HELP! How do i tell my girlfriend about my foot fetish

[mosteya4]

All modesty aside...my girlfriend and I tried to have sex today after a romantic evening...and of course I wasn't able to maintain an erection for very long...for some reason it feels like I NEED to use feet to get aroused. I need to tickle them and kiss them..its been this way for a LONG time. I need advice, how to tell my girlfriend about this who loves me very much...

How to get away from this foot fetish if possible, i just want to be like normal people! I felt so bad tonight..she was like you have a naked girl on top of you and you cant keep an erection. I just told her I had drank too much!

Please...any information is helpful...I have nowhere else to turn...

God bless you all!
Steve

 

[-Kunoke-]

Ohh, this is kind of a tough one..

The best way to go about letting them know is let them find out on their own. Just dumping that on her could lead to uneasiness or uncertainty. I'd say what you want to go for is find an oppertunity, maybe jump her and tickle her a lot or something, then make it apparent to her that you are getting aroused. You may have to do this a couple times, but it should be quite obvious to her after a while.

Or, you could just not tell her, tell her you'll try to have sex again, but tickle/kiss her feet while you'e trying this time. If thats successful, the next time you do it if you do, do it again.

Either way, you'll need to get her to ask you. That is, if you're going to play it safe.

By the way, what's your definition of "normal" anyway? Everyone has a fetish, and you're not the only one who needs to use their fetish to get aroused, there are PLENTY of people that way. Don't sweat it man...just take it easy, embrace your fetish, don't reject it.

Good luck!

 

[cosquillero1]

All modesty aside...my girlfriend and I tried to have sex today after a romantic evening...and of course I wasn't able to maintain an erection for very long...for some reason it feels like I NEED to use feet to get aroused. I need to tickle them and kiss them..its been this way for a LONG time. I need advice, how to tell my girlfriend about this who loves me very much...

How to get away from this foot fetish if possible, i just want to be like normal people! I felt so bad tonight..she was like you have a naked girl on top of you and you cant keep an erection. I just told her I had drank too much!

Please...any information is helpful...I have nowhere else to turn...

God bless you all!
Steve

I have same trouble, i need to get contact with the woman's feet for to get a good erection, i do some flatteries about of her feet, how i like them, what beautiful feet she has and so some nice phrases (that are true), then when we begin to have sex, i take her feet touching them gently, a bit smelling, of course i ask : are you ticklish ?, and then tickle them, i show her how do a foot job (excellent !!, this work pretty fine with me) and in that moment have a good erection. The first time my ex-gf asked me : what do you like of my feet ?, i answer her, your feet are so sexy and beautiful, so i get hot with them. But you need have a good relation with her, of course.

 

[quillman0071]

Hello steve,
yes this is a difficult one! I generlaise, but think that a lot of women expect men to be obsessed with 'boobs and bums'. Those of us with a liking for all of the women, including feet do have to tread carefully (no pun intended) In the past I have found that many women are not used to having thier feet pampered. They may find it a little strange, but why not offer a gentle massage and tease with some light (not painful) tickling. If you are lucky she will find it relaxing. If you are very lucky...arousing. I have also told a woman how her feet are beautiful, nicely shaped and so rich in nerve endings that nature clearly intened them to be a source of pleasure. Say this softly just before you take her toes into your mouth, then lightly graze your teeth under her toes.Dont use the word fetish unless you both bring it up playfully. If she askes if you like feet, say yes....and give the reasons that I have just explained. It doesnt always work, and she may still find it strange, but I have had some wonderful evenings as a result of being honest and open........best wishes and enjoy!

 

[babinsky1]

...Here's an idea..
Sit down and discuss the situation. No smoke and mirrors, no surprises, just
up front honesty. If she really cares for you, she'll be patient and understanding.
Don't underestimate the power of a loving woman.

 

[gilmourwaters]

i agree with babinsky.Just sit her down and tell her.If she really cares for you there should be no problem.Think about it, what girl would like the idea that all she has to do to get her guy going is give him her feet.This was never a problem for me...it shouldn't be for you

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

at some point the hollywood brother thinks you need to tell her but until then why not give her long senual massages where you can play with her feet for hours to get you in the mood. the lucky lady will think you are spending attention all over her body while you get your fetish on. The most important thing is to make her happy. The hollywood brother say if she orgasm numerous times then you doing something right. That is the goal to give her pleasure. As far as you go, well the hollywood brother say if she happy let it be even if you do not always orgasm. After she sleeping you can always go to another room and get aquianted with rosey palm and her five sisters. the hollywood brother is sorry if that is too graphic but it the truth. You should feel lucky to have someone in your life and you need to do whatever it takes to keep her and keep love in your life

 

[chode]

This is NOT a problem. I means eriously
She loves you right? Just fricking tell her. And i always start at the foot of the bed with my gf's and work my way up. so i start at feet and work it up to the area of buisness. easy dude. No worries. And seriously, just tell her. Its nothigin to be afaraid of. Its when we act wierd or stand offish about something like a foot fetish that others think its odd. If you talk about it like its really not a big deal then its isnt. So dont turn it into one!!!!!!!!

 

[wendyandpeter]

I humbly disagree

I think that if you were going to feel comfortable sitting her down and telling her, you'd have done that already.

Here's what *I* suggest. Don't tell her, show her. Remember, the girls like take-charge guys. Next time you're sitting on the sofa watching a movie, casually tell her to put her feet in your lap. If she resists, just coax her along, maybe reach down and pull them up. If she STILL resists, stop (and draw your own conclusions about that). If she doesn't resist, just pull her shoes and socks off and start massaging her feet. Judge her reaction -- is she tentative, enthusiastic, or somewhere in between? Don't tickle right away. Just rub -- and don't stop after 5 minutes. Rub for the rest of the movie, or until she tells you to stop. Don't make it your main focus, but don't do it too casusally either. Multitask between watching the movie and rubbing her feet. Give her the best foot rub you can. Don't do it half-assed because you're tentative about the situation. Committ, may man, committ.

Just be sure to look for her reactions and respond quickly. If she purrs, smile and say "Like that, huh?" If she gives an enthusiastic response, tickle lightly, smile and ask "Like that too?" Let her responses guide you.

The bottom line is that if you play with her feet enough (like every appropriate opportunity that comes your way 🙂, she'll figure it out on her own. She may even ask you straight out if you have a foot fetish. Whatever you do, when the question comes, DO NOT react in a sheepish or embarrased way. Instead, say something like "uhhh, YEAH.. couldn't you tell?" Smile and make sure she sees that YOU are comfortable with it. If YOU think it's creepy, there's no reason why she shouldn't too. On the other hand, if you are fine with it and take it in stride, she'll get the message that it could lead to some great sex. Believe me, that will be all she needs to accept your foot/tickle fetish. UNLESS:

1) She's a total control freak, in which case you can forget about the tickling. Loss of control is not too popular with control freaks.
2) She has some deep adversity to feet. If that's the case, you're out of luck entirely. My experience is that you can work your ass off in reassuring her, telling her that her feet are cute and they turn you on, blah blah blah... But chances are she's not going to come around.

My two cents' worth.

-Pete

 

[TickledToDeath]

The simple approach: You said she loves you. Sooooo, try just telling the truth to her. She should understand and use it in your favor. IF you think she may not be accepting of it, mask the truth with saying that seeing her bare feet really assists in you being turned on as does tickling. Use sensual tickling and go from there. It may even turn HER on and the rest.......well........should be self explainatory.

TTD

 

[mosteya4]

Wow, i didnt expect such in depth and sincere responses...I really am not alone out there....behold the power of the internet! Thank you all so much for your advice...I will probably combine a little bit of everything that was said....wish me luck! Ill keep you guys posted about my results