I have no idea what kind of woman is right for me

[kalaxa]

Going to sites like this and fetlife, I had the hope of trying to find a girl who shared my ticklish fetish, but I realize now that its pretty silly to try and base any sort of relationship on fetishes alone. Rather the advice I seem to get is to try and find someone normally and ease her into tickling play. They say even if she doesn't like to not get discouraged. Only thing I am not sure what sort of woman would go for me in an intimate fashion. This isn't coming from low self esteem per se, rather I am basing it off how I act and what I like. I am not the most outgoing or friendly person. That isn't to say I can't be nice or don't like to do things but I like having the freedom to do the things that pleases and certain types of people can annoy me. I find it hard to type out my personality too, most people just say "Oh I'm a friendly, loving, caring person who likes to have fun", while for me I find myself hesitant in even typing this. I am not afraid of expressing myself and to be honest I am not sure why I act the way I do. I get the fact that two people liking each other has nothing to do really with surface level tastes such as music or clothing, but I can't help but wonder where exactly to meet anyone. Websites for me offer a convenient choice, but almost never turn anything positive up. As much as I would like to meet the "right" girl, it does beg the question of how.

 

[Bothersome]

This may be a naive point of view, but I'd say go to places that you'd find yourself enjoying.

If you share shallow things like clothing and music in common with a girl, then there's a pretty good chance you'll find one in those areas that share the less shallow tastes. If there's one thing I've learned in my short time on this planet, it's that you shouldn't try and force a relationship.

I'm not exactly a love guru, so you should take what I say with a grain of salt.

 

[Leo tickles]

I'm pretty much anti social in most situations but have a girlfriend who's the most social, optimistic person you'll ever meet.

It's all about how you feel about each other based off of your experiences on your first few dates. Contrary to popular belief, same taste in music and movies doesn't make two people OMGSOULMATES. It's about putting in enough time and doing different things with a girl to see if you click or not.

Or, just take her to a super store parking lot and talk in the car for hours.

 

[kopfhorer]

Or, just take her to a super store parking lot and talk in the car for hours.

Don't laugh, people. It's actually a wonderful way to spend time with a partner!

 

[c7_assassin]

So far, I've found the types of girl I'm not compatible with include nice girls, bad girls, slutty girls, virgins, religious, goth, older, younger, stripper, girls next door, girls gone wild, and Asian. So your guess is as good as mine, bro.

P.S., words of wisdom:

Contrary to popular belief, same taste in music and movies doesn't make two people OMGSOULMATES.

 

[Jagermeistered]

As much as I would like to meet the "right" girl, it does beg the question of how.

You basically want the ends without the means? Meeting a partner is not a destination, but a journey... Yes, that is a very cheesy cliché, and it is very unpleasant. Unless, you can prove wrong...

 

[Bothersome]

To be fair, I think the P&R forum is a pretty good example of how people who don't agree on anything get along.

Does it make the relationship? Not a chance.

Does it help? I find that it does.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I say, don't think about finding a woman. Think about making friends with people in general, and about developing your interests. It's when you're the least in need of a woman that she'll appear, and nothing you do to make it happen will make it happen. Final note: Don't think about what impression you make. Think about what kind of person you want to be, and be it.

 

[scorpionldr]

So far, I've found the types of girl I'm not compatible with include nice girls, bad girls, slutty girls, virgins, religious, goth, older, younger, stripper, girls next door, girls gone wild, and Asian. So your guess is as good as mine, bro.

P.S., words of wisdom:

I'm incompatible as well. Even better is I'm pretty much the perfect creep considering I meet no one despite tons of reachout

The one thing I have going for me is I'm in a one man band

 

[CodeZero]

I have no idea who's right for me either. But I don't concern myself with that fact. I don't actively search but just go with the flow and see where I end up.

 

[wishful1234]

Wise people have told me that people have to work at becoming "soul-mates", you don't start out that way instantly. A fetish is a very important aspect of your life and shouldn't be ignored in a relationship.

Values, interests, beliefs, work-ethic, and humor are also huge important aspects of a relationship as well.

I've found if a woman likes you (especially a young-ish woman) she'll get into pretty much whatever you're into- as they say, a turned-on partner is always a turn-on. Tickling is also a very intimate form of bonding with another person, so even if she's not into it at first she may truly come to enjoy it.

Then again I'm not one to ask about relationships- I'm single by choice nowadays cause I found some fatal flaws in my personality that seem to make a serious relationship impossible (till I fix them)