Girl trouble. Help!

[jfna]

I thought that while I have the chance, I could post my problem. (Maybe someone with more experience could help me out!)
Iv been seeing someone for a while. She is quite pretty and very nice person. But she is really boring, always busy, doesn't even like me that much and hates it that I want to tickle her (rarely I tickle her!) So I'm quite miserable at moment. Anyways, I mentioned in a previous post that a while back I broke up with someone because of my tickle fetish. I bumped into her the other day and she was as sweet as ever. We chatted for a bit and I think she still likes me. I think I still like her but I think she would still want me to get rid of my fetish. I'm real confused and miserable. I'm unsure if I should go back to the girl I broke up with, met someone else or stick with the girl I have now. But its REAL difficult to meet people my age who are open/happy to my fetish. It's a part of my life but not a hardcore obsession. I dont want to get rid of it.

Can anyone help please?

 

[Cbarton]

(1) girlfriend #1 was booted because she didn;t like the tickle thing. Why go back? DON'T BOOMERANG EX'S....Right now you're remembering the old 'warm fuzzies' and ignoring why you broke up in the first place

(2) What made #2 interesting in the first place? Revisit what attracted you to her in the first place, and be honest with yourself if it is what was really there or what you HOPED was there....and what makes her boring now? Be honest with yourself on this...

(3) how old are you? unless your close to my range..it can;t be that hard....PM me...

 

[jfna]

1) Yeah your right. I'm not attracted to her anymmore.
2) She just has a borin personality (i.e. talks bout herself constantly), honestly I think I just went out with her cause I was depressed after previous break-up. We discussed it and she felt same way (she broke up with her bf too.)
3) I'm in my early twenties. I don't do well in relationships. Never have. I don't have parents/siblings either so I don't really have anyone close 2 talk bout it. Yea, I have to grow up. Cheers for the advice. I think I'll stay away from both.

Bye!

 

[masterandticklee]

I'm in my early 20's as well..and when it comes to staying with women.....I hang out for as long as i'm having fun. If she is boring now...do you really think that somehow tommorow or a year from now shes suddenly going to have something interesting to talk about? Probobly not. As for the ex...they are always ex's for a reason.The 2 of you will always like each other, but you already know the end result of being exclusive to her...I usually need a friend to remind of why she and I are no longer together. Whenever you run into an ex the two of you are going to be really nice to each other....you guys were best friends at on point so don't look to deep into it. Get out and meet some new girls. It's funny...it's so much easier to meet new women whenever you have another one on speed dial already...funny paradox...use that to your advantage.
GQguy

 

[cpr1815]

Hmmm, if your current girlfriend is boring and, as you say, she doesn't seem to be into you so much, I'd probably discontinue seeing her as a favor to each other. After you've broken up with her, you could always call up your ex and chit chat with her and ask her out for dinner. Test the waters to see if she has changed her mind about your fetish. If not, and you don't want to put a damper on tickling, then bear in mind that the age-old saying "There's plenty of fish out in the sea" is true. You'll just have to keep dating until you find the right woman for you who is also fine with your fetish!

 

[Kalamos]

Occr*ppit... I'm not in my early 20's anymore...!

...

* Wanders somewhere older *

😉

 

[Betchass1]

I thought that while I have the chance, I could post my problem. (Maybe someone with more experience could help me out!)
Iv been seeing someone for a while. She is quite pretty and very nice person. But she is really boring, always busy, doesn't even like me that much and hates it that I want to tickle her (rarely I tickle her!) So I'm quite miserable at moment. Anyways, I mentioned in a previous post that a while back I broke up with someone because of my tickle fetish. I bumped into her the other day and she was as sweet as ever. We chatted for a bit and I think she still likes me. I think I still like her but I think she would still want me to get rid of my fetish. I'm real confused and miserable. I'm unsure if I should go back to the girl I broke up with, met someone else or stick with the girl I have now. But its REAL difficult to meet people my age who are open/happy to my fetish. It's a part of my life but not a hardcore obsession. I dont want to get rid of it.

Can anyone help please?

I don't know about the former girlfriend, I've known that to work out for people. Also, if she knows about your desire to tickle, who knows. She might be willing to work it in.
But the one you're with now is a classic case. What you had in common to start with was that you were both feeling heartbroken. So in a way you associate that with each other. Couples who are both into bowling think about bowling when they're together. Couples who are both into suffering will do that together. It's going to be the focal point.

There are advantages to the finding someone new route. The more attempts you make to have relationships, the more comfortable you will get with some of the rituals, and just with talking to women in general. Far more effective if it's not the same woman again.

 

[a1532b]

Relationships are all about having fun. There is no right or wrong, just what feels good. Instead of looking at it as a win-loose situation, think about what will make you the happiest. Personally, I don't think either one sounds like a very good prospect. You said yourself that you are miserable with the woman you are with right now and that you don't think she likes you very much. That is definitly one you should stay away from. Just because she is pretty doesn't mean that you have to stick with her. Your other girl on the other hand, well she wants you to change something that you can't. You can't drop your tickling fetish and she should know that. Before you go out with her again talk about it. Let her know that this is how you are and that is how it is. If she can't accept that, then find someone else. You sound like a pretty nice/sane guy, so I'm sure it's not going to be too much work. Just remember, do what will make you happy! 😀

 

[chickles_:)]

Hiya jfna! :happy:
Sorry to hear about your plight.
I think you have received some sound advice in terms of moving forward here.
from what you've said i think a couple of things come clear to me.

1) you need to be with someone who will at least accept your tickle-fetish; it is a 'non-negotiable' for you in terms of who you are.
--whatever happens you have to go with who you are inside.
2) unless there has been some change in ex-gf you're going to end up with the same unhappiness in dating her.

3) and maybe this is most important. Your current gf is not boring! :weird: I know, who am i to say this,,,😱 But think about it. I doubt she finds herself boring. 😉 The real truth is that you are bored with her.

My point really is that you say you don't have so many friends and you struggle with relationships.... Maybe that's a clue for you. Perhaps what you really need is to spend some time working on those relationship skills. It will help you find and maintain friends AND, when the right person comes along, will help you in your romance.

Anyway, think about this and see if it makes sense to you. 🙂

Whatever happens, we like you and you're family here! *huggs*

Good luck and many blessings,

 

[jfna]

Wow! You guys have really helped me think about things. I'm not seeing anyone now but I now have a vision to what I should be thinking about when meeting new people. "Chickles"- I do have friends but we are all 2 busy 2 hangout because of the professions we do, lol. Thanks very much xxx. And really a lot of thanks to everyone who actually replied to this and gave me really good advice! I love u all! haha. Bye!

 

[chickles_:)]

..."Chickles"- I do have friends but we are all 2 busy 2 hangout because of the professions we do, lol. Thanks very much xxx. And really a lot of thanks to everyone who actually replied to this and gave me really good advice! I love u all! haha. Bye!

Hiya jfna!! :happy:
So glad we could all help. You're totally worth it!! 😀

Sorry if i sounded like i didn't think you had any friends.:redface: I SO know what you mean about being too busy to stay really connected. Life can really put a cramp in our relationships!! :sharp_tee

Anyway, sounds like you're on the right track, jfna! Go for it! 🙂

Many blessings,

 

[a1532b]

Chickles is such a nice person. 😛

 

[chickles_:)]

Chickles is such a nice person. 😛

Awww 😱😱😱
a1532b, That is so sweet of you!! *kisses*
You make my day :happy: XXOO

Hope you're having a great week!! :up_arrow::up_arrow:

Many blessings,

 

[Sockstickler]

Chickles is such a nice person. 😛

Seconded and quoted for truth 😀

 

[MacD]

my thoughts

Well I I seem not to have much experience when I look at my relations and how they ended... But I see "But she is really boring, always busy, doesn't even like me that much".
Maybe you want to read that phrase again.

My ex thought we could disguise ourselves, change our needs and expectations and play some kind of theatre so we would fit together. Of course we could NOT. Instead we spoiled our relation (and our mental state too, btw) and we missed the chance to keep just good friends.

Maybe you still have this chance...

(sorry for my english, in case it should be expressed strangely)

 

[chickles_:)]

Seconded and quoted for truth 😀

EEEEEEK!!😱 Socks, now you're making me blush, hon! 😱😱
But you can tickle my toes anytime...:tounge: You are such a sweetie! *kisses*

Have a great week, Socks!! XXOO

JFNA, just remember, when we're with someone who enjoys or at least accepts our fetish we are happier🙂

Many blessings,

 

[Sockstickler]

EEEEEEK!!😱 Socks, now you're making me blush, hon! 😱😱
But you can tickle my toes anytime...:tounge: You are such a sweetie! *kisses*

Have a great week, Socks!! XXOO

What can I say? It's a gift 😎 Two eeks, eh? Nice to know I'm not losing my touch haha.
My thanks for the invite, milady. If I'm ever in the area, I shall definitely take you up on it 😀
And you have a great week too Chickles!

 

[a1532b]

Can I help? I mean, if you get her toes, somebody has to take the upperbody. I will take the heavy burden of it if no one else wants to... 😀

Seriously though chickles, how can you be so nice all the time? i don't think I've ever seen you make a post that isn't making someone feel good about themselves. You are always so sugary and upbeat that your posts are like candy...Not that that's a bad thing, though! 😀

 

[chickles_:)]

Can I help? I mean, if you get her toes, somebody has to take the upperbody. I will take the heavy burden of it if no one else wants to... 😀

GYAAAAAHH! :shocked::shocked: Two against me?? :wooha: Come on you guys! That's SO not fair!!😎

You have to invite jfna! After all it's his thread.:tounge:

Seriously though chickles, how can you be so nice all the time? i don't think I've ever seen you make a post that isn't making someone feel good about themselves. You are always so sugary and upbeat that your posts are like candy...Not that that's a bad thing, though! 😀

OMG!😱😱😱 a1532b,:laughing: if you make me blush any more my head will explode. :wooha: LOL
I only wish i could be nice all the time. But don't worry, I can assure you, i'm just a regular girl,,, and believe me, at least once a month i can be a real be-witch :sharp_tee :tounge:
But thank you so much for saying that, a1532b. It makes me fuzzy all over.😀 I really hope my posts do uplift people because I truly believe everyone here deserves it.😀😀

 

[Sockstickler]

GYAAAAAHH! :shocked::shocked: Two against me?? :wooha: Come on you guys! That's SO not fair!!😎

You have to invite jfna! After all it's his thread.:tounge:



OMG!😱😱😱 a1532b,:laughing: if you make me blush any more my head will explode. :wooha: LOL
I only wish i could be nice all the time. But don't worry, I can assure you, i'm just a regular girl,,, and believe me, at least once a month i can be a real be-witch :sharp_tee :tounge:
But thank you so much for saying that, a1532b. It makes me fuzzy all over.😀 I really hope my posts do uplift people because I truly believe everyone here deserves it.😀😀

Yeah, I'm all for that. It's his thread, so he should have a chance too 😎
Your posts are really uplifting, Chickles. You have a genuine talent for making someone feel good or feel better, and that's a real gift 🙂

 

[a1532b]

Haha chickles. I guess I could give up my spot to let jfna in. I mean, you have 2 sides, after all. 😀 But in all honesty, you are truely one of the nicest people here. You and sockstickler. And ness...and vlad..hds..sometimes..cheshire...cellardweller...Aww heck, everyone on this list is awesome. http://www.tickletheater.com/memberlist.php?

Is it alright if I watch when your head explodes? Love your screen name, btw. ^^

 

[chickles_:)]

Haha chickles. I guess I could give up my spot to let jfna in. I mean, you have 2 sides, after all. 😀 But in all honesty, you are truely one of the nicest people here. You and sockstickler. And ness...and vlad..hds..sometimes..cheshire...cellardweller...Aww heck, everyone on this list is awesome. http://www.tickletheater.com/memberlist.php?

Is it alright if I watch when your head explodes? Love your screen name, btw. ^^

Hiya a1532b! :happy:
What?? Give up your spot?? -- Say it isn't so! 😎
All i meant was you'd have to include jfna and make it 3 against me - you know, just to be fair😛

and i totally agree with you on the list! I'd of course add Mistress Valerie and so many others who add sugar and spice to our community here! 😍

Many blessings to everyone.

P.S., jfna! Look at that, bet you never expected to birth such a 'feel good' conversation! 😀

 

[-Kunoke-]

I think MY head's going to explode with all this love and happiness. Yikes. 😛

I'll have to agree, you always pop in and brighten up any thread, Chickles. Encouraging posts and smiles for everyone seem to be your trademark. And then when someone compliments it you go and do it again! 😛

As for the girl trouble...

I can relate to that. 😛 I've had minor problems with the same thing that were recently resolved. I can't say much besides what everyone else has said...so I'll just wish you good luck and leave it at that. 😉 Hope everything turns out alright for you.

 

[a1532b]

Kunoke also rocks. He is awesome, even though his avatar reminds me of "saw"...😀

 

[-Kunoke-]

Kunoke also rocks. He is awesome, even though his avatar reminds me of "saw"...😀

Well thanks. 😀 My avatar reminds you of Saw? 😛 I actually have a template for a new sig set up in photoshop right now...maybe I'll change my avatar with it.