I need tickling advice!

[Lilred1]

I really love when fun physical banter is a part of my friendship dynamic. I love when my friends tickle me in a wholesome and platonic way. It’s a fun silly and cute way to boost oxytocin and bonding. So anyways, my (revised) question if you have had this friendship dynamic: What makes you want to tickle your friends and why?

Edit: There seemed to be some confusion with how I put it before so: this is a part of my friendship dynamics that has been there my whole life. I’m not trying to quietly manipulate people or make people read my mind or anything, I’m trying to understand and maybe amp up a dynamic that’s already there without making it weird. The point of this is to better understand what makes/made people want to do it and to get feedback if anyone has a similar experience.

 

[aberdeen]

I really love when fun physical banter is a part of my friendship dynamic. I love when my friends tickle me. It’s a fun silly and cute way to boost oxytocin and bonding. Not for sexual reasons, just for fun. So anyways, my question: how do I get my friends to WANT to tickle me WITHOUT specifically asking them to? Asking them to is super awkward and they may take it as a sexual thing. So heeellppp

HI...
I totally understand the desire for nonsexual tickling---In fact, I think our society would benefit from actual tickle therapy / play therapy for stress relief. But that is for another discussion. To answer your question, I guess I would ask how often and what are the circumstances that your friends decide to tickle you currently? (ie what happens now that triggers you getting tickled),, is it random or associated with something like foot rubs or back rubs...something you may be able to replicate w/o stirring up suspicions about having a tickle FIXATION ( I said fixation bec I believe tickle kink or fetish denotes a sexual side to tickling that is not automatic).

I would see if you could replicate those instances / opportunities in which your friends have taken advantage of you in the past. That would be a start. The other thing is to seek a platonic tickle play partner for your tickling needs, but you said you wanted your current friends at this point.

If you want to discuss your situation in an easier (or more private ) format...you can find me on discord. (DM for my tagline there) or you can private message me on this board. I would be glad to answer more questions or try to brain storm ideas for you to use.

 

[SoleMates]

I really love when fun physical banter is a part of my friendship dynamic. I love when my friends tickle me. It’s a fun silly and cute way to boost oxytocin and bonding. Not for sexual reasons, just for fun. So anyways, my question: how do I get my friends to WANT to tickle me WITHOUT specifically asking them to? Asking them to is super awkward and they may take it as a sexual thing. So heeellppp

Putting aside my own personal feelings on the "read my mind" subject - okay never mind, honestly if you're so awkward you can't have this kind of discussion with them then you need to deal with that before messing with the kind of complex emotions that you expect other people to be able to compartmentalize, which isn't particularly fair all around - I would genuinely advise against listening to any of the advice you're going to get here.

Reason being, the bulk of the people who hang out on these forums could look at a glass of water and think "tickling!" - so they're going to say stupid shit like "just stretch a lot and make yourself... vulnerable. That'd work on me!"

Well, yes, it'd work on them because they have a tickle fetish and are obsessed with it and are already thinking about tickling you, they're just looking for an excuse. That doesn't work on "normal" people because when you, say, stretch around a normal person, if they even notice, they're going to think "oh look, they're stretching", and go on with their day. They're not going to immediately leap to tickling because normal people don't do that.

Why am I saying this? Well, because if you try to pull this kind of passive-aggressive, connect-the-dots-the-way-I-want-you-to bullshit around non-tickle fetishists, it's just going to leave you frustrated that no one is getting your "super mega obvious hints" and you'll be back here in a week with your followup post, "I totally walked around barefoot in front of all my friends and nobody whipped out a feather and knocked me over!"

tldr; find someone you trust and talk to them.

 

[Lilred1]

Putting aside my own personal feelings on the "read my mind" subject - okay never mind, honestly if you're so awkward you can't have this kind of discussion with them then you need to deal with that before messing with the kind of complex emotions that you expect other people to be able to compartmentalize, which isn't particularly fair all around - I would genuinely advise against listening to any of the advice you're going to get here.

Reason being, the bulk of the people who hang out on these forums could look at a glass of water and think "tickling!" - so they're going to say stupid shit like "just stretch a lot and make yourself... vulnerable. That'd work on me!"

Well, yes, it'd work on them because they have a tickle fetish and are obsessed with it and are already thinking about tickling you, they're just looking for an excuse. That doesn't work on "normal" people because when you, say, stretch around a normal person, if they even notice, they're going to think "oh look, they're stretching", and go on with their day. They're not going to immediately leap to tickling because normal people don't do that.

Why am I saying this? Well, because if you try to pull this kind of passive-aggressive, connect-the-dots-the-way-I-want-you-to bullshit around non-tickle fetishists, it's just going to leave you frustrated that no one is getting your "super mega obvious hints" and you'll be back here in a week with your followup post, "I totally walked around barefoot in front of all my friends and nobody whipped out a feather and knocked me over!"

tldr; find someone you trust and talk to them.

How am I being passive agressive? I’m not trying to quietly manipulate someone into “giving me my jollies” I’m just trying to amp up a dynamic that’s already there? This read very angrily and I don’t really understand why. I think the “follow up post” is a dramatic leap; tickling has always been a part of my friendship dynamics and I’m trying to understand what makes a person want to tickle you and if that could be beneficial/usable in how we carry it out. Also to understand what made past friends(whom I can’t go ask as we don’t talk anymore) do the same.

 

[Lilred1]

HI...
I totally understand the desire for nonsexual tickling---In fact, I think our society would benefit from actual tickle therapy / play therapy for stress relief. But that is for another discussion. To answer your question, I guess I would ask how often and what are the circumstances that your friends decide to tickle you currently? (ie what happens now that triggers you getting tickled),, is it random or associated with something like foot rubs or back rubs...something you may be able to replicate w/o stirring up suspicions about having a tickle FIXATION ( I said fixation bec I believe tickle kink or fetish denotes a sexual side to tickling that is not automatic).

I would see if you could replicate those instances / opportunities in which your friends have taken advantage of you in the past. That would be a start. The other thing is to seek a platonic tickle play partner for your tickling needs, but you said you wanted your current friends at this point.

If you want to discuss your situation in an easier (or more private ) format...you can find me on discord. (DM for my tagline there) or you can private message me on this board. I would be glad to answer more questions or try to brain storm ideas for you to use.

Okay, I’ll dm you! 😎

 

[Jezebel Lee]

How am I being passive agressive? I’m not trying to quietly manipulate someone into “giving me my jollies” I’m just trying to amp up a dynamic that’s already there? This read very angrily and I don’t really understand why. I think the “follow up post” is a dramatic leap; tickling has always been a part of my friendship dynamics and I’m trying to understand what makes a person want to tickle you and if that could be beneficial/usable in how we carry it out. Also to understand what made past friends(whom I can’t go ask as we don’t talk anymore) do the same.

Okay but like… are your friends aware you like tickling as a kink? Even if you don’t get sexually aroused by it, it’s still considered a kink and should only be done with all parties fully informed consent. If you did somehow manage to get these friends to tickle you more, and then later on they found out you were posting about it on fetish forums, how do you think they’d feel? Worst case scenario, they may accuse you of sexual assault – even if you weren’t aroused, they may assume you were.

I won’t lie, your original post came across like you were fetish mining, which is probably why people seemed to react negatively. The language of like “it’s just silly platonic fun” can sometimes be used by creeps to manipulate people. And yeah, consent issues aside, people can’t read minds. You can’t telepathically make someone tickle you. If it’s not already on their minds, it won’t happen.

I’m gonna assume you aren’t a master manipulator or anything, that you’re literally just tickle-hungry / inexperienced and trying to get it wherever possible. Trust me, I’ve been there myself. Regardless, it’s much more effective to make friends in the tickle community and set up the dynamic you want with those friends. It doesn’t always have to be tied up / bondage style. I’ve had plenty of casual / playful dynamics with fellow tickle kinksters, and I’m sure you’ll be able to as well.

 

[Lilred1]

Okay but like… are your friends aware you like tickling as a kink? Even if you don’t get sexually aroused by it, it’s still considered a kink and should only be done with all parties fully informed consent. If you did somehow manage to get these friends to tickle you more, and then later on they found out you were posting about it on fetish forums, how do you think they’d feel? Worst case scenario, they may accuse you of sexual assault – even if you weren’t aroused, they may assume you were.

I won’t lie, your original post came across like you were fetish mining, which is probably why people seemed to react negatively. The language of like “it’s just silly platonic fun” can sometimes be used by creeps to manipulate people. And yeah, consent issues aside, people can’t read minds. You can’t telepathically make someone tickle you. If it’s not already on their minds, it won’t happen.

I’m gonna assume you aren’t a master manipulator or anything, that you’re literally just tickle-hungry / inexperienced and trying to get it wherever possible. Trust me, I’ve been there myself. Regardless, it’s much more effective to make friends in the tickle community and set up the dynamic you want with those friends. It doesn’t always have to be tied up / bondage style. I’ve had plenty of casual / playful dynamics with fellow tickle kinksters, and I’m sure you’ll be able to as well.

I get that but that’s why I explained it better now. I’m not into the whole kink community thing. I didn’t even think about it being that deep. Like even “tickle hungry” is a little over the top. I genuinely don’t see how this is being made into something much bigger and creepier than it is. Should I take this post down then if it’s going to be that problematic? I thought for sure if ANYONE would understand what I’m talking about, it’d be this place. 🤦‍♀️

 

[stockingfeetrbest]

I get that but that’s why I explained it better now. I’m not into the whole kink community thing. I didn’t even think about it being that deep. Like even “tickle hungry” is a little over the top. I genuinely don’t see how this is being made into something much bigger and creepier than it is. Should I take this post down then if it’s going to be that problematic? I thought for sure if ANYONE would understand what I’m talking about, it’d be this place. 🤦‍♀️

I have found it is better to be a lurker. This is NOT a friendly community as advertised. Always blaming people for their fetish instead of making them feel ok with it. No wonder the general population frowns upon us. Just my 2 cents. I have been on the TMF for over 20 years and never seen so much bickering and insulting in my life. Makes me think people with the tickle fetish are some of the most arrogant and condescending. I have for all intents and purposes given up on my fetish until I possibly meet someone special who happens to have an open mind to tickling and hopefully is ticklish.

I also don't see why everyone is assuming the OP has a tickle fetish. There are a LOT of people who incorporate tickling into their daily lives and some think of it as nothing more than fun or funny. Anyone notice the OP is a female? Wonder why the females on here are so skittish. WTF?

A lot of you on here seem to believe that NOBODY ever tickles anyone unless they have a tickle fetish. I would guess that for every 1 person with a tickle fetish who gets off on tickling there are at least 100 people in the world who tickle people and get nothing out of it other than "I tickled you and made you laugh".

Lilred1, do whatever makes you happy and don't pay attention to the crap you read on here.

 

[hefophre]

I'm personally pretty tired of tickling being referred to exclusively in terms of sexual kink, sexual fetish, etc. People can enjoy tickling without any of that. They can even enjoy it that way, and still enjoy it in an entirely platonic way. People enjoy things more than other things, so why does it have to be regulated to something sexual if it is not mainstream? Part of my theory on this is because it (community wise) has been introduced to them in under those narrow terms, and it is then just accepted as that without thinking, even if it is not.

If you have a group of comfortable playful friends that sometimes tickle you, and you want to instigate it, a good way would probably be to playfully tickle them. If they don't like it, don't do it. I hate that I even have to say something so obvious, but I feel forced to by this society of overly sensitive witch hunters

 

[Titillating 2.0]

I really love when fun physical banter is a part of my friendship dynamic. I love when my friends tickle me in a wholesome and platonic way. It’s a fun silly and cute way to boost oxytocin and bonding. So anyways, my (revised) question if you have had this friendship dynamic: What makes you want to tickle your friends and why?

Edit: There seemed to be some confusion with how I put it before so: this is a part of my friendship dynamics that has been there my whole life. I’m not trying to quietly manipulate people or make people read my mind or anything, I’m trying to understand and maybe amp up a dynamic that’s already there without making it weird. The point of this is to better understand what makes/made people want to do it and to get feedback if anyone has a similar experience.

I think it’s the fact that tickling can be a fun way to connect with others and it enables you to show a vulnerable side of yourself in a manner of trust. I’ve had some brief and fun tickle experiences among close friends time and time again

 

[Jezebel Lee]

JFC. I’ve tried to explain in the nicest way possible why trying to “bait” normies won’t work, the potential social consequences, and the reason why the OP may have came across badly even if they didn’t mean it, and suggested a potential solution… and y’all just want to go “HOW DARE YOU?!?! 😡”

I also don’t appreciate all the mansplaining about “it’s not inherently sexual!” I’ve mentioned this several times before on the forum, but I am asexual and didn’t get aroused from this kink at all until I was in my mid-20s. Yet even when I was younger, I still understood that it’s just not appropriate to bring that shit into the vanilla world. I have also met plenty of people like me in the community who don’t necessarily get wet from it.

I get that but that’s why I explained it better now. I’m not into the whole kink community thing. I didn’t even think about it being that deep. Like even “tickle hungry” is a little over the top. I genuinely don’t see how this is being made into something much bigger and creepier than it is. Should I take this post down then if it’s going to be that problematic? I thought for sure if ANYONE would understand what I’m talking about, it’d be this place. 🤦‍♀️

How are you offended by the term “tickle-hungry”? What else would you call it then? Nobody has accused you of being creepy, just warned you about the repercussions of trying to get vanilla friends involved without them knowing the full context.

Anyone notice the OP is a female? Wonder why the females on here are so skittish. WTF?

Yes actually, I did notice the OP is female, which is probably the only reason why you’re white knighting so hard right now. I can 100% guarantee that if the OP was male, none of you men would be jumping down mine or SoleMate’s throats. You’re getting angry over nothing that concerns you.

Whatever… I still stand by my original point that it’s much more effective to find people who also have an interest in tickling and set up a blanket-consent kind of dynamic where it’s mutually understood that playful tickling is to be expected. I’m sorry you guys are all offended by that.

 

[hefophre]

Tickling in general is vanilla, and not out of normality between people particularly close to eachother; Family, especially siblings, and partners, tickle each other, some maybe rarely, others alot. I think that it is crazy to say tickling is something that must remain, or be addressed a such, to only people within a tickling community... It is those who have found the "community" because they enjoy it more than standard - enough to search for it, which doesn't mean they enjoy it sexually, or exclusively that way, where they are immediately labeled kink, etc. that simply accept it as such, and I believe wrongly so, and they are dribbling this poison into the mainstream view of it. I reject and dissavow "fetish" in terms of tickling, unless we are using it as a term for idolizing, as in intense like for it ( the same as an intense like for anything else. I wouldnt even consider tickling in a restraint device as "fetish". It would require trust between those involved, but it simply suits the activity, and if someone is willing to be tickled alot, it is a great way to do that - to avoid flailing around, etc. You can get a massage in a regular chair, or you can get a massage in a special furniture more suited and more comfortable.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

Tickling in general is vanilla, and not out of normality between people particularly close to eachother; Family, especially siblings, and partners, tickle each other, some maybe rarely, others alot. I think that it is crazy to say tickling is something that must remain, or be addressed a such, to only people within a tickling community... It is those who have found the "community" because they enjoy it more than standard - enough to search for it, which doesn't mean they enjoy it sexually, or exclusively that way, where they are immediately labeled kink, etc. that simply accept it as such, and I believe wrongly so, and they are dribbling this poison into the mainstream view of it. I reject and dissavow "fetish" in terms of tickling, unless we are using it as a term for idolizing, as in intense like for it ( the same as an intense like for anything else. I wouldnt even consider tickling in a restraint device as "fetish". It would require trust between those involved, but it simply suits the activity, and if someone is willing to be tickled alot, it is a great way to do that - to avoid flailing around, etc. You can get a massage in a regular chair, or you can get a massage in a special furniture more suited and more comfortable.

I’m aware that tickling occurs naturally in the vanilla world between friends and family members, but in those instances the parties involved don’t obsess over it the way we do. They probably don’t even give it a second thought.

It’s totally valid to enjoy it non-sexually and, as stated, I’ve had similar experiences. But still, either way I find that it’s better to be safe than sorry and make sure everyone involved is okay with it.

 

[Jamesplaining]

@Jezebel Lee I see your point and I agree with you that consent is essential. Personally, I don’t tickle random people nor friends without saying that for me tickling is a kink and a sexual thing. Still, this is my personal view because kinks are generally sexual to me, and I think that things get more complex when we recognize non-sexual kinks, because this rises the question about what is really kinky and what is really sexual.

Personally I avoid any kind of social touch or situation I could predictably find arousing (like tickling) with unaware people.

 

[Lilred1]

I have found it is better to be a lurker. This is NOT a friendly community as advertised. Always blaming people for their fetish instead of making them feel ok with it. No wonder the general population frowns upon us. Just my 2 cents. I have been on the TMF for over 20 years and never seen so much bickering and insulting in my life. Makes me think people with the tickle fetish are some of the most arrogant and condescending. I have for all intents and purposes given up on my fetish until I possibly meet someone special who happens to have an open mind to tickling and hopefully is ticklish.

I also don't see why everyone is assuming the OP has a tickle fetish. There are a LOT of people who incorporate tickling into their daily lives and some think of it as nothing more than fun or funny. Anyone notice the OP is a female? Wonder why the females on here are so skittish. WTF?

A lot of you on here seem to believe that NOBODY ever tickles anyone unless they have a tickle fetish. I would guess that for every 1 person with a tickle fetish who gets off on tickling there are at least 100 people in the world who tickle people and get nothing out of it other than "I tickled you and made you laugh".

Lilred1, do whatever makes you happy and don't pay attention to the crap you read on here.

Thank you my friend. I took a long break from being on here for fear of this but honestly you’re right and I think sometimes people who come to this site are actually the first to throw a stone when they realize not everyone is here for the same reason. Your last paragraph is EXACTLY the point of this whole thread. Thank you for understanding!

 

[Lilred1]

I'm personally pretty tired of tickling being referred to exclusively in terms of sexual kink, sexual fetish, etc. People can enjoy tickling without any of that. They can even enjoy it that way, and still enjoy it in an entirely platonic way. People enjoy things more than other things, so why does it have to be regulated to something sexual if it is not mainstream? Part of my theory on this is because it (community wise) has been introduced to them in under those narrow terms, and it is then just accepted as that without thinking, even if it is not.

If you have a group of comfortable playful friends that sometimes tickle you, and you want to instigate it, a good way would probably be to playfully tickle them. If they don't like it, don't do it. I hate that I even have to say something so obvious, but I feel forced to by this society of overly sensitive witch hunters

I agree 100% thanks friend!

 

[Lilred1]

I’m aware that tickling occurs naturally in the vanilla world between friends and family members, but in those instances the parties involved don’t obsess over it the way we do. They probably don’t even give it a second thought.

It’s totally valid to enjoy it non-sexually and, as stated, I’ve had similar experiences. But still, either way I find that it’s better to be safe than sorry and make sure everyone involved is okay with it.

I’m really not as offended as maybe my replies are coming across, I just wanted to be polite and respond to a few important points you made.

Consent is a necessity and was never negotiable. Consent is already there, that’s why I said “trying to amp up a dynamic that’s already there”. Also I do think it’s adorable and sometimes come here to see or talk about it but I don’t particularly obsess over tickling like some on this site do. I seldom post, in fact I barely use this site twice a year so I’m truly not part of that “we” and I hold no judgment for those who do. I JUST wanted insight/advice.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I’m really not as offended as maybe my replies are coming across, I just wanted to be polite and respond to a few important points you made.

Consent is a necessity and was never negotiable. Consent is already there, that’s why I said “trying to amp up a dynamic that’s already there”. Also I do think it’s adorable and sometimes come here to see or talk about it but I don’t particularly obsess over tickling like some on this site do. I seldom post, in fact I barely use this site twice a year so I’m truly not part of that “we” and I hold no judgment for those who do. I JUST wanted insight/advice.

Thank you for being civil and clarifying. If your friends are okay with it, it may be worth having the conversation with them, maybe through text if it’s too overwhelming in person. “Hey I actually don’t mind being tickled at all” or something, just to let them know it’s all good, like a blanket “yes” to go ahead whenever instead of an awkward “pls tkl me” that would ruin the surprise element.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Guys I think it needs to be said;

even in situations where "normally, friendly tickling" is a common occurrence, it's never true when the people doing it are making a point to do it and it's still "entirely innocent". OP may not have a sexual tickling fetish, but they're still "into it" in a manner which clearly all the friends in question aren't. They have an unusually high interest in tickling that the others clearly don't. The fact they're having difficulty trying to figure out what the missing link is between their enjoyment of it and the friends, and how to "amplify" it; already an admission their interest is greater than the friends.

The fact of the matter, OP, is that you need to at some point just be direct with people you wan to share these experiences with. Nobody, anywhere, ever, even in "tickle filled" friend cliques, does it for more than a minute or two unless one or more party is already "into it" and it's factored in. It simply doesn't happen.

Genuinely don't understand how this conversation always gets so heated. There's not only a difference between "rando vanilla tickling" and "hardcore fetish tickling" and there's a variety of kind in between. But nobody ever falls backwards into any of it without an honest assessment of what they want.

 

[Lilred1]

Guys I think it needs to be said;

even in situations where "normally, friendly tickling" is a common occurrence, it's never true when the people doing it are making a point to do it and it's still "entirely innocent". OP may not have a sexual tickling fetish, but they're still "into it" in a manner which clearly all the friends in question aren't. They have an unusually high interest in tickling that the others clearly don't. The fact they're having difficulty trying to figure out what the missing link is between their enjoyment of it and the friends, and how to "amplify" it; already an admission their interest is greater than the friends.

The fact of the matter, OP, is that you need to at some point just be direct with people you wan to share these experiences with. Nobody, anywhere, ever, even in "tickle filled" friend cliques, does it for more than a minute or two unless one or more party is already "into it" and it's factored in. It simply doesn't happen.

Genuinely don't understand how this conversation always gets so heated. There's not only a difference between "rando vanilla tickling" and "hardcore fetish tickling" and there's a variety of kind in between. But nobody ever falls backwards into any of it without an honest assessment of what they want.

I mean, I’ve truly quite literally never had a friend who didn’t tickle me unprovoked. It literally happens all the time, or at least it did. Ive always thought of it as a normal part of life. I’m not looking for how to get my friends to surprise me with a tickle session (just found out that’s a thing btw) it’s really not meant to be that deep. Just “Rando vanilla tickling” like you said.

 

[Lilred1]

Thank you for being civil and clarifying. If your friends are okay with it, it may be worth having the conversation with them, maybe through text if it’s too overwhelming in person. “Hey I actually don’t mind being tickled at all” or something, just to let them know it’s all good, like a blanket “yes” to go ahead whenever instead of an awkward “pls tkl me” that would ruin the surprise element.

Thank you! And no problem, I figured it was just miscommunication. So I suppose my question then becomes, how does one start that conversation?

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I mean, I’ve truly quite literally never had a friend who didn’t tickle me unprovoked. It literally happens all the time, or at least it did. Ive always thought of it as a normal part of life. I’m not looking for how to get my friends to surprise me with a tickle session (just found out that’s a thing btw) it’s really not meant to be that deep. Just “Rando vanilla tickling” like you said.

Sure, and then when you say this;

I’m trying to understand and maybe amp up a dynamic that’s already there without making it weird

You understand from the jump that you're trying to make this a more routine and/or longer lasting episode. You want a significantly more in-depth tickle experience that the rest of them seem to.

And before the entire threatd gets its feeling hurt; it's fine that you want that. Nobody is accusing you of being a pervert for wanting that.

I am merely explaining to you that it'll almost certainly never happen with this group of friends - without something along the lines of you explaining it outright or something- because you explicitly want something the rest of them seemingly do not. You need to either be willing to change up the dynamic with some of them to obtain tha, which comes with its own risk-reward situations, or go and specifically seek a "strictly platonic tickling" relationship with someone who explicitly wants the same as well.

I'm not trying to imply "normies don't ever tickle each other in the wild!". I'm saying they do and it's over in a few seconds, minutes tops, and then the moment passes. You want more/prolonged moments, which inherently make it a step beyond a "normal vanilla tickle experience". To reiterate again, this isn't "bad". But it is a different dynamic all the same.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Thank you! And no problem, I figured it was just miscommunication. So I suppose my question then becomes, how does one start that conversation?

There's no surefire way to have these convos. However, you definitely want to assess the situation and understand that it's possible you may unwittingly hand grenade the dynamic. If you accept that risk, then it's a matter of explaining how being tickled makes you feel?

It seems like there's someone you are friends with that tickles you from time to time. After assessing and accepting the risks to a changing dynamic, you could reference the most recent event and let them know whatever it is that you want them to know. I'd be transparent with them.

I outed my tickle and foot fetishes (I wasn't in the industry then) to my friends - for purely self-destructive self-loathing reasons (10% fetish related) - and nothing has changed. Outside of a joke that was made here and there within the six months of the reveal, nothing was mentioned of it from there, and life goes on. Since then, I started producing content, only a handful of friends know that.

I think one of the main reasons there was little change after my reveal had to do with me never tickling any of them. I suppose if I was known for tickling people within those friend groups beforehand, it would have been a more damaging outcome.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

Thank you! And no problem, I figured it was just miscommunication. So I suppose my question then becomes, how does one start that conversation?

Could try a funny meme like this one:

https://tenor.com/en-GB/view/same-when-someone-tickles-my-neck-horse-gif-7819888

 

[Lilred1]

Could try a funny meme like this one:

https://tenor.com/en-GB/view/same-when-someone-tickles-my-neck-horse-gif-7819888

Thank you