If The Person Had All The Other Qualities.. Could You Live Without The "Interest"

[Mitchell]

If The Person Had All The Other Qualities.. Could You Live Without The "Interest"

General question, which may have been asked before, but I havent seen it posted, at least for a while.

For the cases of forum members who have the interest of tickling, and in some cases.. foot fetish interests?

I';m thinking of both males and females, and lee and ler. This isnt a gender or lee /ler question, it's general..

You meet someone.. who has all the personality traits you're seeking in a partner.. You share common interests, and are alike in every other ways.

For the lers, that person either, isnt ticklish at all, or, despises being tickled, and doesnt want you to tickle them.

For the lees. .. You meet someone who doesnt want to tickle you.

For the foot people of the forum.. You meet someone who doesnt want you to touch their feet.. or.. the other way around,. for those who like having their feet played with, the person doesnt want to pay attention to your feet..

The bottom line question i'm asking is..

How important is this lifestyle to you, and would you be willing to give it up completely, if you found a partner with all the other personality traits you seek in a person.

I'm going to wait for some replies before posting my thoughts on this.

 

[chicago]

Its important enough that id rather find out of theyre cool with it or not by the third date before there are heavy feelings involved. Though, ive stuck to dating people from the community for a while now. Lifes too short to be unsatisfied. Its completely possible to find someone that is everything you want, within reason and provided you are a decent person yourself lol

 

[Mitchell]

I see your point, chicago.

For myself:

I doubt I could be truly happy with someone who completely refused to indulge me in my interests ever. That being said.. my feelings about my interests as people on here know them to be, are as follows.

Refusing to allow me to pay attention to their feet, ever.

This, I think I would have the most difficult time dealing with, and would be the "Deal Breaker". Feet, is just a body part, like any other., Such would show me that they arent interested in what I care about.

Tickling:

In my experience, most "vanillas" I've spoken to, or interacted with, dislike tickling. That being said., if a woman said to me "You can never tickle me", I dont think I would have an easy time dealing with that. Once again, the idea of the person not caring about my interests.

Standing barefoot on a ladder.

This would probably be the one I could live without the most. If I met someone who had all the other qualities, understood my interests of feet and tickling, and was truly afraid of heights, or just didnt want to stand barefoot on a ladder, because it hurt their feet, or for whatever reason, I might not like it, but I could probably live without it.

Those are my thoughts on this subject.

 

[Leo tickles]

Nope.

 

[rdhd]

I've mentioned this in other threads here - my wife isn't into tickling, but I am, and she knows it. Says she'll divorce me if I tickle her; and I still take the chance every once in a while. Can't even get her to tickle me. Ah, well. Only been married 35 years....maybe it won't last. Maybe that's why I spend time on this site.......

 

[Mitchell]

LOL rdhd/ I love that reply, and you know I think you're a great guy.

 

[Bohemianne]

This question is no longer applicable to me. I'll give an old opinion: the person you want to be with comes in package.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

Sometimes it's a very attractive package but the unwrapping process can be too elaborate and complex to ever get to what's inside.

 

[Strider]

Interesting question.

I've been with my (now) fiancee for over 6 years, and we've considered ourselves to be in a 24/7 relationship for the past 5. Tickling is something of a soft-limit which she's permitted to have. However, we do still engage in it on a limited basis, and we've worked together on pushing her limits. We're also open-ish and the outlet to play with others is there if need be.

That being said; I could probably live without tickling in and of itself as I have plenty of other kinks. What I could not do is date a non-kinky partner, and I also would not be happy in a relationship that's not power-exchange based. I realized that in probably my mid-20s and never looked back.

 

[maniactickler]

Nothing trumps my tickling fetish. no tickling, no relationship.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

That's a deal breaker. There has to be deal breakers or else bad things happen. You're better off being clear about what is non-negotiable right up front...better for you, and better for any potential mate.

 

[wolfman40]

Yes, I've had vanilla relationships over the years and can put the tickling side of things to one side 🙂

 

[drewskee]

I've gradually come to realize that my interests are an important part of me and I couldn't give them up for anybody, nor would I want to. Hypothetically now, let's say I were to meet "the perfect woman" as you've described (only she doesn't share or indulge my interests)....BUT she would let me play with other women! While I might consider it at first, ultimately I don't think it would work out.

 

[Bohemianne]

Sometimes it's a very attractive package but the unwrapping process can be too elaborate and complex to ever get to what's inside.

It’s not the gift wrapper, lol. What I mean is this: why would you settle for just one quality in a person and suffer for the rest of inadequacies, when you can find someone way better? All you need is hard discernment and MORE TIME to either find another or fall in love better.

Maybe I know why a lot of people end up in bad partnership or choices. Some of them accidentally have kids in the first 5 years of “getting to know” their dates and become entrapped. Give it about 10 years of strong friendship/dating before making the decision to stay with someone for good. It will not be perfect, but it will have a good foundation. I know what I mean.

 

[IrvingKrebb]

Incidentally, what I meant by "Bad Things," in my first post, is that if you're with someone who doesn't share your interests in the bedroom, there's a chance they could become just a device, a tool used to fulfill your needs. Not all the time, mind you, but in the intimacy department, which is very important. When people love each other they do things to make each other happy, naturally, but if they don't like it, they'll come to resent it, and you, for putting them in that position. I don't know if women do this as much as men, but I know men do it, because I'm a man and I've done it, and I'm not proud of it.

 

[Bizkit]

I've thought about this a lot lately and it can be a complex thing. For me, relationships come in many forms, and in a nutshell, if you're talking a long term, successful, fulfilled, mutually evolving relationship that connection has to be there.

 

[piyr]

I'm happily married and certainly not going anywhere but to be completely honest, if I had to do it over again then I'd find someone who's really into it. For me, it's not only what I like but it's part of my sexual identity. (Although it may not be reasonable to expect to find someone compatible who has the same level of interest as me 🙂).

Even if a partner doesn't share the interest, if that interest is so closely a part of you then it's important that they encourage yours. I doubt a relationship would work where one partner didn't encourage your other identities like race, religion, ethnicity, etc... and sex is no different.

You have to find what works for you and decide whether you can be happy with someone who supports the interest or do you have to have someone who shares it.

 

[Californiasun19]

General question, which may have been asked before, but I havent seen it posted, at least for a while.

For the cases of forum members who have the interest of tickling, and in some cases.. foot fetish interests?



I';m thinking of both males and females, and lee and ler. This isnt a gender or lee /ler question, it's general..

You meet someone.. who has all the personality traits you're seeking in a partner.. You share common interests, and are alike in every other ways.

For the lers, that person either, isnt ticklish at all, or, despises being tickled, and doesnt want you to tickle them.

For the lees. .. You meet someone who doesnt want to tickle you.

For the foot people of the forum.. You meet someone who doesnt want you to touch their feet.. or.. the other way around,. for those who like having their feet played with, the person doesnt want to pay attention to your feet..

The bottom line question i'm asking is..

How important is this lifestyle to you, and would you be willing to give it up completely, if you found a partner with all the other personality traits you seek in a person.

I'm going to wait for some replies before posting my thoughts on this.

Nope, there is no way. You can not suppress or deny what you are. If you got involved in a serious relationship with someone like that, in time you would seek the tickling / foot fetish play somewhere else.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

Can't do it. Tried it once or twice, found myself to be miserable each time.