Has anyone out there ever approached an attractive woman who you didn't know and used "Are you ticklish?' as an opening line? If so what response did you get? I've thought about using that as an approach with women for several reasons. One is that it fits who I am rather than using some standared opening line that everyone uses, and secondly I'd like to get the woman's reaction right up front and find out if she's ticklish or not and not bother to waste my time if she isn't. We've probably all had that situation before where you lust after a woman and spend so much time trying to seduce her only to find out after all that time and effort that she isn't ticklish at all ugh!!! On the other hand maybe using this as an opening line is just coming on too strong. Any thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
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I think you might want to rethink your entire approach to women, mate...they're really not targets or goals to be achieved, but experiences that can teach you things that you never dreamed existed, whether they're ticklish or not. Q🙄
I think you might want to rethink your entire approach to women, mate...they're really not targets or goals to be achieved, but experiences that can teach you things that you never dreamed existed, whether they're ticklish or not. Q🙄
Thank you, Q. 
This thread, the other current thread entitled "doesn't it drive you crazy" and related threads that objectify women...creep me out.
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This thread, the other current thread entitled "doesn't it drive you crazy" and related threads that objectify women...creep me out.
eq
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Hi Steve,
There are actually two points to your post that strike me, so I'll address them both:
First is your obvious question about whether "Are you ticklish?" is a good opener. I would say that in the vast majority of cases, it's not. First of all, it's a fairly personal question - a little too personal for a conversation starter. Secondly, it's just plain creepy, even to me - someone who shares the kink. Lastly, even if she says "yes, I'm ticklish," she could hate to be tickled. Assuming you're a good man, and not into non-consensual play, she would still be of little use to you, because she wouldn't let you tickle her!
The second point goes mostly toward your overall attitude. I hate to think that women who aren't ticklish are a waste of time! The reverse is also true - I certainly wouldn't give up a good man as a friend or lover just because he isn't ticklish! In fact, I've proven that point - I'm marryin' someone who absolutely hates to be tickled. He adores tickling me, though, so I certainly don't suffer in that regard! He also doesn't mind when I tickle others, so... when I have the urge to top, I just know it isn't going to be him I'm topping. But I digress...
I guess my point is, rather than changing your pick-up line, you may want to try changing your attitude all together. Women know when they're being viewed as sex/lust/tickle objects, and they tend to turn any such advances down flat. Try seeing the woman you've set your sights on as a person first. You'll be amazed at the results you get!
... Anna
Hi Steve,
There are actually two points to your post that strike me, so I'll address them both:
First is your obvious question about whether "Are you ticklish?" is a good opener. I would say that in the vast majority of cases, it's not. First of all, it's a fairly personal question - a little too personal for a conversation starter. Secondly, it's just plain creepy, even to me - someone who shares the kink. Lastly, even if she says "yes, I'm ticklish," she could hate to be tickled. Assuming you're a good man, and not into non-consensual play, she would still be of little use to you, because she wouldn't let you tickle her!
The second point goes mostly toward your overall attitude. I hate to think that women who aren't ticklish are a waste of time! The reverse is also true - I certainly wouldn't give up a good man as a friend or lover just because he isn't ticklish! In fact, I've proven that point - I'm marryin' someone who absolutely hates to be tickled. He adores tickling me, though, so I certainly don't suffer in that regard! He also doesn't mind when I tickle others, so... when I have the urge to top, I just know it isn't going to be him I'm topping. But I digress...
I guess my point is, rather than changing your pick-up line, you may want to try changing your attitude all together. Women know when they're being viewed as sex/lust/tickle objects, and they tend to turn any such advances down flat. Try seeing the woman you've set your sights on as a person first. You'll be amazed at the results you get!
... Anna
Thanks Anna
Dear Anna,
Thanks a lot for your input as a woman. I really appreciate it. I'm not a stupid person and I do respect women. I didn't think that asking a woman if she was ticklish as an opening line would be good, but I just wanted to bounce it off others who enjoy tickling to see what they thought of it. By the way, I have tried to see women as a person first and the results I got were usually just getting used and hurt. I guess I'll keep trying until I find the right one. But thanks for your heartfelt, nonjudgemental advice.
Steve
Dear Anna,
Thanks a lot for your input as a woman. I really appreciate it. I'm not a stupid person and I do respect women. I didn't think that asking a woman if she was ticklish as an opening line would be good, but I just wanted to bounce it off others who enjoy tickling to see what they thought of it. By the way, I have tried to see women as a person first and the results I got were usually just getting used and hurt. I guess I'll keep trying until I find the right one. But thanks for your heartfelt, nonjudgemental advice.
Steve
It's a good thread and I'd like to had my 2 cents.
I believe that using that as an opener is a bad move. I also agree with Evilqueen in the sense that women do not like to be addressed as objects of your fantasy in that way. As with every person, we need to feel safe and comfortable with a person in order to attempt anything as intimate as that.
One thing that I had said to women in the past, after the ice has been thoroughly broken and we are laughing and comfortable with each other is mentioning tickling and then telling them that I think ticklish women are very sexy. What happens is that I am complimenting this person and geting the info I need. The subject of tickling could be approached in a number of ways, whether it be telling a recent experience you had (made up or not made up) where tickling was involved. Then feeling out her response to that. Many times a person will volunteer the information.
I don't see it any differently than trying to find out what things a woman has in common with you. It could work with a man approaching a woman or visa versa.
Tell her you were at a party and lots of friends ganged up on you and tickled you. Tell her you went nuts. Ask her if it ever happened to her. If she says that she's ticklish. Tell her the truth, that you find ticklish women very sexy. It's the truth and it's a compliment at the same time. Who knows, maybe she'll come back with , "Really? I think guys that love to tickle are sexy." Then, you'll thank me. Oh, and find out if she has a sister 🙂
Max
I believe that using that as an opener is a bad move. I also agree with Evilqueen in the sense that women do not like to be addressed as objects of your fantasy in that way. As with every person, we need to feel safe and comfortable with a person in order to attempt anything as intimate as that.
One thing that I had said to women in the past, after the ice has been thoroughly broken and we are laughing and comfortable with each other is mentioning tickling and then telling them that I think ticklish women are very sexy. What happens is that I am complimenting this person and geting the info I need. The subject of tickling could be approached in a number of ways, whether it be telling a recent experience you had (made up or not made up) where tickling was involved. Then feeling out her response to that. Many times a person will volunteer the information.
I don't see it any differently than trying to find out what things a woman has in common with you. It could work with a man approaching a woman or visa versa.
Tell her you were at a party and lots of friends ganged up on you and tickled you. Tell her you went nuts. Ask her if it ever happened to her. If she says that she's ticklish. Tell her the truth, that you find ticklish women very sexy. It's the truth and it's a compliment at the same time. Who knows, maybe she'll come back with , "Really? I think guys that love to tickle are sexy." Then, you'll thank me. Oh, and find out if she has a sister 🙂
Max
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I too agree that that opening line is NOT a good Idea at all.
However IF you were to use it anyway, I would make sure she does not have a drink in her hand. You may end up with a Cosmopolitan in your face,or worse.
Save that question for later on in the evening as you are giving her a foot massage after dancing all night.
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However IF you were to use it anyway, I would make sure she does not have a drink in her hand. You may end up with a Cosmopolitan in your face,or worse.
Save that question for later on in the evening as you are giving her a foot massage after dancing all night.
😀 TTD
evilqueen,
i do apologize if my thread "doesnt it drive you crazy" creeps you out. the thread itself came up because at my job, a friend of mine, told me she was ticklish. the "animal" part of my mind of course wanted to tickle her. but in "reality", she is a real cool friend and more important she is a person. i will not violate someone's "space". i respect the rights of others, and i dont condone non consentual anything. the reason why it "drives me crazy" because it is the "animal" side that wants to tickle, but the cooler, calmer mind always prevails. i hope that clears it up. women to me are some of the most precious living things on this planet. without them, we men totally destroy the earth (not that we havent gave it our best shot yet).
i do apologize if my thread "doesnt it drive you crazy" creeps you out. the thread itself came up because at my job, a friend of mine, told me she was ticklish. the "animal" part of my mind of course wanted to tickle her. but in "reality", she is a real cool friend and more important she is a person. i will not violate someone's "space". i respect the rights of others, and i dont condone non consentual anything. the reason why it "drives me crazy" because it is the "animal" side that wants to tickle, but the cooler, calmer mind always prevails. i hope that clears it up. women to me are some of the most precious living things on this planet. without them, we men totally destroy the earth (not that we havent gave it our best shot yet).
Agreein' wit' the general view that this is a bad idea, I'd add a perspective here - that of "one of us". As if we already don't have enough sensitivities about tickling, having someone approach most of us out of the blue and ask such would be about as delicate and sensitive as askin' someone if they could acheive orgasm. Do you want to know such about a lover? Sure. Is it an intro question? No.
I'm usually more interested in whether or not someone appeals to me as a person, first. If yes, THEN figurin' out their sexuality becomes mighty interestin'. It's not tough, as Max illustrates, to engage discussion and bring it up discretely. If she hates it, swell. I know better than to bother her more. If not, swell. I know that there's one more compatible aspect to us.
It really isn't so tough to get to know someone, and screenin' the folks that'll nix your interest in this isn't so tough, either. Bringing that interest around S L O W L Y and discretely in conversation is ideal. It's that, or gatherings.
dvnc
I'm usually more interested in whether or not someone appeals to me as a person, first. If yes, THEN figurin' out their sexuality becomes mighty interestin'. It's not tough, as Max illustrates, to engage discussion and bring it up discretely. If she hates it, swell. I know better than to bother her more. If not, swell. I know that there's one more compatible aspect to us.
It really isn't so tough to get to know someone, and screenin' the folks that'll nix your interest in this isn't so tough, either. Bringing that interest around S L O W L Y and discretely in conversation is ideal. It's that, or gatherings.
dvnc
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I think your opening line is quite too direct for me. I could not ask that question under those settings because a stranger would probably think it is an opening line toward sexual advances. I have used a similiar line, but under different circumstances. I try to get the conversation toward something humorous and when she laughs, more than once I have replied " Oh your laugh is so neat, you must be very ticklish" 🙂 She feels no threat and will often just tell the truth ranging from not at all to horribly, terribly, insanely etc. It also leaves an opening to continue the conversation about tickling. That is my tactic.
I think your opening line is quite too direct for me. I could not ask that question under those settings because a stranger would probably think it is an opening line toward sexual advances. I have used a similiar line, but under different circumstances. I try to get the conversation toward something humorous and when she laughs, more than once I have replied " Oh your laugh is so neat, you must be very ticklish" 🙂 She feels no threat and will often just tell the truth ranging from not at all to horribly, terribly, insanely etc. It also leaves an opening to continue the conversation about tickling. That is my tactic.
Dear Primetime, your apology accepted, and please - you must try one of mine. 🙂 Four days into no-smoking finds me much calmer than two days in, which is where I was on Saturday. I know the majority of guys here regard women as you do, and how you treat a real live woman is different from what you might fantasize about doing, and that women have their animal side too, and so on. *sigh* Be glad when I'm eight days in.
a not-quite-as-cranky eq🙄
a not-quite-as-cranky eq🙄
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Ok, by opening line, are we saying, just walk up to an attractive woman and say "Hi, are you ticklish?" That IS just creepy, but I see nothing wrong with bringing it up when you first meet someone, after you chat a bit.
I used to know this guy who'd do these little close-up magic tricks with various regular items. No goofy "Watch and be mystified," but random tricks he'd do that would attract attention. *crack* ice broken. I think they made a video where you can learn these tricks, and one of the gimmicks was that you can use these tricks as icebreakers.
anyway, the point is that don't throw everything all at once, ease tickling into the conversation. or better yet into the flirtation. we've all gotten love taps before, right? answer back with a quick tickle., see how the response and go from there.
It's just like the Sims. for those who don't know, it's a PC game where you control someone's social life, where you can tickle other Sims in the game. In the game, to give the command to tickle someone is risky, as the 'lee will either like you more or get pissed and turn cold on you. Those who've played the game know what I'm talking about.
Laters
Hound
I used to know this guy who'd do these little close-up magic tricks with various regular items. No goofy "Watch and be mystified," but random tricks he'd do that would attract attention. *crack* ice broken. I think they made a video where you can learn these tricks, and one of the gimmicks was that you can use these tricks as icebreakers.
anyway, the point is that don't throw everything all at once, ease tickling into the conversation. or better yet into the flirtation. we've all gotten love taps before, right? answer back with a quick tickle., see how the response and go from there.
It's just like the Sims. for those who don't know, it's a PC game where you control someone's social life, where you can tickle other Sims in the game. In the game, to give the command to tickle someone is risky, as the 'lee will either like you more or get pissed and turn cold on you. Those who've played the game know what I'm talking about.
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Hound
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Hey EQ - I'm not at all certain that "most guys here" objectify women, as you accused. Suffering from nicotine deprivation, are we?
BTW Good Luck. It's tough to do. I know, having quit many times.
Strelnikov
BTW Good Luck. It's tough to do. I know, having quit many times.
Strelnikov
