How has tickling changed for you?

[WickedTouch]

Have your interests in tickling and your engagement with it changed or evolved over time, and if so, how?

For me: When I was very young I liked tickling and being tickled. As a teenager and young adult, I was much more of a Ler, but that may have been my way of dealing with the lack of female Lers in my life and shaping my identity around that. After a while I once again started to appreciate both sides of it and have identified as a 50/50 switch ever since. Starting out, I mostly sought very intense tickling scenarios only, but have grown to appreciate the full range of tickling intensity. I also used to daydream and fantasize about having real dedicated sessions with others, but never really believed I'd actually get the opportunity–much like reading a fantasy novel that sparks imagination and entertainment, but at the end of the day, you know it's not real. Now I find myself married to a natural Ticklephile and we both have sessions with others as well. I think I've also come to appreciate tickling as a way to connect with others in a deeply raw and human way that I just wasn't self-aware or mature enough to appreciate before.

 

[SoleImage]

I feel like I started out the same way you did, a lot of elaborate fantasies about different tickling situations. As an introvert, it was always hard to find others to play with but I’ve had some great partners. One thing I found along the way was that I enjoy is creating tickling furniture. I started with my own stocks and evolved into slightly more intricate contraptions and ended up creating content because of it! I’ve also found there are a lot of accepting people out there if you aren’t afraid to open up.

 

[GarnettRose]

My husband and I have been practicing kink since we first started dating at 19 and since tickling is my primary kink, we have practiced both general bdsm and specific tickling scenes for nearly ten years. For me, how I interact with tickling has mirrored how I interact with our sex life. There was a time when we were young where we were much heavier into bdsm than we are now. We still enjoy kinky sex, but with increased responsibilities and going through career changes (I don't have the free time of a college student anymore), we don't have as much time or energy to do more elaborate scenes or adhere to a strict protocol. Tickling and kink remain as part of our sex and intimacy lives, but we find more ways to integrate into our daily lives. I get tickled almost every day, but getting tied down and doing a proper scene only happens every once and awhile. One of the things I love so much about tickling is how it can be both an intense sexual experience with my husband and a playful expression of affection and intimacy. When I am tied down and tortured for an hour, I feel terror and exhilaration. In the same beat, when my love pokes my sides or gives me a surprise attack to my poor neck, it makes me feel adored. I am sure our heavier kink involvement will ebb and flow as we progress through our lives, but that is life I suppose.

 

[Wrestledom]

It's become progressively more sexual for me. Some of that is natural as you leave your teens and enter your 20s of course, but if anything it's intensified into my 30s.

I also like to lean in to the power dynamics of it all. I'm more of a dom/ler now as opposed to just a ler earlier.

Finally, there's a world before I had a long-drawn out tickling session with a girlfriend, and a world after. Before that I'd never tickled anyone beyond more than just a couple of seconds. Tying up and tickling someone into submission is a power kick like no other for me, but you also learn a lot about trust and responsibility. It's a big deal for someone especially not from the fetish to allow you to do that to them, and learning how to keep them happy as well through that process has been a big learning experience for me.

 

[WickedTouch]

@GarnettRose Yeah, I can definitely relate to the responsibilities and trying to work sessions into adult life. A lot more intention has to be put into it for us. I think a lot of people that first hear that my wife and I are both into it automatically imagine us just having constant sessions all day everyday, mostly living in their own fantasies and just being unable to relate to reality. But we do have a lot of great experiences and wouldn't trade it for anything!

@Wrestledom Ah, when you said there's the world before and the world after, that's very much how I feel too. Also, we've not had an actual session with someone who isn't a Ticklephile yet, but we've considered looking for those that might be interested. It definitely does sound like it would have the learning curve you mentioned. It makes me much more nervous to try this than meeting up with someone from the tickling community. I'll have to think on it more I guess :/