Girlfriend or girl you're dating accept fetish?

[mcmunagle1]

This girl I'm dating admitted to being freaked out by foot fetish people. ...and here I'm thinking awesome, I like feet, armpits, bondage and tickling. But I would never just blurt out and start listing my fetishes.

I realized if someone can't accept all that and is totally weird-ed out by it then it just won't work out, not to be superficial or anything but I don't want to suppress it. Fetish is almost a bad word with some people, I think that's closed minded. Its hard enough meeting girls let alone girls that would be ok with foot fetishes and tickling and bondage.

Anyones fetish ever kind of stopped a relationship or dating or anything?

 

[LurkLurkLurk]

It has stopped a relationship from forming.

If it's something you're into, it would make sense to explore whether it's an option before dating. E.g., as you're getting to know someone and opportunity presents itself, try sneaking in a tickle. If they consistently react aversely or not at all, you can write them off as not being relationship material. This lets you move on without wasting time investing in something that will leave both parties miserable.

 

[likeasong1]

Don't sneak it in. That's bad advice. Don't bring it up until it becomes necessary. Sexuality in a relationship is not early-on information you should be gathering. Get to know her better for her personality first. You may find something else there that you really find unappealing. Or something else about you that she may not want in a boyfriend. If and when things start getting physical-emotional, then you will have to eventually discuss it. It's scary bringing it up, but hopefully by the time you get there, you'll both be serious enough about the relationship to handle it maturely, make or break. And hopefully being with someone who is into feet will help fade the jade of her opinion about foot fetishists, even if foot fetishism still weirds her out a bit.

 

[dentrag1231]

I say treat it the same way you would treat the subject of sex. Don't ask about it on the first date, but mention it before things get too serious, and make sure you have their full attention when you tell them.

 

[dalekfire]

I'm in agreement with dentrag's suggestion. Also, if things are going well otherwise, then I'd go with it until you have a chance to talk with her about it - not give up hope that she's solidly close-minded about it if she just so happens to mention that she's freaked out by fetishes. Given the time to thoroughly discuss the topic can reveal many things about her (and your) character to each other, as well as give you a better gauge on how the relationship might work out. But you'd never know unless you give it a chance, and that means, try not to judge until you have that opportunity to talk.

My fiance had at first told me that she hated her feet, and hated feet in general, about nine months into our relationship; at that point, I still haven't told her about my fetishes at that time. She didn't really give a second thought to taking care of her feet too well, and certainly didn't think about how others would have an opinion on it. A few months after that revelation is when I explained my fetishes to her. From then, she made a personal decision to start taking better care of her feet - not because I asked her to, because I didn't, but because she felt that it was important to me. Gradually, her opinion of her own feet started to change, and she actually started to rather enjoy my attraction to them. It's to the point now that she loves getting foot massages, compliments, tickles and foot-worship - and they do play a pretty big role in our relationship now.

So, although my love interest at the time blatantly said that something disgusted her, by being honest myself about my fetishes, that viewpoint changed for her, and worked out in the end - and I didn't even have to ask her; she herself felt it important and did the necessary steps. Point is, I gave it a chance for it to work out.

 

[dragondrummer47]

I am hugely, hugely lucky. My ex allowed me to tickle her feet, and accepted it. ALL my other ex's did not really like it or allow me to do it. Never split up with me, but nothing ever really happened. My current girlfriend, not only allows me to do it, but asked what my sexual fantasy would be... I told her last week...

I told her I would love to tie her down, completely naked, and tickle her. Whilst tickling her, I would then eventually begin to have sex with her, whilst still tickling her..... her response...... "Hmmm... I like the sound of that".................

My jaw nearly hit the floor!!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't believe it. I'm gonna hold off for a wee while before suggesting it. We may be eventually moving in together in a number of months. I am definitely gonna do it at least once when I move in, but I am not sure whether I'm gonna do it before then.. 😉 we'll see. I am aware of how lucky I am. We are in perfect sync as a couple, hence why I felt comfortable telling her. I tickle her during sex, and vice versa. It turns us both on and we both like it, so I agree - if the girl doesn't like it, perhaps either tell her it's something that appeals to you and hope she will give it a chance, or look for a new chick 🙂 think about it - how amazing would it be to have a woman who accepts you fully and allows you tickle her or tickle you back, depending on what you like?

Food for thought though 🙂

 

[FireFoxSF]

Like Grandpa SF used to tell me, "They all wanna have their hair pulled and asses spanked."

Sounds barbaric to the modern generation, but there's a actually a lot of hidden wisdom in that expression, and just as many women will back it as men. They wanna do wild hot n' kinky shit, but it takes a guy with cojones enough to give them the opportunity.

 

[dalekfire]

Like Grandpa SF used to tell me, "They all wanna have their hair pulled and asses spanked."

Sounds barbaric to the modern generation, but there's a actually a lot of hidden wisdom in that expression, and just as many women will back it as men. They wanna do wild hot n' kinky shit, but it takes a guy with cojones enough to give them the opportunity.

Princess Jehnna: "How do you attract a man? What I mean is, suppose you set your heart on somebody. What would you do to get him?"

Zula: "Grrrrab him! And take him!"

Princess Jehnna: ".....grab him...and take him...?"

Zula: "Take him! Like that!"

Princess Jehnna: >_>; *rides away*

 

[Numbah-1]

Stopped? Oh yes. I hate talking about this part of my life but...
Ok so I was dating this girl, I knew at a young age she was 'the one' but I was also besties with another chick at the time and she sorta wanted me. Well, after a few tickling incidents I found out the girl I was dating wasnt as ticklish as my friend was and for some reason I really seen that as a downfall or something. IDK if she was resistant to it or what but damn it sucked! Dat other chick Doooeee. . . . Anyway I'm still kickin my self because I had a real chance to find out how ticklish my GF was but I thought we (in all honesty I) past a point and I was gunna move on - a very big mistake because I ended up single handed.
Just think you might be the one to change her look on it. If theres chemistry than don't let a simple fetish ruin it. The only 1 whose going to know is you.

 

[Deadly Ticklish1]

Dating is strange, because a lot of it opposites a fully formed relationship. Even if this is your "girlfriend" it would seem that you two haven't been together too long. It's appropriate to share such information as fetishes only when you really feel like your at the stage where you could tell her anything and it wouldn't turn her away. Usually this only happens after marriage or at leas after you've gotten really serious, where you plan on staying together. Until then it's just another thing that could be a red flag for her. That's not to say you shouldn't invest into this girl any further. I'm saying that in general it's not a good idea to share any deep information about yourself during the the time period where the relationship is forming if you would like the other person to stick around. While girls do want to get to know a guy and want to know everything about them, this does not mean that sharing that information is a good idea. Them not knowing is what keeps them interested. Once you've shared everything about yourself there's no challenge left for them, plus it often comes off as eccentric when you share to much information with a girl, especially things like fetishes. Now if you are later dating a girl that is openly okay with fetishes and shares her fetishes with you it might be okay to share this information when it comes to the sex life, so that you can do things for each other.

 

[Ticklish&InLove]

Having been on the other end of things, I hid my tickle-fetish from my husband for years. Then, one night, he ironically tickled me to force me to tell him what I was reading on the internet and looking at. I told him while burying my face in the pillow. He was angry - but not for the reason you might assume. He was annoyed that I'd hid something from him that he could have done to spice things up sooner. He's still no where near the kind of merciless passionate tickler that I wish he was, BUT he has more than accepted me for my kinky side - he has in fact told me knowing I had a kinky side made him more comfortable with me and see's it as sexy.

All this to say, I think tickling can be a playful thing to share, and if your girlfriend is willing to mix it up with the things that turn her on, you can get her to begin associating the sensations with the fun part of your sex lives. But please learn from my mistake and don't hide something for too long, or everyone loses.

 

[Deadly Ticklish1]

I think the above^ was okay because well.......it's her husband. It's a different stage of the relationship. At this point both partners have committed themselves to each other and you know you want to be with each other. In earlier stages of a relationship I feel like there are a lot of things that can be deal breakers. A woman is more likely to second guess her boyfriend than her husband, when it comes to fetishes. This again depends on how open and strong the relationship is.