i feel like a loser *cries*

[Powerhousegym04]

i just read the post by iluv2betickled bout her new soon to be bf

and it just kills me cause everybody is hooking up except for me idk why, i mean i thought this girl liked me i mean her and i were "dating" but turns out she was just using me to get her old bf back *who by the way im going to break his face but thats my choice* its like why cant i get a break i feel like a nobody i mean i dont have any friends , girls dont give a rats ass about me , i mean idk im lonley

and i just am sick and tired of everything

sick and tired of bein a nobody but im mostly sick and tired of having nobody

 

[RottingLies]

Relax Powerhousegym. Not everybody has to find a girlfriend or boyfriend to be happy and content. There are alot of single people out there that want to re-main just that single. They have never been married or dated anybody. And thats just fine with them. But what ever you do in your life i hope its for the best and best of luck to you with whatever in life.

take care

 

[Powerhousegym04]

but i dont wanna be single ive been single too long and every time i think i find a gf , something goes wrong , this time it was horriable , i mean idk what to do anymore im a nobody

 

[RottingLies]

then go out and meet some girls and talk and be socialable and get to know them thier hobbies interests music tastes etc....

NObody is gonna bring a girlfriend to you and say here ''have this girl she'll be your girlfriend''. you gotta go out there and seek them out yourself

 

[Powerhousegym04]

haha thats wishful thinking , but believe me i try i really do , its just i never really had experience with talking to girls cause im a senior in high school my first two years of high school i was a blimp i was so fat , but i started workin out and i lost like 35 pounds and put on like 25 pounds of muscle , so i really never had the experice to talk to girls , and now when i try i always screw up and i never am able to keep a convo going and laot of girls think im ugly

 

[CellarDweller]

im a senior in high school my first two years of high school i was a blimp i was so fat , but i started workin out and i lost like 35 pounds and put on like 25 pounds of muscle , so i really never had the experice to talk to girls , and now when i try i always screw up and i never am able to keep a convo going and laot of girls think im ugly

Hello PowerHouse.

I hope you don't mind advice from someone who "plays for the other team", lol, but I can share my experiences with you.

I didn't date much (at all) in high school because I wasn't out. I also was overweight, and took alot of abuse because of my sexuality, and basically hated myself.

1st, congrats on your weightloss. I have just dropped 75lbs, and I can understand the hard work behind it.

2nd, no girl is gonna find you attractive until you find yourself attractive. If you go around thinking that "girls find you ugly" that will reflect in your body language, lack of confidence, and the way you react to anyone. I'm not saying act stuck up or that you are God's gift to anyone, but start to make sure you are standing upright when you walk. Look people in the eye. Speak clearly and confidently, don't mumble. I can tell you, this works. Since I've dropped the weight, I've done all the above. People now tell me that I am more self assured, and when I walk into a room, I look like I own the place. Honestly, I used to wish girls would hit on me when I was in school, and in the closet. Now that I'm out, but looking better and feeling confident, women hit on me now. LMAO!!!!

3rd, no woman is going to walk up to your door and say, "Hey, I'm here to date you." You need to go find them once you get your confidence up. Try looking into clubs at school. The school paper, yearbook club, key club, things like that. Avoid clubs that would be geared toward guys like woodshop or things like that. Go for the mixed/co-ed clubs.

I wish you luck. Look at it this way. You are doing this while you are still young. Because I came out so late, and waited even later to figure this stuff out, I'm starting to date at the age of 35! :wooha:

 

[alchemy1]

Dude, keep in mind that high school is just one 4 year long popularity contest. With absolutely no offence to anyone, most high school girls are flakey. Wait until you get to college, then they start to realize that the contest is over, everyone lost, and now they have to start growning up and treating people decently. I'll tell you something man, you remind me of me when I was in high school. I never had a gf in high school either (and it wasn't from lack of trying). You see, I refused to be part of the "in" crowd. I just wanted to do my own thing, but I always wanted some companionship as well. You know what's really sad, I kept a tally my senior year of how many times I was rejected for dates. I think by the end of the year I was up to 35 or so. Yup, 35 rejections and not one "yes" in an entire year. You know what though, none of that really bothers me anymore. I'm a semi-successful metal musician signed to Brain Ticket of Century Media whos band is working on their second album. I've opened for bands such as Helloween, Savatage, Hellstar, Seven Witches, and Fates Warning. Always remember, success and happiness in your life is the best revenge for all that high school bullshit.

 

[Powerhousegym04]

congrats on yoru weight loss too , are you weight trainning now or just still doing cardio?

and second of all ya i know i gotta find my self attractive but i mean that dont really matter im not gonna date my self , it matters if girls think im good looking

i mean they dont give me the chance i deserve they pass me over and sell me short

i mean some girls that go to the gym are around my age but they are all beautiful and alot of them have bfs and none of them would date me , the problem is i dont have the experience on talking to girls , idk anymore eveyr time i think ive found somebody something happens and it all gets screwed up

and ya i do look for girls but i can never keep them intrested im just tired of it all

im sick of trying its getting to the point where im about to give up *im not talking about killing my self in case anybody thinks that*

 

[Powerhousegym04]

congrats on the metal thing , im more of a punk rock dude and idk anymore college is gonna be harder how will i meet girls and talk to them if i cant even do that in high school i mean if i cant talk to them now how will i ever keep a convo going i just choke up and i never know what to say or anything

idk girls think im ugly too

 

[CellarDweller]

congrats on yoru weight loss too , are you weight trainning now or just still doing cardio?

I'm doing a mix of both. I do a workout video in the morning, before work. After work, I hit the gym. Mon, Wed, and Fri I work legs. Tues, Thurs, and Sat, I do arms, chest back. Work abs every day.

After dinner, about 8, I hit the park to walk/jog around 4 miles.

If you want to check out the before & after, go to my website, and look for the page titled "ChuckD's Evolution".

http://chuckd.clubfreestyle.net

As for the girls not keeping an interest in you, it could be because you are dating people who are too different from you. Find women with the same interests, whether it be music, or tv/movies.

Also, keep up on current affairs. Read the paper, watch the news. It will give you topics to talk about.

 

[masterandticklee]

Desperation is worse than perspiration when it comes to women. The needier you seem the farther they will run. An ugly cycle. You'e doing an awesome job getting your body into shape. My advice to you is to invest time and effort into yourself..go to school get good grades...get that six pack..and pecs going. You'll feel alot better about yourself and will increase your self worth.As soon a you respect yourself everyone else will and the ladies will come flocking. It's all about inner game. You are the only variable in your life that you can change. Make yourself interesting..take up a cool hobby...something badass like snowboarding/surfing/skating. Do razy fun stuff so when you're out...you're the interesting one. Have fun!!!
Pat Croche is my hero.
GQguy

 

[Powerhousegym04]

wow first off you did loose alot of weight im impressed , and i dont think there are girls with the same intrests as me

 

[Powerhousegym04]

i got the pecs going and the six pack is comming along

 

[nessonite1]

Wow! That is a pretty dramtic transformation! Way to go, man!

 

[masterandticklee]

sweet dude...just keep trying to better yourself. When it comes to attracting women it's 80% confidence and 20%looks. We guys are lucky...for the most part women are held to a much higher standard when it comes looks.
dude..check out this link...IMHO this guy has alot to teach all men. If you internalize what he has to say you will become successful with women.
http://www.fastseduction.com/mailbag/
GQguy
p.s. At the very end of each "e-mail" he tries to sell you his book. I bought it so if you're interested I could hook you up with it.

 

[Drago691]

Hm...

I should've started earlier myself to try and get into shape. I am fat right now, myself. 267 pounds. I started walking and stuff last year, and just drinking water, rather than coke or something, and I went down from like 310 or so. I am going to go to the gym after christmas.

You're not the only one looking for someone, powerhouse. ^^ I've wanted a girlfriend for the longest time - even if just the 'friend' part of it. I have friends, but they're not great... they're always out getting drunk, stoned, etc. which I don't do, and every time I see them they make fun of me, and just every other word out of their mouths is an insult. They also don't like anything I do, so they're always making fun of me for that stuff. Anyway, just be happy you don't have friends like that. 😀 I am gonna stop talking to them soon, whee.

I am in my fifth year of high school, which I am not in the least bit proud of, but meh. For about four of those years I may have only talked to about one girl in school. I talked to about three this year, yippee. I am not all that good at it, but meh. I have a really low self-esteem, so I still find it hard to believe that any girl would want to talk to me - especially because of how I look at the moment.

The only girl I've really talked to for long periods of time, and about, well, everything, is this girl on the internet that I met in the summer on City of Heroes, an online computer game. We've talked about so much, and I even told her about my tickling fetish, and she thought it was fine, and even talked to me about it. I told her my foot fetish, too, and on webcam, she showed me her feet every now and then. She's the greatest. ^^ I am, like, obsessed with her... even though it's over the internet, I like her a lot, and I would give anything to be able to meet her someday. Talking to her on the phone is the greatest thing in the world to me, 'cause she has the greatest voice, and laugh, and... yeah. She, obviously, doesn't feel near the same about me, but that's to be expected. I don't know how sad I seem to you, because of what I just told you, but it doesn't matter.

Anyway, I think I've gone on long enough. I am completely unhappy with my life up to this point, so I'll be trying to make myself better, just as you all will be. 😀

Good luck.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

I agree with GQGuy's first post. This type of thing really is an internal struggle of esteems. Respect yourself first and take care of you first and the rest will follow. ^^

 

[Powerhousegym04]

you know something , the ironic thing is , tonight my friend was having her b day party and i wasnt plannin on going , then the last second i decided to go and at the end of the night i got a gf , spooky

 

[CellarDweller]

wow first off you did loose alot of weight im impressed

Wow! That is a pretty dramtic transformation! Way to go, man!

Thanks PH and Nessonite! It's been some hard work, but I'm really feeling the benefits.

I love dancing, and started the diet/exercise when I went out with some friends dancing, and could only get through one song, and then was out of breath.

Last month, my brother got married, and I spent the whole reception on the dance floor. I hadn't been able to do that in a loooooong time.

 

[CellarDweller]

you know something , the ironic thing is , tonight my friend was having her b day party and i wasnt plannin on going , then the last second i decided to go and at the end of the night i got a gf , spooky

Well there you go!

 

[Powerhousegym04]

its weird shes really nice , its really not offical i gotta see if its not a fluke if monday she sees me in sc hool and she comes up to me and we kiss then i know its not a fluke and its for real ,

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Good things come to those who wait. See? This may be the start of a wonderful relationship. Good for you. ^__^

 

[Powerhousegym04]

i hope so

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Confidence is key, and be yourself. If you start off as someone you are not, it could ruin everything thereafter.