I hate bondage!!!

[hotchytick2]

I realize I might be in the minority here, but I am so tired of seeing bondage. I never understood it to begin with. Why tie someone up and force them to be tickled? It seems kind of sick to me, even on a fantasy level. I know what you are going to say, some people liked to be t and t'd but even on some level I thing there is something kind of screwed up about that. I've always thought tickling should be spontanous and fun. I've always enjoyed the pics, stories and video's in here where the ticklee is alowing herself to be tickled without bondage....just my opinion.

 

[Bebob4999]

And a respected opinion it is😉

But everyone thinks something different

no one is the same, thats why we are such a unique species

Some people like it free, others tied up, and get just as uch fun out of it

I prefer both, and thus get both sides of the cake😀

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I'm with you about half-way. I love seeing a girl get tied up and tickled, but nothings better, to me anyway, than tickling someone who's able to squirm around (tho you always have to look out for those fists and feet). I do get disappointed that nearly all tickle media needs some bondage to get peoples attention. I mean, yeah, I know that's what 95% of the people want, and I like it sometimes too, but it seems when non-bondage stuff does gets posted, most of the responses are "Tie her down of GTFO."...

 

[ticklefiend30001]

Bondage...

Yo Hotchytick, maybe I can offer a little understanding. I obviously can't speak for all, but I personally have thought long and hard about this fetish I have and why I have it and where did it come from, and on what level does it really play in to my personality. Part of that made me ask the queston, why do I like the bondage element.

What I found with myself, on inspection, was that my tickling fetish works on 2 levels, I love to make a woman laugh, ofcourse this works as a matter of flirting, and is, according to every survey they supposedly do of women, one of the top three, and usually the top thing a woman wants in a man.

More specifically to bondage, to be dreadfully honest, I think I spent a lot my teen years absolutely scared stiff (pun totally intended) of beautiful women, and when I was interacting with them I certainly felt like I was not in control of the situation. So today, to have a beautiful woman willingly get in to bondage and allow me to tickle her, the control that I have over her in the moment in a rush.

Also, understand that bondage is a consensual thing, and that the bonded lee is in reality no less allowing herself to be tickled that a non bonded one. The only difference is that in media formats it can be made to look otherwise. There are some exceptions to this ofcourse, the non consenual videos being one of them, but remember that those vids are quite a touchy subject for most.

 

[Violetta]

Bondage is a game of control and trust. Many of us in the fetish scene find it a very intense experience to allow ourselves to give up control over ourselves or take control from someone else, if only for a limited amount of time. It affects things on a mental and emotional level, forcing the bound into a position where they can no longer control things and must accept whatever is given to them. It puts the entire encounter on a level beyond simple physical stimulation and adds a psychological aspect to it.

Is sneaking up and goosing someone's ribs fun? Yeah. Is grabbing their feet and going at their soles? Heck yeah. Will either of these two things ever play to basic psychological desires of control, peril, or trust? Never.

I'm not saying bondage is an end all and be all to tickling or sexuality in general and that those who don't enjoy it don't understand sex. But, c'mon. I don't wanna hear anyone call it "sick" just because they don't understand it. There's room enough to just go about your business and find what you enjoy. Leave the rest of us to the things we like. Everyone goes home happy, whether their beds have cuffs on them or not.

 

[skull108]

eh like already stated some like some don't depends on the persons.

 

[P[a]pi]

Haha bondage isn't sick as long as the bound person has consented.

It's just fun and sexy. And you can tickle someone much more intensely and longer if they're restrained.

I love bondage!!!

 

[duck171]

I like it both ways. I dont like really heavy bondage though, just enough to be safe and have fun. What I mean to say is I like the lee to be able move and squirm a little as opposed to being completely bound with no movement at all.

 

[Kalamos]

I guess I am going to post a comment to the - yet - unspoken reply: "don't you carp my favourite fetish".

While fetishes can evolve over time, and explanations are always welcome, turn-ons and turn-offs tend to be a rather personal matter.

You can learn about a fetish. You cannot usually learn the fetish itself.
Either you have a fetish. Or you do not.

It is not just a matter of ignoring a fetish's perks.
It is more like being colour blind: if you cannot see the coloured spots, the picture itself does not make quite as much sense to you, as it does to others.

...

What can we do?
We can only remember not everybody shares the same cup of tea we do, so we won't get too upset at the odd negative remark we are bound to get, sooner or later.

...

So, does the original poster find bondage sick?
Unicuique suum.

He's free to voice his dissent. I am free to voice mine.
Unless dissent becomes all out strife, I'm still fine with it.

 

[TKLVR181]

I'm with Sammi on most points but disagree on one...the unbound aspect can, for some at least, totally have the psycological aspect. Senshi often requires that I ask for tickles before I get them...that is, IMHO, a total power game and a trust one--it's not something I can ask easily. Anybody that's been here longer than three days probably knows that😛

Is it overused? I agree, probably. Last few days I've been having fantasies of my Senshi randomly deciding he's gonna tease me, chase me down, and tickle me into submission😱 But like has been said, it's a matter of taste, and I totally respect those who disagree with me. Heck, I love being tied up by Senshi!!😱

~K

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

We all have our opinions, nothing wrong with that. You don't like bondage, no problem. I enjoy tickling with or without.

I know it's cliche but it does depend on the person. People are into it. It's their fantasy to either be in control or be controlled by another. I knew a girl who was very much into the helpless damsel fantasy, it excited her. She was smart and intelligent, a normal person, it was just her fetish.

The tickling can be just as non-consensual without the involvement of bondage.

I do understand your wish to see more variety, in that I agree. I'd love to see more situational tickling here. It's all great, but there is too much of the same thing.

 

[Ivanho22]

it's ture bondage isn't for everyone, i for one love it, both tieing and being tied up. I also have fun with tickling as well with no bondage what so ever and can still have an intimate time with my girl.
Bondage itself is being restricted and held and thats where the thrill is, being controlled is the key to this. Most of the girls and guys you see here are not being forced to do anything they don't want to try at least once.

 

[Camel26]

I love CONSENTING to giving myself up to my partner...and having her do what she wants to me for as long as she wants. Whether that means she ties me up, or holds me down on her own (she's deceptively strong). Either way, I'll take it...

However, I am extremely claustrophobic...and don't trust easily...so for someone to be invited to tie me up, hold me down, or any other form of bondage...well, I need to trust them INHERENTLY...the ONLY person who has ever tied me down, besides my ler, is a friend from this site who I have hung out with repeatedly...I understand and respect the starter of this thread's opinion--bondage, if done without consent, IMHO, is wrong. With consent, and trust, however, it can be fun.

I respect both ends of the spectrum. Amen to variety! 😀

 

[TKLVR181]

bondage, if done without consent, IMHO, is wrong.

HERE HERE!

 

[Dannigrl]

Everyone likes pizza their own way!

Everyone has their own quirks. I always say don't knock it till you've tried it. Nothing wrong with no bondage tickling. Sounds great and have indulged myself many times.

Consensual or nonconsensual (long as no one gets hurt), I love bondage. The tighter and more creative the better. Few reach those levels in tickling.

There's a whole psychological aspect to tickling mostly misunderstood by ticklers, and part of that is tickling is a part of s/m- whether playful or not. It is still a power exchange of sorts in the playful fashion.

This psychological aspect as I've come to read on another site also has a very simple and common explaination for those on the receiving end. Most people for one reason or another associate guilt with having pleasure and need to overcome this. An extreme example of this is a masochist- but we all have it to some degree Professors agree.

However, when tied your subconscious then offers up the excuse of "I can't move, I'm helpless, therefor I have no guilt over what's about to happen to me and I might as well enjoy it".

For ler's, it's more about power exchange or control.

Something a little off this thread but also interesting: in 1975 there were an estimated 100 or less verified ticklers. As of 2006 there are over 175,000 verified ticklers worldwide.

 

[NMKamikaze1]

That's one thing we have in common. I hate bondage, too.

 

[hotchytick2]

Thanks for all the post. Just for the record I have done bondage my self, but really didn't like it. There is just some sadistic about it that never sat right with me. The best experience for me has always been when the girl is surprised and enjoys the tickling in a spontanous situation.

 

[Cavum]

Thanks for all the post. Just for the record I have done bondage my self, but really didn't like it. There is just some sadistic about it that never sat right with me. The best experience for me has always been when the girl is surprised and enjoys the tickling in a spontanous situation.

Whats wrong with being sadistic? Every heard of the three S'es?
Read Sammi's awnser....even if it's not your thing, it's idiotic of you
to call it sick. 🙄


How ever...I like settings where the girls ain't tied up as well, but that is more mindplay again.
To get a girl to sit stil and take tickling without removing her foot, for example, is a really cute thing. If she fails...punish time 😉 hehe. Is that something that would fit good in a tickling video btw?

 

[Camel26]

I would love a scenario where my lady gets a bit rough, taking me by surprise and tying me up (as I've said, for a short, girlie thing, she's deceptively strong and could easily take control) without me asking for it or hinting at it...and then she gets to do whatever she wants...THAT is hott...but she already has my consent, because she's my partner/lover/ler...so it's all good in the hood...

Word.

😎

p.s: Mmm...delicious pizza...

 

[TKLVR181]

I would love a scenario where my lady gets a bit rough, taking me by surprise and tying me up (as I've said, for a short, girlie thing, she's deceptively strong and could easily take control) without me asking for it or hinting at it...and then she gets to do whatever she wants...THAT is hott...but she already has my consent, because she's my partner/lover/ler...so it's all good in the hood...

Word.

😎

p.s: Mmm...delicious pizza...

Senshi and I talked about that scenerio and how much I'd love it; like you said, Camel, he's had my consent and knows it. He swears it's coming when he comes in December😱 :super_hap

~K

 

[TheChameleon]

I personally enjoy "human bondage" over anything else, IE, being unable to get away from a person based on that person stopping me.

Which, probably gives a reason as to why I find taller and stronger women to be more attractive to me than short and petite ones. Though, I have to say, I can easily be attracted to either.

 

[TKLVR181]

I personally enjoy "human bondage" over anything else, IE, being unable to get away from a person based on that person stopping me.

Which, probably gives a reason as to why I find taller and stronger women to be more attractive to me than short and petite ones. Though, I have to say, I can easily be attracted to either.

It's totally awesome when Senshi just pins me down😱!!!

 

[Sockstickler]

This is definitely an interesting topic. I too am in part of one side, part of the other. It depends on my mood. As a tickler, to me, if someone will let me tie them up and tickle them, it shows they put a lot of trust in me not to abuse that, and I like that. I think you can have a lot of fun with bondage if you go about it right. On the other side of the ropes/stocks/handcuffs, whatever you choose, I've never been in that position myself, so I can't really say one way or the other until I try it, except to say that, if it's someone I do trust, I would be willing to give it a shot. But then, I'll try anything once.
Would I want to do the bondage stuff 100% of the time though? No, I can't say as I would. I also really enjoy tickling with the other person free to move and wiggle around, and to a degree, being tickled in that position as well. That can be a lot of fun too, and a very playful kind of tickling, which most of the time happens to be my favorite kind of tickling. That's the kind you can do when you don't want things to get too serious, when you're just playing around. To me, that's a time to sort of put the fetish part of it on the back burner and kind of get back to the lighthearted side of our fetish.
Is one any better than the other 100% of the time? No, I'd say not. I believe both kinds of tickling have their place in our favorite pasttime. I won't say one's any better than the other, nor will I say one's any worse than the other. As far as I'm concerned, it's all good both ways.

 

[Meka1]

I realize I might be in the minority here, but I am so tired of seeing bondage. I never understood it to begin with. Why tie someone up and force them to be tickled? It seems kind of sick to me, even on a fantasy level. I know what you are going to say, some people liked to be t and t'd but even on some level I thing there is something kind of screwed up about that. I've always thought tickling should be spontanous and fun. I've always enjoyed the pics, stories and video's in here where the ticklee is alowing herself to be tickled without bondage....just my opinion.

well as a lee, i personally don't see any other way to really be tickled with out involving bondage. Yeah my boyfriend playfully tickles me sometimes just for fun, but when we have a full blown sesson bondage has to be used. Theres no way you and your lee can do a 45 min session with no bondage, unless you're barley tickling her, or she's not very ticklish at all other wise you'll probably get a kick or punch to the face.

Also, people don't use bondage to "force" anyone to do anything. Its not like we're kidnapping people and tieing them up and tickling them against their will. lol, that's just silly to think that way.

There's absolutly nothing wrong with using bondage, and there is definately nothing "sick" about it.

 

[Sockedfeetlee]

well as a lee, i personally don't see any other way to really be tickled with out involving bondage. Yeah my boyfriend playfully tickles me sometimes just for fun, but when we have a full blown sesson bondage has to be used. Theres no way you and your lee can do a 45 min session with no bondage, unless you're barley tickling her, or she's not very ticklish at all other wise you'll probably get a kick or punch to the face.

Also, people don't use bondage to "force" anyone to do anything. Its not like we're kidnapping people and tieing them up and tickling them against their will. lol, that's just silly to think that way.

There's absolutly nothing wrong with using bondage, and there is definately nothing "sick" about it.

Here Here!!! I agree with you Meka. I am sick and tired of ppl thinking that bondage is bad or wrong. Its not. Now i realize that in some cases bondage is not approiate, but if it is consenual then its not "sick" I wish People would understand that