How can I get over my ex-girlfriend of five years I cant sleep, I cant eat, I feel broken, and my body aches as if i were a heroin addict my mind keeps flooding with thoughts of me and her together and the good times we shared I promised myself I wouldn't fall for a girl again and here I 'am now asking for advice I can't believe I let my emotions get to me what good is love if it doesn't last to long and at the end we endure lots of pain I wish
I was numb .
If you have any suggestions of how to getting an ex-girlfriend I would most definitly like to hear them
I feel you buddy. I've been there. And moved on.
Your post is very interesting. The question is as old as man itself....but the context in which you put it in is the interesting part. Namely the heroin addict part and the wishing you were numb part.
Ok. Time for GQ advice!
Love is like a drug! It's addicting. Endorphins and other pleasure hormones are secreted in excess. You feel high. Love is a rush. It's pretty awesome and never forget that. It's a gift from God. NEVER DENY YOURSELF THIS. You deserve love. To deny yourself is to punish yourself....and what was your sin? Surely everyone is worthy of love.
Time heals all wounds sounds great, but that leaves one's life to fate. It's true to an extent but I'm from the school of thought that one creates their own destiny. Want to know how to get over a past love? Fall in love with someone even better than the ex.
I'll repeat that:
Want to know how to get over a past love? Fall in love with someone even better than the ex. If you fall in love with someone that you truly feel is better(better match, more quality person, better looking ect) you will not feel the need to think about the past!
How do you fall in love with someone better quality. Actually the falling in love with someone that is better quality or a better match is easy! It's the finding and attracting that person that is the hard part.
Work on yourself:
Someone that is higher quality will also want an individual that is higher quality. Here's the deal or reality.....you might be the nicest guy on earth...but she'll never know that unless you pass her superficial screening test. All women screen. As do guys. It could be as simple as "does he have a job" or as grandiose as "does he make a million dollars". For the most part however women look for some universal characteristics that will ensure you that you can get your foot in the door. Once your foot is in the door THEN you can show off that awesome personality and whether or not your shoes are dirty doesn't really matter.
So what should you work on?
Well I think every guy knows exactly what their dream girl is attracted to. Be real with yourself. If you want a 5'10" blond with 36 34 36 dimensions it's safe to say she'd prefer a guy that at least worked out several times a week. If you want a woman that is smart...it's safe to say she wants a guy that she can discuss things with and can make her smarter! If you want the career woman that dresses well....well sir....you should be the male compliment of just that.
And when you do meet her. Smile first and make good eye contact the moment you see her. If she smiles back go say hello when you can. I assure you she's looking out for you too.
GQ