Hard v. Soft Tickles
This is one of those questions that seems to take in all of tickling in one way or another. In our house to some degree it depends on whether you are tickler or ticklee, how moods affect us at this moment, and what affects these have on other activities. This is the kind of question I might answer one way today and entirely different tomorrow. I usually like very enthusiastic tickling, but not always. My ticklee would more often vote for the soft tickles, but not always. These will never be 100%. They all have their place and their own delightful reaction.
Frequent hard, loss of control, ticklings make my ticklee work ever so hard to avoid or escape the next one. That has made some of our tickling games over the years to be incredibly fun and sexy. One of my favorite tickling activities is to chase the scantily-clad bride around the house when she knows I have tickling on the mind. This has for years on occasion found its way into our tickling game repertoire, even in the past year (despite my doddering age - LOL). Then, when I say scantily clad... Women have a talent that I have none of. When my wife climbs out of a shower, she can bend forward and wrap a towel around her wet hair. Then she can twist it, stand up straight and toss her hair (and towel) back. It has never ceased to amaze me. The towel stays there all by itself. This defies the laws of physics or something. Although I have never watched my while daughters put the towel in the same position, I have seen them walk about the house with hair all wrapped up in towel, exactly the same way. It's one of those female mysteries designed to keep guys scratching their heads, I think.
Anyway, I've been sitting in the den watching TV when my wife has walked in wearing a towel in her hair and another towel wrapped around her tightly tucked up over her breasts and under her arms. If she sees I have tickling in mind, and her dressing this way sometimes puts it in mind, she see that and the race is on. Usually the body wrap falls away in no time, but that other towel will stay in place…don't ask me how...it's impossible. Sexiest thing in the world to see a woman wearing only a hair towel running up and down stairs around furniture screaming "no fairs" and laughing and screaming like mad. None of this would ever have happened were it not for the more enthusiastic tickling that takes her breath away and keeps her that way.
Then there is the soft tickling. This can make for some great teasing. Softly tickles in some of MY favorite places like the thighs and all over the knees...working closer and closer to her MOST sensitive spots but I make sure to avoid them at first. It's torture for her, because she has a hint of needing to pull away when I get some spots, but a much stronger need to get the tickles all over. She wants to guide my hands with hers, but that isn't allowed. What is allowed is for her to twist and turn and move her body to where my fingers happen to be (assuming I leave them there). Interestingly, her favorite soft tickle places are also my favorite enthusiastic tickle places except she also loves the soft tickles all over her feet. Then there are her breasts and armpits, the naturally her most erogenous of zone. Since she isn't allowed to use her hands as guides, you have to imagine what a turn on it is as she raises and lowers her legs, tries to twist her armpits into the picture and oohs and ahs as she gets my fingers to do what she wants. The fact is, her twisting and turning isn't all that different whether we are doing the soft or the hard tickles. The only differences are the speed of her efforts and whether she is trying to get closer or get away.
I think she enjoys a soft tickling sensation when I am applying nail polish to her toenails. How sexy is it to have a woman wearing only a robe come to where I am, let her robe fall open while she shows me a bottle of polish held between her thumb and index finger? She looks coyly out of the corner of her eye and shakes the bottle up and down. Maybe that's why I'm the polish guy in this house. I find that irresistible, and I think she likes the soft tickling sensation as I caress her feet and paint her nails.
Then there are the soft tickles that show utter selfishness on my part and require the most patience any female can possess. We sleep in the same bed maybe 340 to 350 nights per year. When we do, I can't even think about going to sleep until I give her body a once over. These include, with her lying on her side facing away, figure eights on her lower back, the backs of the thighs and knees. Sometimes she will bend her legs to make sure her feet get up high enough for some soft tickles on the soles and toes (this is the only indication I EVER get that this is at least partially for her benefit). Then I reach across her body for some play with the breasts. I reach down and softly tickle the front of her thighs, especially high up inside her hips. I softly tickle the fur and play with that zone again. Then there is the required stop at her belly button. Belly buttons REQUIRE a little finger play until I get at least a flinch, maybe with a little giggle. By the way, for most of our marriage, she has tended toward the fullness of figure variation, and (IMHO) this makes the play, the flinch and the giggle caused by a finger in and around the belly button to make for SUCH a TURN ON. Then I’ll come to a rest with a hand on a breast with fingertips stopping at the armpit. So it's with soft tickles that I usually drift off. Is that selfish? I've never once asked if this is OK, and I can't see how she can hope to get to sleep until I make my way to dreamland.
As I said, to me this is all of tickling, and tomorrow I may have an entirely different take on it.
