Guys, where do you find your ticklees?

[stockingfeetrbest]

I have tried Fetlife. Got no responses and very few lees if any in my area. I am on an online dating site but the goal there is to find a girlfriend and not just a tickle session. I have messaged lees here on the TMF and get no response at all. I even placed an ad on model mayhem a year or so ago and the 2 models that did reply never followed up. Any ideas on where to find a tickle partner. My tickle brain has been in overdrive the last month or so and I really need some feet in my stocks. LOL.

 

[FFT32]

Fortunately, my ex was into my foot/tickle needs. After her, I had luck at gentlemen’s clubs and foot themed events.

 

[SoleMates]

I even placed an ad on model mayhem a year or so ago and the 2 models that did reply never followed up.

Do not do this again unless you are a producer.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Do not do this again unless you are a producer.

You beat me too it. Thank you.

 

[MeatyBreastedDullness]

Do not do this again unless you are a producer.

Why not? Just curious

 

[Comfort Eagle]

"Casual" ones? Friends, friends of friends, and girls on dating apps.

Girls in videos are less frequently the same, more often Craigslist/Model Mayhem models, or referrals from irl people who know I shoot videos.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Why not? Just curious

Model Mayhem is a site where professional models are not seeking sessions. They're seeking professional gigs in some type of production/print style mediums. Generally, the person who's hiring the model should not appear in the content with the model type of professional gig.

What I think the OP is looking for is play sessions, which is fine. They can find those on Fetlife, Sessiongirls.com, various dungeons, and X (Twitter) among others. There are a number of women who provide tickle fetish experiences where one does not have to engage in unethical/borderline criminal behavior.

 

[TicklerKoops]

I've had luck on here. I've gotten contact with 3 people and met up with 2 of them. The third, I believe, got into a relationship so she cut contact with me, which I completely understand and respect.

That being said, while it is difficult, it's not impossible. You could always check out tumblr because I'm seeing a TON of fetish lovers on that site.

 

[SoleMates]

Why not? Just curious

Soles_Scream already covered it, but to expand:

Model Mayhem is a website for professional models seeking professional gigs. It says right in the Terms of Service that it is not a "dating site". I'm guessing the OP is looking for a personal fetish session, which differs from a professional shoot regardless of whether the person offering the gig is paying them or not. While what exactly constitutes each one is a bit of a grey area that varies from model to model (so don't ask me to autistically argue the specifics of each definition), and it's true that fashion/print models will often take fetish work on the DL, and I disagree that the producer/photographer can't appear in the end result in order to be considered a professional production, the vast majority of models who use Model Mayhem or sites like it really frown on fetish-types using it for any kind of recruiting, regardless of what it's for. The two models who ghosted OP probably sussed that he was looking for a private session and bailed.

 

[bluey1]

I have had a few tickle sessions at Fetish House here in Melbourne. They say on the Mistress' page on the website if they (that Mistress) offers tickling sessions. Then you pick which Mistress you want to see, email them to make sure they're happy to do a session. Then book it in. It is expensive though. But worth it.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Soles_Scream already covered it, but to expand:

Model Mayhem is a website for professional models seeking professional gigs. It says right in the Terms of Service that it is not a "dating site". I'm guessing the OP is looking for a personal fetish session, which differs from a professional shoot regardless of whether the person offering the gig is paying them or not. While what exactly constitutes each one is a bit of a grey area that varies from model to model (so don't ask me to autistically argue the specifics of each definition), and it's true that fashion/print models will often take fetish work on the DL, and I disagree that the producer/photographer can't appear in the end result in order to be considered a professional production, the vast majority of models who use Model Mayhem or sites like it really frown on fetish-types using it for any kind of recruiting, regardless of what it's for. The two models who ghosted OP probably sussed that he was looking for a private session and bailed.

Good point. To clarify this part "producer/photographer can't appear in the end result in order to be considered a professional production," that was specific to Model Mayhem. They denied my application to be a producer on there because I appear in scene with the model. They believe that the producer should be behind the camera only.

 

[dahoochman]

There is something called tklmap.com that lets people mark on a map their location and preferences (Lee,Ler, M seeking F, etc) and gives you a link to contact the poster via their preferred method like email or discord, etc. it’s completely free. Having said that it seems to be 98% men posting, mostly Lers.

 

[SoleMates]

Good point. To clarify this part "producer/photographer can't appear in the end result in order to be considered a professional production," that was specific to Model Mayhem. They denied my application to be a producer on there because I appear in scene with the model. They believe that the producer should be behind the camera only.

Good to know. Funny story, one of the models I worked with at one point (I forget who) was on the approval team. I never bothered to apply because I knew my productions weren't professional-looking enough to pass the GWC test at the time (this was like ten years ago) and I've heard through the grapevine that the site's gone to hell since then.

But yeah, rule of thumb; don't try to hire professional non-fetish models for private sessions.

 

[rally]

Sessiongirls.com is run by Jennifer Thomas, a well known wrestling/fetish model. I've actually sessioned with her from the site. It's how I got started with sessions, and is a great resource for some well known models coming through your area. You might have to be a little patient for a model you're interested in, but lots of "tickle celebs" do yearly tours across the country. The "primary" purpose of the site seems to be for wrestling, but LOTS of models there are open to tickling, some of my favorite sessions I've ever done have come through there. X (Twitter) is another good source, but takes a little more leg work to wade through and find traveling models, and it's a little easier to get scammed there so keep that in mind.

 

[maniactickler]

I also found women on a wrestling site. WB70 i believe. its not there anymore, but i had good luck on that site. it was a bit pricey though.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Sessiongirls.com is run by Jennifer Thomas, a well known wrestling/fetish model. I've actually sessioned with her from the site. It's how I got started with sessions, and is a great resource for some well known models coming through your area. You might have to be a little patient for a model your interested in, but lots of "tickle celebs" do yearly tours across the country. The "primary" purpose of the site seems to be for wrestling, but LOTS of models there are open to tickling, some of my favorite sessions I've ever done have come through there. X (Twitter) is another good source, but takes a little more leg work to wade through and find traveling models, and it's a little easier to get scammed there so keep that in mind.

I highly suggest anyone who wishes to session to get an X account because many of the models have those. Usually that model has a website of some sort that you can look at as well. I use SG from a production standpoint, but when I did sessions, I'd use it too.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I’m gonna assume OP is part of the “NO PAY MONEY 😡” crowd. In which case, you have to actually put yourself out there and network. Munches, play parties, gatherings. Get to know people on a personal level – do not treat ticklees like objects or kink dispensers. If you’re in the U.K. there’s a London munch, a Bristol munch and a Northern munch for tickle kinksters.

 

[Libertine]

You can find someone anywhere there are women. Learn to converse with them and eventually after a lot of awful experiences you'll find someone to play with. Admittedly this is exactly like saying that playing the violin involves moving the bow along the strings at one end while pressing different parts of said strings at the other. Practice, time and a lot of frustration are involved in learning how to play any instrument or find women. But if you genuinely want to do either you'll find a way. Good luck and get out there.

 

[TallTampaTklDom]

I think looking for a tickle partner first, then relationship compatibility 2nd is not a wise to look at things.

I LOVE my kinks, and love tickling but there are so many more important things in a relationship than tickling. Attraction for one. I think attraction is the first step, then compatibility. And that compatibility will encompass your tickling fetish. And here’s the thing, if a woman likes you she’ll do a lot of things to make you happy to include indulging in your fetishes.

I’m not saying stop your search on the kinks sites. All of their advice is great in conjunction with mine.

Right now dating isn’t easy for men in general…but it’s never been a better time to date as a kinkster. A lot of women identify as submissive these days thanks to 50 shades of grey etc so it’s much easier to parlay that proclivity into tickling fetish.

 

[frankied21]

I think looking for a tickle partner first, then relationship compatibility 2nd is not a wise to look at things.

I LOVE my kinks, and love tickling but there are so many more important things in a relationship than tickling. Attraction for one. I think attraction is the first step, then compatibility. And that compatibility will encompass your tickling fetish. And here’s the thing, if a woman likes you she’ll do a lot of things to make you happy to include indulging in your fetishes.

I’m not saying stop your search on the kinks sites. All of their advice is great in conjunction with mine.

Right now dating isn’t easy for men in general…but it’s never been a better time to date as a kinkster. A lot of women identify as submissive these days thanks to 50 shades of grey etc so it’s much easier to parlay that proclivity into tickling fetish.

100% agree with this. Don't forget that there are so many more important things in life. Trust, attraction are two big ones, but there's so much more to life. There's also future family and responsibilities with those arise that are way more important than "will she let me tie her and tickle her"
Life is a game of compromises. Never forget that. And it is absolutely true that the right person will make you happy if you do the same for them

 

[TallTampaTklDom]

So in a way…I didn’t really answer your question “where to find ticklees”?

Your social circle. And if you don’t have one, build one. I have get togethers at my house regularly. I take pride in being a good host(nice place, fun atmosphere, drinks, I cook sometimes, games) that friends bring attractive and single girls to my house! I don’t even have to leave my driveway. Now I put a lot of work and money into being a host…but really I don’t think there’s a better way to meet women. These ladies are seeing how I live, witnessing first hand my skills and if I ask them out…they know where I live already.

And if I’m inviting them back…tickling always occurs. Boom…she’s a “ticklee”.

Befriend guys that already have a social circle. And help them in anyway they need help so they help you. Befriend the circle and expand it.

 

[anchientstar]

I hate to say this my guy, but you gotta get out there and network. Half the battle of Fetlife is you need to go out and meet people. Its not just about finding a lee, its about creating connection and making friends. You'll be surprised how many non-tickle people you can convert. Just start networking with people, be the real you, and you'll find Lee's in no time.

Just realise the goal shouldn't be to tickle someone and fulfil your needs. The goals should be to make like minded friends and explore kinks and shiz together.

 

[ticklingj]

Just going by own experience here...If your goal is to find a girlfriend that's into it, I suggest regular dating sites. It's not a slam dunk, but I've met a few spectacular women that way. And they can be open to some kinky fun when you approach it properly.