoy. Their asking us to just not tickle them is like asking a baby not to dirty their diapers. It's instinct; it's going to happen.
If they do seem like they just aren't down, ask them about it innocently; try to make a normal conversation out of it. Ask what the reason is for their negative answer. Watch their expression closely and listen to what they have to say. If they don't care for you enough that they cannot deal with it (this is excluding those who just can't bear the sensation of tickling: the REALLY ticklish people), then perhaps you should try to find someone who will care about you in return more deeply than this person obviously does(n't).
This technique will work regarding any fetish, secret, hobby you may have, sport you play, music you like, TV show you watch, the fact that you are at the computer quite often, anything. If you think about it (and you shouldn't have to think hard, just read this again, seriously), it makes perfect sense. All you need to do in any situation where a confrontation of some form or another is potentially imminent, just think about how the human mind works and what you might do or how you might react if you were in their shoes, having the interests that they have (and that they might not have) and the personality they have as far as how well you know them. You should be able to talk about/work through anything that comes your way, good or bad, tickling related or not, if you both truly care for one another.
My current girlfriend was JNEVER into tickling before she met me ten point five months ago. She's 25. I'm 22. I didn't tickle her at all at first; I wanted to see what kind of person she was first, before I tried anything like tickling her. I may have decided I didn't like her anyway. In which case I would have tickled her to death while I still had the chance 😉
When I did, I was very subtle, very gentle. She twitched her foot and pulled it away, I laughed and let it go until the next day, when I did it again. This time I told her that she's cute when she squirms like that. I continued doing things like that periodically over the next couple weeks, and then she asked about it. It took me about fifteen minutes of silence and beating around the bush, but I finally worked up the nerve to tell her. Obviously, she cared about me a lot. I asked her, "Do you think I'm weird?" She said no without hesitation. Now, this tells me something...
I would never say something about someone that was not completely true. I would never talk up my girlfriend for the sake of talking them up. But my GF is the most brutally honest people I have ever met, and she has never once lied to me. She offers to let me listen to her cell phone messages, tells me what her plans are, calls me when she knows she's going to be later than expected, and all this within days of the first time we exchanged 'I love you's. People who are not into tickling as we are do not immediately look at it as a fetish like face peeing or (you get the point). Tickling to those people is just something people do. Everyone "else" grew up thinking tickling is just a way to get someone to laugh, something you do occasionally because it can be fun. For us to tell them we enjoy tickling to the utmost extremity tells them we enjoy tickling. That's it, so what's weird about that? Nothing. And at least 75% of the people you meet will react the same way if you play your cards carefully as I did. That metric is hopefully grossly underestimated; let's hope so. 🙂 You have to feel a person out first before you can tell them things like this.
Tell them something else weird about you (anything) that is unrelated to tickling sometime after you think the other person should care about you enough not to think any less of you for something that trivial (compare it to other fetishes, you tell me). As soon as you tell them watch their expression change carefully and listen hard to what they have to say. You can tell immediately of there will be any tickling in the relationship right then and there. Of course you can always, if you fail once, let it go and try again after you get a little or a lot closer to one another. The closer you are to a person who isn't into tickling, the better chance you have of getting a positive response.
At this point in the relationship, she and I are happily in love, moving in together in a week (really nice place, has everything except a self-cleaning bathroom 😉.. I'm excited to move in with her). Absolutely excited. Let me explain why. My approaching the tickling issue in the manner that I did caused her to adapt to it over time, and now she enjoys it almost as much as I do. We’ve already handcuffed each other, sometimes we'll be sitting on the couch and she'll just lay her bare feet (always red or earth tone purple nail polish) in my lap. And she has ADORABLE feet which is just.. Bonus. 🙂
She wants to make tickling a part of our love/sex routine as much as I do at this point...and she was never into it before at all. Good things come to those who wait, I suppose 😉
I didn't push the tickling matter at all when we were still a young couple. That approach will always turn out sour. Shortly after we fell in love, I told her that I'd love to tie her up and tickle her sometime, and actually after 2 months of the relationship before we were even in love she told me that she really enjoys tickling me.
I may have gotten lucky, but there are a lot of people out there who are more open minded than you think. It's all about the way you approach it. And most importantly, always be truthful. Sometimes it hurts, but the healthiest relationships have stemmed from a healthy level of pure honesty. That's the only way people can really get to know one another, their likes and dislikes, and, most importantly, get them into tickling with a sprinkle of patience and a pair of handcuffs 😉
Hope that helps...
Please help me (and us: The TMF Community) turn this into a veritable feast of replies, ideas, concerns and opinions so as to help out everyone who has ever asked the very questions that this post has attempted to answer. Thanks for reading the whole thing. You rock.
If I offended anyone at any point throughout this, I apologize. My intent is not to offend, but to inform without holding any information or details (though I may have missed a few here and there).
My brain is now officially cooked. I need a milkshake 😛
Hope everyone has a great weekend, talk to you all again soon!
First off, please reply to this post with your thoughts on this piece. Hopefully the mod's will listen and post it on the main page because of how incredibly beneficial this document could be to the tickling community. Let them know what you think.
I felt that this should have it's own thread (just so it would be read by more people), so I'm replying to cloudgazer2k via a new post..
First keep in mind that this is all coming from my own mind and going straight to the keyboard (meaning this is a first draft, not something I've had, I know this is going to be a mite bit long-winded 😉 ). These are my own thoughts, but, of course, that doesn't mean they will come out even remotely coherent or 100% accurate. This is basically my disclaimer. Yes, this method can work, and it has, does, and works well if you are careful, patient, and understands your friend/lover. There *is* a certain psychology involved. No, psychology is not a prerequisite to this course 😉 (Whew). Yes, I will be replying to replies to this post and answering any questions about it for the next 10 years or so. Just keep it in the thread so it benefits everyone.
Some parts of this will sound like I'm preaching; I'm not. Look for those momenhts, I'm building up to a point that I'm making, that is all. I hope at least one person finds this information helpful or at least informative. So without further ado:
This may be blunt and undesirable as an introduction to one of many possible answers to our age-old question about getting others into tickling, or about how to tell others about the fact that we enjoy tickling as anyone does their sexual fetish(es), without our throats climbing up into our eyes and hiding. But as Myriads said, honesty is the best policy, hell, in any situation. Just tell the truth, how hard is that? If you don't, ask yourself why you are lying and how many times can you remember telling a lie to someone (or just that person) recently. Now ask yourself if you'd consider someone who has lied to you in the same manner a good person. If the answer is no, you need to get to know yourself better. And that is as easy as being truthful with everyone. If I don't like someone, and they ask if I don't, yea I'm going to tell them that. It might hurt them, but at least I didn't lie to them and alter part of their reality.
Now on to the whole point here regarding tickling:
Lying is what gets you in trouble the most. If you have a relationship with someone and you opt out of telling them that you're into tickling (meaning you don't tell them), what is that? Honesty? In this case it fortunately doesn't make you a bad person per se, but you are essentially hiding from them something about you that is a large part of your life and your personality. They don't fully know you because of that fear of talking to them about it. The relationship is always stronger when couples know each other as much as they possibly can. If they still care about each other as much as or more than they did before they knew all that THAT is love. Those two could very well be together forever.
This method will work for both guys and girls, Guys and Girls. Now listen...
Get to know a person "as usual" and if you really like them, tickle them on the feet or ribs at some opportune moment, gently mind you. Always be very gentle and not intimidating about it at first. When they squirm, giggle, pull back, etc, just tell them something to the affect of "I like tickling you" 🙂 or "You're so fun to tickle". 🙂 I've used that elementary strategy about 4 times and it has yet to fail. If the person really likes you back, they will accept the idea of your enjoyment of tickling without being judgmental. If they do not seem cool with it and not necessarily because they hate being tickled, then perhaps you'd better look hard at that person and decide what they want from you, since they seem unwilling to accept something that you enjoy. Their asking us to just not tickle them is like asking a baby not to dirty their diapers. It's instinct; it's going to happen.
If they do seem like they just aren't down, ask them about it innocently; try to make a normal conversation out of it. Ask what the reason is for their negative answer. Watch their expression closely and listen to what they have to say. If they don't care for you enough that they cannot deal with it (this is excluding those who just can't bear the sensation of tickling: the REALLY ticklish people), then perhaps you should try to find someone who will care about you in return more deeply than this person obviously does(n't).
This technique will work regarding any fetish, secret, hobby you may have, sport you play, music you like, TV show you watch, the fact that you are at the computer quite often, anything. If you think about it (and you shouldn't have to think hard, just read this again, seriously), it makes perfect sense. All you need to do in any situation where a confrontation of some form or another is potentially imminent, just think about how the human mind works and what you might do or how you might react if you were in their shoes, having the interests that they have (and that they might not have) and the personality they have as far as how well you know them. You should be able to talk about/work through anything that comes your way, good or bad, tickling related or not, if you both truly care for one another.
My current girlfriend was JNEVER into tickling before she met me ten point five months ago. She's 25. I'm 22. I didn't tickle her at all at first; I wanted to see what kind of person she was first, before I tried anything like tickling her. I may have decided I didn't like her anyway. In which case I would have tickled her to death while I still had the chance 😉
When I did, I was very subtle, very gentle. She twitched her foot and pulled it away, I laughed and let it go until the next day, when I did it again. This time I told her that she's cute when she squirms like that. I continued doing things like that periodically over the next couple weeks, and then she asked about it. It took me about fifteen minutes of silence and beating around the bush, but I finally worked up the nerve to tell her. Obviously, she cared about me a lot. I asked her, "Do you think I'm weird?" She said no without hesitation. Now, this tells me something...
I would never say something about someone that was not completely true. I would never talk up my girlfriend for the sake of talking them up. But my GF is the most brutally honest people I have ever met, and she has never once lied to me. She offers to let me listen to her cell phone messages, tells me what her plans are, calls me when she knows she's going to be later than expected, and all this within days of the first time we exchanged 'I love you's. People who are not into tickling as we are do not immediately look at it as a fetish like face peeing or (you get the point). Tickling to those people is just something people do. Everyone "else" grew up thinking tickling is just a way to get someone to laugh, something you do occasionally because it can be fun. For us to tell them we enjoy tickling to the utmost extremity tells them we enjoy tickling. That's it, so what's weird about that? Nothing. And at least 75% of the people you meet will react the same way if you play your cards carefully as I did. That metric is hopefully grossly underestimated; let's hope so. 🙂 You have to feel a person out first before you can tell them things like this.
Tell them something else weird about you (anything) that is unrelated to tickling sometime after you think the other person should care about you enough not to think any less of you for something that trivial (compare it to other fetishes, you tell me). As soon as you tell them watch their expression change carefully and listen hard to what they have to say. You can tell immediately of there will be any tickling in the relationship right then and there. Of course you can always, if you fail once, let it go and try again after you get a little or a lot closer to one another. The closer you are to a person who isn't into tickling, the better chance you have of getting a positive response.
At this point in the relationship, she and I are happily in love, moving in together in a week (really nice place, has everything except a self-cleaning bathroom 😉.. I'm excited to move in with her). Absolutely excited. Let me explain why. My approaching the tickling issue in the manner that I did caused her to adapt to it over time, and now she enjoys it almost as much as I do. We’ve already handcuffed each other, sometimes we'll be sitting on the couch and she'll just lay her bare feet (always red or earth tone purple nail polish) in my lap. And she has ADORABLE feet which is just.. Bonus. 🙂
She wants to make tickling a part of our love/sex routine as much as I do at this point...and she was never into it before at all. Good things come to those who wait, I suppose 😉
I didn't push the tickling matter at all when we were still a young couple. That approach will always turn out sour. Shortly after we fell in love, I told her that I'd love to tie her up and tickle her sometime, and actually after 2 months of the relationship before we were even in love she told me that she really enjoys tickling me.
I may have gotten lucky, but there are a lot of people out there who are more open minded than you think. It's all about the way you approach it. And most importantly, always be truthful. Sometimes it hurts, but the healthiest relationships have stemmed from a healthy level of pure honesty. That's the only way people can really get to know one another, their likes and dislikes, and, most importantly, get them into tickling with a sprinkle of patience and a pair of handcuffs 😉
Hope that helps...
Please help me (and us: The TMF Community) turn this into a veritable feast of replies, ideas, concerns and opinions so as to help out everyone who has ever asked the very questions that this post has attempted to answer. Thanks for reading the whole thing. You rock.
If I offended anyone at any point throughout this, I apologize. My intent is not to offend, but to inform without holding any information or details (though I may have missed a few here and there).
My brain is now officially cooked. I need a milkshake 😛
Hope everyone has a great weekend, talk to you all again soon!
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