I have never cared to admit it, but due to the events of last night (not saying for personal reasons) I will admit that I have a serious drinking problem.....I would be grateful if anyone here at the TMF could give me some advice on how to stop drinking.....I hate to bother all of you here with this type of problem, but I need help.....drinking has been my weakness for about 2 years now.....I honestly do not know where or how to start.....And this is the only place I have real friends at really.....Any advice would be priceless to me right now.....Thanks
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I Need Help
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First,of all I won't preach about the dangers of drinking I think we all know what they are.I will admit to you I was a drunk,I would get up and drink all day long.Drinking was all that I did my friends told me I needed help,but I thought "What do they know".Well,one day my best friend came by and said let's go get a beer and next thing I knew I was in rehab.Drinking will control your life it did mine until that day I got put in rehab.I spent 30 days drying out and being real pissed that my friend would do this to me.
Well,he did me the biggest favor of my life I spent that time thinking and putting my options together and when,I got out I decided that was the way I was going to stay.I have been sober for 17 years.You don't need the booze I know because I been there.If you don't think you can just quit and that is what you want I say seek help many good places to help you.But,one thing I have realized in my life,the only one who can help you is you,if you don't want to change you won't.
This applies to all vices I smoked for 24 years and finally quit it takes will power and desire.
Good Luck
Well,he did me the biggest favor of my life I spent that time thinking and putting my options together and when,I got out I decided that was the way I was going to stay.I have been sober for 17 years.You don't need the booze I know because I been there.If you don't think you can just quit and that is what you want I say seek help many good places to help you.But,one thing I have realized in my life,the only one who can help you is you,if you don't want to change you won't.
This applies to all vices I smoked for 24 years and finally quit it takes will power and desire.
Good Luck
Traveler is correct, if you want to overcome this then it can happen. It won't be easy, it won't happen instantly, but it is worth the fight.
There are many good places for help. What you need to do is keep asking and looking for help until you find what you know will help you the most.
Obviously there is the option of rehab programs.
Also AA has helped many.
Many communities have these or other programs to help those who want to fight addictions.
The thing that did it for me was finding a personal relationship with Jesus. That's what gave me the real desire to fight for my freedom from addiction.
I will pray for you and you keep asking people to help you, OK?
There are many good places for help. What you need to do is keep asking and looking for help until you find what you know will help you the most.
Obviously there is the option of rehab programs.
Also AA has helped many.
Many communities have these or other programs to help those who want to fight addictions.
The thing that did it for me was finding a personal relationship with Jesus. That's what gave me the real desire to fight for my freedom from addiction.
I will pray for you and you keep asking people to help you, OK?
Hi my name is Jan and I'm an alcoholic.
"response" Hi Jan
I'm blessed with having 19 years, 8 months and a bunch of days sober now. How did I do it? One day at a time. I set a goal to not drink today. Just for this 24 hours. I'm not going to worry about tomorrow because it will come soon enough. I just focus on staying sober today. Now I just happen to have a whole bunch of days back to back.
But I'm truly no different than you. It would be very easy to take a drink but I choose not to for today.
One of the best things you can do for your self is call AA - Alcoholics Anomymous. They will get someone to talk to you and will help you get to a meeting to start. The best thing you can do for yourself you've done. You've admitted you have a problem. Get to a meeting. They're all over the place. It might take awhile to find a meeting where you truly feel comfortable but just keep going. We like to say 90/90. That is 90 meetings in 90 days. I know it's hard and it's a burden to do but in our drinking career we'd find any way to drink. Now you have to find any way to NOT drink and a meeting is a good way to do it.
Another thing that would be VERY beneficial, if you can do it, get to a treatment center. Most insurance coverages take care of it. Get into treatment for 30 days. You'll get clean and sober and they will give you lots of help both inside and once you go back into the real world. But it's truly more up to you.
Feel free to contact me directly Krokus if you like. Drop me an email and we'll stay in contact. I'm really proud of you admitting the problem and you are truly surrounded with literally thousands of people who are cheering you on in your search for sobriety and peace from within.
So... first step... don't drink today. Second step... Call AA or get into treatment.
You're on the way Babe! Congratulations!
"response" Hi Jan
I'm blessed with having 19 years, 8 months and a bunch of days sober now. How did I do it? One day at a time. I set a goal to not drink today. Just for this 24 hours. I'm not going to worry about tomorrow because it will come soon enough. I just focus on staying sober today. Now I just happen to have a whole bunch of days back to back.
But I'm truly no different than you. It would be very easy to take a drink but I choose not to for today.
One of the best things you can do for your self is call AA - Alcoholics Anomymous. They will get someone to talk to you and will help you get to a meeting to start. The best thing you can do for yourself you've done. You've admitted you have a problem. Get to a meeting. They're all over the place. It might take awhile to find a meeting where you truly feel comfortable but just keep going. We like to say 90/90. That is 90 meetings in 90 days. I know it's hard and it's a burden to do but in our drinking career we'd find any way to drink. Now you have to find any way to NOT drink and a meeting is a good way to do it.
Another thing that would be VERY beneficial, if you can do it, get to a treatment center. Most insurance coverages take care of it. Get into treatment for 30 days. You'll get clean and sober and they will give you lots of help both inside and once you go back into the real world. But it's truly more up to you.
Feel free to contact me directly Krokus if you like. Drop me an email and we'll stay in contact. I'm really proud of you admitting the problem and you are truly surrounded with literally thousands of people who are cheering you on in your search for sobriety and peace from within.
So... first step... don't drink today. Second step... Call AA or get into treatment.
You're on the way Babe! Congratulations!
Dave2112
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Krokus, drop me a line at my E-mail addy ([email protected]), I'd like to talk with you if you'd like.😎
P.H. Tickler
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how bad is it?
I was in a band in my "roaring twenties", all that went on was drinking and playing in bars, drinking at practice (a BIG no-no BTW), and hanging out with a case or so on non-gig nights. There was alot of bad blood between the singer and bassist, and the band eventually fell apart, once I was out of that routine things levelled off. I got married, stopped hanging out in the bar all the time. It wasn't (for me) to the point that I felt I NEEDED a drink, and never had a houseful of booze, it was just the environment i was in. I used to probably down 6 or 8 beers every night we played out... by contrast, last year I bought one 24 can case (to share with the Mrs.), threw out 17 of them because they got old! If you're kind of in the same situation ( I was dubbed a "social alcoholic" by my wife, who knew me then too ) it may just be a change of environment or a different circle of friends you need.
on the other hand, if it's gotten to the point that you can't function without constant binging, then seek support from a qualified counselor ( my uncle came back from 'nam with a nasty drug problem ,thanks to the counselor he finally went to, he's been clean since '81 ).
I wish you all the luck in the world in your quest, by admitting it, you are that much ahead of the game (took my old drummer 2 girlfriends and 3 DUI arrests to get to where you are now). Bravo for the courage to speak up!
I was in a band in my "roaring twenties", all that went on was drinking and playing in bars, drinking at practice (a BIG no-no BTW), and hanging out with a case or so on non-gig nights. There was alot of bad blood between the singer and bassist, and the band eventually fell apart, once I was out of that routine things levelled off. I got married, stopped hanging out in the bar all the time. It wasn't (for me) to the point that I felt I NEEDED a drink, and never had a houseful of booze, it was just the environment i was in. I used to probably down 6 or 8 beers every night we played out... by contrast, last year I bought one 24 can case (to share with the Mrs.), threw out 17 of them because they got old! If you're kind of in the same situation ( I was dubbed a "social alcoholic" by my wife, who knew me then too ) it may just be a change of environment or a different circle of friends you need.
on the other hand, if it's gotten to the point that you can't function without constant binging, then seek support from a qualified counselor ( my uncle came back from 'nam with a nasty drug problem ,thanks to the counselor he finally went to, he's been clean since '81 ).
I wish you all the luck in the world in your quest, by admitting it, you are that much ahead of the game (took my old drummer 2 girlfriends and 3 DUI arrests to get to where you are now). Bravo for the courage to speak up!
WallStreet
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Krokus-- The 2 best pointers I can give are:
First> Stay away from other people who are drinking.
Second> Find a job to occupy your time. If you have a day job then get a night job.
Being in bands puts you in alot of party situations. I've been in a few bands in my time and I know how awkward it can be standing sober in a room of drinkers. If I'm not mistaken your band recently broke up. Maybe you should jam at home and take a brief brake from the band scene. Perhaps your period of Isolation will produce some quality song writing.
My second tip is a great one. You can't be drunk at work, and you'll be making extra money. Even if your "time killing job" is stocking shelves for 4 hours an evening, those are 4 hours that you'll be sober.
If you can find a band of non-drinkers then you're off to a great start.
The most important step in kicking your habit has already been accomplished, and that was reaching out to us in the first place.
I've known some PATHETIC alchoholics who have kicked the habit and now lead prosperous lives.
I'd say the hardest thing about kicking alchohol is the fact that it's legal.
First> Stay away from other people who are drinking.
Second> Find a job to occupy your time. If you have a day job then get a night job.
Being in bands puts you in alot of party situations. I've been in a few bands in my time and I know how awkward it can be standing sober in a room of drinkers. If I'm not mistaken your band recently broke up. Maybe you should jam at home and take a brief brake from the band scene. Perhaps your period of Isolation will produce some quality song writing.
My second tip is a great one. You can't be drunk at work, and you'll be making extra money. Even if your "time killing job" is stocking shelves for 4 hours an evening, those are 4 hours that you'll be sober.
If you can find a band of non-drinkers then you're off to a great start.
The most important step in kicking your habit has already been accomplished, and that was reaching out to us in the first place.
I've known some PATHETIC alchoholics who have kicked the habit and now lead prosperous lives.
I'd say the hardest thing about kicking alchohol is the fact that it's legal.
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Krokus,
The above advice that other users give is spot on, and I have nothing to add other then to agree, it's a task that you'll face each day for the rest of your life.
A drinking problem will not only harm you in the long term, but all those around you... for as long as they decide to stay. My best wishes in the work you'll be doing to handle this difficult aspect of your life.
Myriads
The above advice that other users give is spot on, and I have nothing to add other then to agree, it's a task that you'll face each day for the rest of your life.
A drinking problem will not only harm you in the long term, but all those around you... for as long as they decide to stay. My best wishes in the work you'll be doing to handle this difficult aspect of your life.
Myriads
