How to get "permission"

[eXecutioner]

Just curious, but what are some of the methods we ticklephiles use to get permission to tickle? It's a sad fact that most people aren't into it like we are, so a little creativity is often necessary to convince our significant others (or whoever) that it really ain't so bad.
That said, what are some of your methods?
My method of choice is "the game." A few cards with names of body parts (feet, ribs, underarms, etc.), a few cards with time limits (from one to five minutes), and a timer, and you're set! Draw a body part card and a time card, and have at it!
This has worked well for me in the past, I think because it's kinky and fun without being "weird" (not that tickling is weird, of course...) And it's adaptable, as well... use tools, bondage, whatever you can talk 'em into.
Anyway, that's my method... how about the rest of ya?

 

[Wilson]

My permission usually comes from whatever kind of interaction I already have with that girl. Any playful, borderline physical, friendly relationship permits tickling in my book. For instance, I poked the sides of a girl I'd never touched before today. We ended up joking one another and then when she threw a wad of paper at me, I nipped her sides a couple of times, just for fun. I think that any time a physical relationship can be established, so can tickling be done.

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

If you are with a girl (or guy for you girls here), then tickling is an acceptable boundary to cross as long as you have been somewhat physical (simply kissing is good). However, at first, you should listen when the ticklee says stop. And let her make her own boundaries. If you need to push them later, it must be a joint decision!

 

[P50]

Permission ? Try Asking !

If you are a zealot for abusive tickling; if you only want to see another person in misery and torture; if you demand the 'lee have no happiness or enjoyment from the tickling encounter,,,

then,,,

Don't let these following words impinge on your time.

Else,,,

Allright, here I go blowing one of my favorite trumpets again; yes, it's that old topic: <I>Conversational Tickling</I>

Original Thread...

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?threadid=18716

Once you and your girlfriend become comfortable with conversational tickling (and it doesn't take long), you can dispense with your hidden psychological agenda (let others comment on the health of that) and you can just go ahead and ask, "Can I tickle you ?"

Does this work ?

Yes.

I can tell you stories; true ones; of conversational tickling. It has happened with her feet while we talk on the sofa, with her on the floor while we talk, with her standing, with her in my arms; in fact, "with her" is about all it takes.

Permission is seldom if ever witheld. When it is, I'm honestly glad (even though disappointed for the moment) because she's telling me about a limit I shouldn't cross in the first place. As a result, I <I><B>don't want</B></I> to cross that limit; at least not right now today. She'll drop it later, and it will be better for both of us.

I know that sounds left-winger and non-masculine, but it's really conservative and much smarter for the man (i.e., the 'Ler) and the end result is (or has been for me) that the man['Ler] gets to enjoy much more tickling. The woman['Lee] gets more of it also.

 

[MistressValerie]

I also had mentioned (at another thread) that my standard is "implied" consent, that is, when a relationship has gotten somewhat physical. What I didn't realize is that there are male lers 🙂 (who'd have figured!) who might mistake my flirty conduct as permission to tickle me ... but I am a Mistress (100% ler towards males) and would expect to tickle the male! I have not yet had this misunderstanding occur, fortunately, but there is the potential for embarrassment or worse.

I suppose that the safest course is to ask, which is what I do when I want to tickle a female and I am not sure if she is into fem-fem or not. I know that it ruins the spontaneity, but that is better than possibly ruining a friendship.

Love and laughter,

 

[Ticklish9's]

male 'leeness

makes it a bit different ball game...it seems to me that the majority of my male compadres in tickling are the 'lers, where I am 99.5% 'lee...so basically, there is no asking for permission involved - I just try to make myself a tempting target! Fortunatly, that is remarkably easy. Guess I lucked out by being born a 'lee. 🙂

 

[terorizer]

I don't really have any "methods" per se. Typically the relationship and/or situation dictates my actions. I never tickle anyone I don't have some sort of bond with and with a significant other, she'd have known very early on about my special interest. One of my favorites experiences though happened totally spontaneously on a date when I created this game which all transpired because my date kept putting her feet in my lap, knowing full well she'd get tickled.