How do you cope when tickling DEPRESSES you?

[BellyTicklerX]

So anyways, lemme make this short, because the last thing you probably want to hear about is my miserable life. Last week my gf who I loved VERY dearly broke up with me for reasons that I have come to realize are mostly my fault.

Before I met her I was primarily a tickler, but she loved to tickle, and although she never tied me up she would usually win in tickle fights and I loved every minute of it. I am still primarily a tickler, but to a certain extent I can be a ticklee as well.

So everything I see reminds me of her, it sucks, and I just keep falling deeper and deeper into depression.

But my favorite thing to do sexually is tickle or be tickled, yet Its so hard to think about it, look at pics, etc without thinking of her in some form of another.

My question is, has anyone else been in this situation?

How do you cope?

Love,
X

 

[bickee]

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. I too have been in that position before. Tickling was not part of our relationship, but many other aspects reminded me of him after the fact. It took a great deal of time, but eventually I began to think of those things as seperate entities again. I'm not going to lie, it takes a long time! But it will happen! Good luck...

 

[Myriads]

As trite as it sounds, time is the best balm.

It's natural to be depressed about things that you once shared with an ex. The relationship has not been gone that long, and it's still very fresh in your mind.

Do some different things, read a book, play a video game, go for a walk. Whatever. In time the things you shared will be less toxic, and perhaps you'll find someone new to share them with...

Myriads

 

[tummyticklish01]

I'm sorry to hear that, but i agree with Myriads. If tickling reminds you of her, just lay off of it for a week and look at all the other great things you still have in your life🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

Sounds as if you need to take a small Sabatical from tickling.

Soon you will find what it is you seek and or need. It may not be her. Then again it may be HER. Time may allow her to forgive you and you can put it all behind you.

After some period of thought and comtemplation, you and her may be able to talk it over.

TTD

 

[terorizer]

BT, I know how you feel and I'm sorry for your pain. I have experienced what you speak of and the truth is, unfortunately, there isn't any magic balm to quicken the recovery and healing. You simply must keep on breathing and living and taking care of yourself. The moments when you can't see how you'll make it another second will turn into minutes, then hours, then days. If you help it just a little bit, your heart will show you why it is the most powerful muscle you have. None of this helps or makes you feel any better right now, but what has been said about time is true. Most, if not all of us are standing on the remains and ashes of broken and burned hearts and dreams... but we all stand a little taller because of them.

 

[UnclStevel]

I'm no psychologist, but I'd say you need to go and have a tickle session with Mia. That would give help associate good times with tickling again 🙂


Steve

 

[TicklishPhoebe]

So sorry to hear of your painful breakup.

The general consensus seems to be a small break. I call it "the time-out chair". The time out chair is where I go (mentally) when I've just had way too much and need to be alone for awhile.

 

[JoBelle]

A different view

I'm sorry you're going through this. Saying I know how you feel won't help.

I personally know that distance from a sore subject, as most suggested here, generally eases MY pain. BUT, for some people that doesn't work. I've a friend who actually needed to immerse himself back into the tickling world quickly as a personal treatment so he could realize that it wasn't his love of the activity that hurt him. It was the individual.Do what works for you. Lost love is hard, no way around it.

Hearts live by being wounded. Know that you'll heal...and you'll love someone again, the RIGHT someone. In the meantime, tickling gave you this outlet of people, so maybe you'll find it won't be a dark subject for long.

Best,
Jo

 

[Rasputin]

Condolences my friend!!!!

GOD HAVE I BEEN WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW!!!!

It seems like every god forsaken thing reminds you of her. Then you feel like you were the cause, and beat yourself up. Been there and done that, and I have the empty bottles of scotch to prove it!

Here's some advice from Rasputin's Rules Of Relationships , soon to be published by Baloneyshack Publishing:

1. We are guys. We will screw up relationships because it is our nature. Then we will beat ourselves up for it. But we can't beat ourselves up forever....we have to learn from what we did wrong and do it right next time, and be that much better!!! About four more serious relationships, and I'll be perfect!
2. TIME!!! TIME!!!! TIME!!!! Time heals all wounds, and sometimes wounds all heels! Don't do anything kneejerk without taking a time out. If I had a nickel for every time that I did something rash and pathetic because I felt shitty, I'd be dictating this to a stripper right now, IN JAMAICA!!!!!!
3. Women are plentiful. Ticklish women are plentiful. Women who tickle are plentiful. Plus I guarantee, if you get back together with your old woman, other new women will crawl out of the woodwork to get you!!!! It's "Rasputin's Cruel Law Of Male Attractiveness": There is a direct relationship between the seriousness of your current relationship, and the amount of women who would like to do you.
4. Your turn ons are your turn ons!!! NEVER EVER EVER EVER NEVER let someone ruin your turn ons by association. Those are yours, to take with you, not to leave with her. They are part of who you are and never let anything interfere with who you are!!! Plus when you are over her, those memories of your ex will come in handy when you are bored with your current squeeze!!!(See rule #1-Guys screw up realtionships).

I hope this helps. I thoroughly apologize for any chauvinistic truths I have said. I don't mean to offend any lady TMF'ers, but I shoot for honesty, not sensitivity.

Yes, I am a better tickler than a motivational speaker!!

You will pull through man, I KNOW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rasputin

 

[Krokus]

Good Luck

Im Rootin' For Ya!! 😎

 

[Biggles of 266]

BellyTicklerX, email me when you want someone to talk to about how evil girls can be. I'm happy to talk to you over yahoo or msn messenger. Email me at [email protected] or add me to msn messenger using that address. Add me to yahoo messenger with biggles_redbaron

Anything I can do to help mate, I'm here. I was in a kinda similar situation and I'd love to help. Seeya,
Biggles