How Do I Tell My Girlfriend About My Fetish?

[JaredG]

Hey all you tickle lovers! I have a question that I figured would be good to post here for me and for anybody else who has this same problem. I am 25 years old and I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for about a month. I always have fun "messing around" with her, (if you know what I mean) but I have one problem: I have an extremely big tickling fetish and I feel that I should tell her about it. The thing is, I have never actually tickled her, but I really want to, especially on her underarms. Every time that she reaches above her head to fix her hair, I look for as long as I can at her hairles, very smooth-looking underarms and I go insane because I want to tie her down, sit on her, and tickle tourtue her underarms soooooo badly. And I do know that she is actualy is ticklish, at least on her neck because whenever I kiss it, she always starts cracking up and playfully tells me to stop because it tickles. Anyway, what I want to know is how should I tell her about my tickling obsesion? Should I just tell her? Should I start tickling her during foreplay? Should I tickle her feet during a foot masage and the ask her where else she is ticklish? If any of you guys or girls have any suggestions for me, please post them. THANKS.

 

[ktickler]

Oh boy, this is a tough one. I am sure that there a lot of different opinions regarding this. So, here goes mine...

Based on the description of your relationship, I would try to find out first if she enjoy being tickled at all and under which conditions, e.g., playful, foreplay, torture, etc.

I like your description regarding sneaking tickles during foreplay or a foot massage and go from there. It looks natural and will allow you to truthfully explore the possibilities. She will not be overwhelmed with the "obsession" discussion and especially the "bondage" situation you want to get into to perform your "tickle torture session".

You have only been dating for a month. You haven't said anything about bondage in your sexual encounters, so I don't think she will necessarilly receive the idea to be tied down and tickled very openly.

Once you are able to introduce tickling to your relationship, whether it is playful of for sexual reasons, then you will be able to get to the discussion about your obession about it and your fantasies. I am sure she will be more open about then because she will know that there is something about tickling that you like. Otherwise, why would you always tickle her? 🙂

 

[MaxDragon]

This worked for me once. If you're having sex with her, it should be easy enough to mention that you find bondage to be a real turn-on. Then if she lets you tie her up, use light touches and kisses on her ticklish spots until she giggles and says it tickles. Say something coy like, "oh you're ticklish? What a great idea. " Then go at it. Don't be mean about it, stop for a while if she complains. If you mix foreplay and tickles she may melt like butter. If she likes it then you can tell her about your turn-on. I wouldn't call it an obsession or a fetish, just a turn-on.

 

[yatsabel1]

I agree with MaxDragon. Avoid words like "fetish", "obsession", etc. If you use "turn-on" it will go much better. Once accepted you can go ito depth about your fetish.

 

[maxamum_sumthin1]

i agree with the above comments, try and work it into sex, etc. this then links tickling with pleaure etc 🙂 which means she is more likly to warm up to it.

Also avoiding words like fetish and obsession, is a very good idea 🙂

i mean, my girlfriend found out by accident sooo..i can't realy help that much, however i wish i had managed to tell her. so my advice to add to this is; don't be afraid, as long as shes a fairly open person, and you don't introduce it in a really negative way, then she'll be ok with it. she might not be able to take all the 'torture' you want her to take straight away, but if you introduce it, in time it may become a turn on for her too 🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

Personally I would let actions speak for you instead of words.
Then let HER bring up the subject of tickling conversation and follow her lead and or answer her questions directly and honestly. I would refrain using the word "fetish" unless she uses it in a positive note.
Actions always speak louder than words amyway.
The rest will fall into place.

TTD

 

[Venom3602]

Avoid the words turn on, obsession, or anything that confuses with a sexual nature. One day when you get into a playful arguement or making out or something. Straddle her ribs. Just for a few seconds, then say something along the lines of "did I ever tell you how much I love the sound of you laughing." But say whatever you say in a playful manner, as if you were really just trying to tease her and not getting your ya yas on. If you're lucky she'll even tell you how she feels about tickling. Eventually you can even integrate it in your sex life provided she's open minded.

In my experience when you openly confess to a girl your fetish they tend to associate you with that fetish and not for who you are. Which is of course bad because you don't want to register in her mind as some kind of pervert. It works out for the better if the girl thinks she is figuring out your fetish on her own. Because then she realises that you're not obsessed with it and thus you don't want to force her into anything.

I wouldn't recomment a foot massage because then you might send the message that you have a foot fetish when you sound more like an upperbody kinda guy. And thats trouble my friend.

Remember, integrating your fetish into a relationship is like reeling in a big fish. You can't do it all in one jerk because then you lose it. You have use a light touch and know when to pull and give it some slack.

 

[its time]

I have had good outcomes and 1 bad. Most women that i have noticed find it fun. If they care about you she will understand that this is a part of your life. You cant go full throttle on this gradually work her up to it. I do agree with darkblade never use any negative words while describing you fetishes. I do have to say one other thing I was in a relationship with someone for two years and she hated being tickled. I was miserable I could get along with out it but why should I and neither should you. If she says no. its time to move on and be with someone who truely understands you. The best thing is to be honest I have tickled so many women because i was honest. Most women find it fun whats there not to like you have fun and laugh. One last thing most of the women love to get you back hey if they can take it so must you .... good luck

 

[Merciless11]

If I were you, I would be very careful with your wording but frankly, I would not use words at all.......just let your fingers do the talking and your actions and reactions as well. Eventually, she will catch on.

Also, you may want to allow her to tickle you and see the reactions it provokes in both you and herself.

M1

 

[Dragon321]

derkitzel, seriously, mate, dont say you having a gf at only 18 is a bad thing... maturity helps a relationship. which may explain why i still dont have a gf (and have never had one) at 19

 

[Dragon321]

oh, and to keep on topic, i agree with everything those other gentlemen said.

 

[stubaru6661]

well, the best (and most fun!) thing i can think of is to wait until you see her with bare feet. then proceed to tickle them. when she laughs/screams/whatever, ask her if she likes it. once she responds (what the response is dont matter) keep doing it, then start tickling her all over like a madman, then when you reach the armpits, keep it there for the remainder. eventually she'll realise your fetish and from then on, you can do it as often as you like.
best i can think of for now - but im sure youll enjoy it!!

 

[i'mbeggingyou]

My boyfriend told me about his love for tickling before I had even discovered that I had a love for being tickled. I was very open to it, I thought it was cool....and I wouldn't have him any other way. You should just be open with her.

 

[deac956611]

Merciless has hit the nail on the head. If you just take it easy and let your fingers find their way to those spots, maybe the two of you can eventually get in a playful tickle fight tickling each other. That would be great fun for all . Good luck on your quest. 😀

 

[2ticklish4u1]

Tough Question

:umm: Well, I know my opinion may be a little late, but I would wait and really get to know her before acknowledging something so personal to you. I also agree with many of my fellow memebers here who advised you to avoid the word fetish or obsession. Believe me, she may not react very well to something this personal coming from you this fast. From a female perspective, let her get to know you and as one of us mentioned earlier in this thread, maybe she will figure out your love of tickling without making a major deal out of it. Since you have only known her for a month, she will probably consider your admission as some sort of embarrasment on your part.
I am curious, does she like to take care of her feet? Is she conscience of the fact that her feet may be appealing to you for instance? The reason I ask is based upon my experiences being tickled, most ticklers love my feet because they find them soft, pretty and appealing to touch. If she is comfortable with you touching them in a positive manner, gentle tickling may become at least a natural progression of future ticklish situations for both of you. Good luck!

 

[Johnny21]

Well my way has proved to be working in a lot of situations.It is veeeeery simple,no obsession,no fetish.Just tell her somehow that you're very ticklish.Then she probably will tickle you,and after that you can get your revenge,and both of you will discover that it is a very sexy thing to do😉