How to talk tickling ONLINE

[BellaRisa]

This was posted to one of the tickling mailing lists awhile ago,about being a
gentleman to tk ladies online, and I enjoyed it so much that I got the author's permission to
repost it. Some men have written him with VERY rude comments,
saying it was too long and he doesn't know what he's talking about. but as a women I thought it was accurate and excellent and hit the mark beautifully!

<snort> 'tickle tickle'.....my god.....

Read on:


Hi,

In reply to******<name withheld>

<"Why does it seem as though there aren't many women who are into
tickling? Anybody have a clue"?>

I am a guy into tickling as much as anyone could be...at least in my
humble opinion anyway.....lol.

I have been around online here for going on three years now. There are
MANY, I repeat MANY, of the female persuasion into tickling and believe
me....they are definitely online!!
Most guys.....decent ones that is, if they approach an attractive girl
in a bar, or club or any other scenario, will introduce themselves
(politely) and ask to buy them a drink, or make some conversation in an
effort to sell themselves.

And I have no doubt that most of the male ticklephiles online would do
the same thing out in the physical world.

But.....when they get online, they seem to forget all manners and
civility.
Why??? I don't know??
I can tell you from my own experience that whenever I have contacted a
female that indicates she is into tickling either by her screen name or
her profile, that if I approach her as I would any woman in the physical
world, that 95% of the time I get a response.
And, if they do not already have a boyfriend or husband, most of them
are very willing to talk via IMs/email and sometimes even phone. Also,
most of the unattached ones are even willing to meet. I have met my
dream ticklee online, among many others! Before meeting her, both of us
had no problem finding willing tickle partners.
Here is the problem:
First an example...... I have been in the room when my sexy, pretty
blonde ticklee is online under one of her two tickle screen names and
out of the blue here comes an IM......."Hey baby...want me to tickle
you"? Or.....ding......"Where are you most ticklish"?
Or.....ding......"Wanna tickle me"?
Or......ding......"Tickle Tickle"......(now that IS stupid...lol)
Now here is the interpretation of those lines out of the cyber world and
in the physical world.
"Hey baby.....want me to f**k you"?
Or...."Where do you like to be f**ked the most"?
Or...."Want to f**k me"?
Or...."F**k f**k"
Sorry for the profanity, but it is absolutely true!!!! That is what so
many guys are saying to their prospective ticklees. And of course they
never get any further.
And I know there are those that say they don't associate tickling with
sex and I won't touch that debate. But, regardless of whether you desire
sexual or non-sexual tickling, it's all the same concerning your
approach.
How about instead of a rude IM, send an email. If they are online you
will many times get a response very shortly. And be nice in it!!!!!!
Maybe even try to be cute, funny, personable and most of all a
gentleman. Just as in real life.......the tickling can follow later and
many a hot conversation can be had in a short time.
Just like in real life, you see a girl in a club who is obviously
looking.....that doesn't mean she is just a piece of meat to be told to
"lay down and assume the position bitch"!!
Yes, you and she both know that very possibly BOTH of you want to have
some sort of intimate encounter.....IF I repeat IF, you treat her like a
lady and sell yourself and make her attracted to you, that just might
happen. Why do we forget all manners online??
I never, never IM a woman who is online!!!! (one that I have never met
that
is).
That is just like walking up to her in the middle of talking to someone
else and possibly even talking intimately and just barging right in
shoving them apart and blurting out......"Tickle, Tickle"

What the hell does that mean and what would she do in real life?? She
would either laugh right in your face because you are so stupid!!!
Or, slug you or run because she thinks you are a nut case. Online she is
not as threatened and can't slug you either, so she just ignores you, or
signs off, or responds politely but ends it quickly and you never hear
from her again.
DUH!!!!! Earth to the idiots that don't have a clue on how to pick up a
woman.

Try this......

Find one in a chatroom, or in the profiles or whatever..... Then email
her and wait for a response if she is online. Introduce yourself and be
interesting to her. Simply ask for a reply and the chance to get to know
her. Trust me, the conversation will turn to tickling soon enough IF you
mind your manners and act like a "normal" human being. Also, ever heard
of networking??
So what if she is taken already, but willing to be sociable.....that's
cool,
so make a new friend....you never know who "she" knows.

Bottom line.....

I don't have all the answers. And I'm not Mr. Don Juan. But I know how
to be normal, civil and a nice guy and I don't mind taking a few
hours/days or even longer to get to know a woman before getting to the
tickling.
If she has indicated a desire of tickling, then believe me, she and you
will get there.
But.....you have to get past that meeting stage first and that is where
90% of the guys miss the boat and drown.

There are hundreds of women that love tickling out there!! But, and I'm
sorry for being so long winded, why would they walk outside on the
street in plain sight if they knew they would be accosted by numerous
idiots and bubbas all shouting "hey wanna f**k.....", "let me f**k
you"......., or "tickle, tickle", or "let me tickle you out of your
mind". The answer is they would never come out. And surprise,
surprise.....they don't want to come out in the open here either.
You should see some of the garbage my ticklee gets when she makes even
one post on one of the lists. She alternately laughs at some, just
deletes others without getting past the first sentence, or gets
downright mad at how piggish some guys are.

Guys, they are out there. Honest!!!!!

A little style and being a gentleman and you can find all you could ever
want. The worn out, stupid, inane and otherwise tasteless approaches
will work once in a while.....like once out of a thousand tries. But, I
would hate to see the woman who would be attracted to those ignorant
lines.

So, there is my two cents worth. Or in this case maybe a hundred dollars
worth.....lol.

But, try it guys......you just might be surprised!! 😱)
Happy tickles!!!!!

 

[Deleted member 2452]

thanks for re-posting it bella

that guy had a lot on the ball. he'd be a nice guy to have as a friend. i too saw a lot of what he was talking about back when aol had the tickling chat room. i was amazed at the antics, and down right nastiness of some of the guys.
thanks again
steve

 

[P50]

Okay, Converse Perspective (another long post)

My problem is just the opposite; I feel too chicken to send even the simplest "Hello" via E-mail.

As your copied-post has made clear, the women <I>are</I> out there. Asking them is a different matter.

Conversely, as I have postulated elsewhere, the numbers are not telling the truth: there are far more of us than our mass media want to report. (Let's start another thread on that elsewhere.)

The various fears I can name right off the top of my head are...


1. She'll publicize our meeting (and more importantly our interest) to my acquaintences so that my paycheck and/or social circle will be harmed (or eliminated).


2. It won't work out and it will be another heartache or headache (or both) for at least one of us; and probably both of us.


3. It won't work out and she'll tell other TMF members a bunch of lies about me.


4. She's lying (and we're talking gross misrepresentation here) about her physical appearance.


5. Her main interest in me will be my finances. Girls, a guy <I>should</I> work and take care of himself (including his own wallet) and if he wants to become serious he should first be able to take care of <I>two</I> of himselves (who cares if that's a word) but when finance is first, friendship is last, and romance will never happen.


6. She'll reject me with an insult. Honest, girls; we guys get all the rejection from women we need. Receiving insulting rejections from someone whose total knowledge of you is purely digital (and totally written, no visual nothing) will kill interest, and I mean real fast. Not only will it kill interest now, but it will kill future interest in others. (Women, keep this in mind if you read further into this post)


7. I'm too old, and she'll say so bluntly. (Not exactly the same as number 6, but quite close.)


8. She's too old or too young, and I'll have to say so in a manner that won't hurt her feelings (which will be impossible).


9. She works in the cubicle next to mine.



So what do all these fears create ? In a word: nothing.

Nothing typed on the keyboard; Nothing in your E-mail box; Nothing sensible from any sensible guy; Nothing that could ever turn into any workable lifestyle; and the biggy...

Nothing that will ever lead to you going on a date.



What do you get instead ? Ultra-Dork ! the man who scares you without even being in the same room. (Just being on the same planet is bad enough.)

With all these threats present (screening out every nice guy and scaring away anyone with one working molecule in his brain) the women then complain about getting all those messages from the Ultra-Dorks of the world.

Duh.

Some day, someone may figure out a way to eliminate those threats, and when that happens; every woman on the TMF will have a new problem: too many nice guys, exactly the age you want, exactly the race you want, exactly the hair you want, physically fit, educated, etc. They'll have normal jobs and play sports and play music and have a decent car and will keep their living quarters in reasonably neat order and,,,, they'll even be just a tad handsome.


With those threats, only Ultra-Dork will approach you.

Eliminate those threats, and prepare for the floodgates of nice guys.

 

[Phineas]

lol, P50. good observation.

believe it or not, posts and comments like bella's (the article itself, not what bella usually says) were the kinds of things that made me leery of approaching women when I was dating, online or off. You hear women complain all the time about the socially inept guys who hit on them, and I didn't want to inadvertantly be classified as one of them if I chose to say the wrong thing. So I didn't look much.

 

[ticklemad]

Thats a great post Bella. Many a time have I been in a chat room or received an email that has been lets just say very blunt and downright rude. The guys dont even give you a name, just wanna know the facts straight out. How about an introduction guys and at least some basics like Hi, my names, I live in the Nth, sth east etc, saw your name on x y z. Rather than "Hi, if I tickle you will you climax(only not using quite that word) and do you tickle dicks!!!. I'm not kidding you, that is what I've had, and I'm afraid some of the people that have been here.
When I fail to respond in a way they like - as a waman you get acused of being frigid, a cock tease, not serious etc.
Manners has to work both ways, but please if you approach someone, lets all try to do it in a way we'd like to be treated ourselves.