Has a relationship you had been ruined due to the other person's fetish?

[Dialon]

I've seen a lot of people on here talk about how their relationships have kind of suffered due to their tickling fetish. So out of curiosity, have any of you ever had a relationship you couldn't be in due to the other person having a fetish you couldn't jive with?

And if you haven't been in a relationship with someone who had a wildly different fetish, would you be willing to indulge their fetish even if it did nothing to you or if you flat out hated the idea just to make them happy? Where would you draw the line?

 

[chicago]

Nah, I've never been with anyone that was into anything that abnormal that I was squicked enough to leave based on that. It's always been clashing personalities / infidelity, etc that ended most of em.

I think I'm pretty open minded. Most things that I can think of people being into might seem strange but really not that crazy. Everyones got some hard limits though. I just think its important to express what you're into and what you're totally not willing to engage in, in a way thats kind and respectful.

 

[Thatsecretchord]

Ive never been with a girl who wasn't turned on by the usual but I would like to think I would go along with most things. After all...there's this!

 

[Bohemianne]

Nope. Just like those (cliché) fairytales of nevermore, my man and I agree with any of our sexual perversions and twisted ideologies.

 

[Mitchell]

I'd have to say yes to about 98/99% of fetishes. After all, I'm, a guy who likes womens feet, tickling, and seeing women barefoot on ladders.

That being said..

While I'm very open minded, and hope anyone I would be involved with would also be.. two fetishes I think I would have a problem with.. would be like.. bathroom fetishes.. or blood. I belong to a BDSM site where people are into that, and if that's what turns them on, fine. For myself.. I think I would be completely grossed out by it.

Besides that.. even something such..as.. spanking.. would probably be okay.. as long as the person was okay with my fetishes. As I said, I'm pretty open minded, except for the one or two things I mentioned.

Also, to answer the original question, sorry. No.. I haven't had a relationship ruined by someone else's fetish.

 

[Dialon]

Yeah, I suppose it is all based on what your personal limitations are. I like to think I am a very open-minded person and am willing to try almost everything once. I am somewhat of a sensate, if you will. However, I do have limits. Even without trying, I know I could not be into anything involving bodily fluids like urine or feces. Blood I am iffy on. Other than that, I think I am open to compromise with anything.

 

[FootballGuy]

Never. If anything, it would make it so much easier for me to share my fetish if she had one too.

 

[Bator]

bathroom fetishes.. or blood.

^Me too, I haven't come across those yet, but I would find them extremely gross and disturbing. They would definitely be a no go.

 

[Franky]

Nope I haven't been in a relationship that was ended due to anyone's fetish.

But, for a hypothetical relationship... Well, there would be a lot of fetishes that would be a no-go for me. Though, I will point out that the length of the list would depend on who is doing what to whom. Basically, if I was on the receiving end the not-going-to-happen list would be significantly longer. If my partner was on the receiving end the list would be shorter. And depending on our arrangements, if my partner had someone outside of our relationship that would be for them to figure-out.

And, since so many people keep mentioning it, I'll chime in too. I'm not a fan of bodily fluids, except I do like blood.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

my fetish for women's feet ( properly taken care of ) and for tickling has sadly ruined a relationship in my life but I'm ok with it now

 

[fireguardian]

I had an issue with my first major relationship. He was a very dominant personality until it came to the bedroom. Totally didn't jive at all. Plus I was with him when I started to really explore this side of myself and he was not totally okay with it. It wasn't what ultimately ended up killing our relationship but it sure as hell didn't help it either.

 

[NoNo]

Well I'd think I would try out to satisfy my gf's fetish as long as it wouldn't harm me eternal or extreme pain. Of course no stuff that belongs to the toilet 😛

I never endet a relationship because of a gf's fetish. So far, my last relationship was somewhat unsatisfying maybe for us both cause she had none.

 

[aussietickler1]

Great question. I think that I'd be a lot more accepting and willing to indulge any number of fetishes that might come up due to my having a fetish myself. And like FootballGuy said, it would make it a lot easier to bring the whole tickling thing into play. Relationships are give and take after all.

 

[tcklft]

I'm pretty blue-nosed about others' kinks (I'm a hypocrite, I know). I date fairly vanilla ladies, so it's yet to come up, thank god.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

As long as no children, animals, bodily fluids, choking, or extreme pain is involved I'd probably be willing to give it a go.

Now there was a young Dom I walked out on because he was into the whole gorean master slave lifestyle and I knew I could never be a slave. He wanted to break me and I drove him crazy because I told him he wasn't allowed to face slap me. He was also a wolf and his biting hurt like hell and this was without his fangs. Oh he never broke me. I was too mentally strong for him. Plus he also thought tickling was dumb.

 

[april]

One of my best guy friends ended his relationship with this absolutely fantastic woman because her fetish was to be beaten. It was a very sad ordeal but obviously he didnt want to physically harm her. For me personally it would depend on the fetish. I couldn't handle anything as extreme as the case I just talked about. Hard limits for me would be beating, cutting, adult baby play, needles, scat, water sports; things of that nature.

 

[Dialon]

Oh, I can't believe I didn't even think of the kinks involving beatings and such. Those I could also not go along with, same with the whole rape roleplays. I am the most nonviolent person ever; even if someone really wants me to do it for sexual satisfaction, I don't think I could bring myself to do it. I cannot and will not harm another person regardless of context.

 

[shiftdown]

I can't choke/knife play/ anything bathroom oriented, had to leave a few relationships cause of it, just as many left me do to my "childish" tickling interest...still get a lil "angry" about that one..