Girlfriend troubles

[jakobmobley123]

My girlfriend broke up with me and so the next day she calls to tell me that I need help. I told her that I was getting help and to give me another chance. SO anyway a couple days went by and we made up but didn't get back together she said it would take a year. We agreed that I would help pay the rent and buy the baby diapers. We talk on the phone and you know she said that she missed me. So we agreed I would stay a couple nights a week at the new place. I end up staying more because of unpacking. So a few days went by and she ask me to stay at the new place 6 times a week and go home the other day which we agreed on. So the next day I went to my parents house to wash so stuff. I stay there for 4 hours & I had planned to go back to our apartment. SO you wants to go to her cousins house I was reluctant but I said ok she went anyways. So the next day she was acting funny i ask her what was the problem she said she need her space. Because i follow her around the house and still act like her boy friend. So I prodded, so more and ask if she still what to be together at all she said no. It didn't seem like a definite no so I kept ask she said I need to fix my problems and develop a relationship with my son. She also she you can't answer my question at that time.

What should I do wait a few months and ask again.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

Um, this is a... a tickling forum.

 

[jakobmobley123]

Yes this is true but this happens to be the general discussion board which you can talk about anything.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

Good point, I was merely suggesting that this may not be the best place for a serious relationship issue as far as solving it. Also, after reading your initial post over and over, I'm sorry, but i still can;t figure out what is going on... Proofreading man, saves a world of trouble. So, I suggest making your post a little clearer if you want advice, personally, I he's your son, you have every right to see him, unless of course the court has decided you don;t have every right to see him. And here's my take on women needing their space 1. they don't like you anymore and hope the "space" will cause you to simply fade away, 2. They need their space, because the just need a break, give these girls their space and eventually they will be ready for you on their time, not yours! 3. They actually, want you to come after them (NOTE: this is a rare form in the line the "i need space" incidents) If you go after her assuming she's using tactic 3 but is actually using tactic 1 or 2, you just ruined all hope of getting back together. So they best thing you can do, is give her her space, If she is going to come around, it's going to be on HER own time!!! As far as your son goes, pick him up hang out with him, you can hang out with you son and give her her space at the same time.

 

[jakobmobley123]

Yes I realize it will be on her time but I don't want to wait 2-6 months. Then found out the answers is no. So if that is the case what should I do.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

Figure out what you want more, is she worth waiting 6 months for even the chance of getting back together or do you feel that 6 months could be better spent pursuing another prospect? If you even think she's worth the wait, then wait, 6 months is not that long and i think you both will have an idea of what's going to happen well before 6 months take place, but you don't want to regret not waiting for her to such a short amount of time.

 

[jakobmobley123]

One Other thing she may by seeing another guy but I not sure.

 

[nylonsnfeet]

I agree with "Steve". You mentioned you needing help to "fix problems" & that you are getting it. Is this still true? The absolute best thing you can do is learn what you need to do to be a "better" you! Focus on what or how you can improve within yourself, & definitly enjoy as much time as you can with your son. If the relationship is meant to be, then it will happen. Focus on YOU & your son.

 

[dskodj]

alot of things are very vauge in your story. but from what i can read and see..regardless of what your "problems" are that you need to fix (drinking prob, drug prob, whatever it may be), it sounds to me she's playing with your emotions and mind and thats not right. you are human regardless of whatever issues you may have.

im guessing you 2 have a kid together? i dunno man, i'd say while fixing your problems stear as far away from her as possible, get your life together and go find a woman who isnt gonna play head games and then arrange whatever legal things you have to do to see your son at that point. life's too short to be messin with women who play the roller coasters and head games (that much is evident in your story of what shes doin). whatever your "problems" are, im sure this gal is making em worse!

fix your life man, then live a clean, fresh, headache free and mind game free life. either solo or with someone who's deserving of your love.

 

[jakobmobley123]

a'lot of things are very vague in your story. but from what i can read and see..regardless of what your "problems" are that you need to fix (drinking prob, drug prob, whatever it may be), it sounds to me she's playing with your emotions and mind and thats not right. you are human regardless of whatever issues you may have.

I'm guessing you 2 have a kid together? i dunno man, I'd say while fixing your problems steer as far away from her as possible, get your life together and go find a woman who isn't gonna play head games and then arrange whatever legal things you have to do to see your son at that point. life's too short to be messing with women who play the roller coasters and head games (that much is evident in your story of what shes doing). whatever your "problems" are, I'm sure this gal is making em worse!

fix your life man, then live a clean, fresh, headache free and mind game free life. either solo or with someone who's deserving of your love.

Yes I was a little vague i will try to explain what is going on. First off I have a sever cause of ADHD. Which makes me impulsive we used to yell a lot but that got better. I follow her around the house which annoyers her and I still acted like her boyfriend. I am also getting help from a psychologist But what she doesn't understand is it's going to take time for me to change. I would hate to loose her because of her not being able to understand that. I also don't think she is playing head games with me.

 

[dskodj]

Yes I was a little vague i will try to explain what is going on. First off I have a sever cause of ADHD. Which makes me impulsive we used to yell a lot but that got better. I follow her around the house which annoyers her and I still acted like her boyfriend. I am also getting help from a psychologist But what she doesn't understand is it's going to take time for me to change. I would hate to loose her because of her not being able to understand that. I also don't think she is playing head games with me.

I understand all about ADHD, my former stepson had a serious case of that as well. Once he was on the right meds, he was fine. Your still kinda confusing here...if she doesnt want you to be with her and not to act like her boyfriend, why was she begging you to live with her, saying I miss you, etc then does a total 360?? Sounds like head games to me...ive seen and experienced plenty.

Why waste your time even living with her? I understand about the son and all...but there's other ways to stay active with him.

I dunno man, I have diff opinions based on the info you gave in the original post, but good luck in whatever you choose to do 🙂 I have no other input on the subject.

 

[DimpleToes]

Give her the space she wants but be the best father you can to your son.. maybe she will she what she is missing... if you love something let it go..if it is ment to be.. she will come back to you... you cant force someone to love you.. show her your trying and focus your attention on the blessing of your son.. I know it hurts..hugsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss