'How to' for a Ler?

[Closetlee]

So I 'came out of the closet' to my partner and actually showed him the fantasy I posted here, but he doesn't know how to think/act like a 'ler'.

I do, but I don't want to blatantly tell him what to do and how to do it. Is there a way I can 'teach' him to think like a ler with out ruining the experience for myself?

Closet Lee

 

[texastickler]

Simply set up what you want before you do the act. Tickling is fun and I do beieve that your partner will do well if he knows what you want. If all this is planed ahead, th exprience will be incredible. Some people are not made out to be a 'ler. Hopefully your partner will have that gift. Good luck.

 

[hotdog]

You could show him a particular video you like that displays the type of ler you want. Then say, do this. 😉

 

[Angel77]

The vid idea is good! Or just be open on what you're looking for and I think it'll all work out. It sounds like he's willing to take the extra step to indulge in your fetish and who knows? He might have so much fun that he'll be one of "us" soon! Good luck and congrats on opening up to him!

 

[ViperGTS]

Do you ler with him? The best way to learn another language is to be immersed in it - maybe if you ler with him and show him how you want him to make you feel through personal experience, he might start to catch on.

Another idea might be to have another ler, whom you know and trust, to do a session with you as the lee, almost as an instructional session. Your partner could 'take lessons' so to speak, watching what your friend does then replicating it himself. You'll get a double helping of tickling and your partner might learn a thing or two.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Just stress the fact that tickling =/= clawing the fuck out of you with sharp, painful fingernails.

Unless of course that's what you like. I don't. At all.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Yeah I agree it really is a good idea to let your ler/switch know what you enjoy and how you love to be tickled and what tickle tools you would love to be playfully used on you when being tickled or when doing the tickling, let the ler know if you would enjoy being tied up or not.

You can't go wrong letting the ler/switch know what works best and what doesn't work. Communication is key when it comes to indulging the love of tickling or when doing any activity whether a couple or whether just tickling with friends. It is important for it to be mutual and agreed upon and limits respected and honored.

So yeah definitely communicate what you want when being tickled by a ler/switch. That way you both get the most fun and a great time in a tickle session because if you don't share feedback verbally on what works and what you enjoy when tickled-how is the ler/switch going to know, can't read your mind. So yeah let your voice be heard and be a active participant-let your ler know what works best and what you would rather not be done what your limits are.

Voice what you want gently and let your ler know what you would like to happen when being tickled and what tools you want the ler to use when tickling...that way you both can get a good solid idea on what your tickle expectations might be-that way you can meet on a mutual ground-meeting of minds-both be on the same page-that way you can avoid misunderstandings or hard feelings-if one of you expects bit more and your tickle needs are not met and one or both of you could be disappointed if not both on same page.

But most of all just enjoy the tickle session and have a great time and keep it mutual and lighthearted and fun and have a tickle blast.

😉😉😉