Now I know, many of you probably think I am the biggest whiner in the world, but I would like some advice. I have been posting on and off for quite some time lately, due to personal problems. But I am starting to see a scary trend develop in my day to day life. I no longer have ANY motivation whatsoever, to do ANYTHING. I try to motivate myself, to work, to work out, and do other things I need to do. It just doesn't seem to work. I have never been like this before.....It is almost like I know what I want to do, I just do not want to do what it takes to get there. Am I lazy?? Stubborn?? I guess I am. I have tried to set myself straight, but to no avail. My days as of late can be described in 3 steps: 1.Watch TV 2.Eat 3.Sleep - I always preach to my brother about taking care of your day to day obligations, and how he should not be a hipocrit, but really, I am the biggest hipocrit of them all. I would really be thankful for any advice. Should I join the military?? I KNOW that would whip me into shape.
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In Need Of Advice...
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Dave2112
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Don't be jumping into the military to solve a temporary problem. Only join if it's what you believe in in the first place. It's a big committment not to be taken lightly.
Before I answer your question, are drugs or alcohol part of this problem? That can make things a whole different story.
Before I answer your question, are drugs or alcohol part of this problem? That can make things a whole different story.
You might be suffering from clinical depression. That can have a lot of reasons, some of which are physical. You might want to see a doctor, and maybe a psychologist. But start with a doctor. Sometimes it's just a matter of chemical imbalances of the brain, which can be fixed quite easily. I could give you mroe tips, having experienced the situation you describe myself, but everyone's different, and the best advice is to take the problem to a professional. Take care!
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Krokus
What Marauder said is right on the money. Depression was the first thing that popped into my head in reading your post. You should seek the advice of a physician. In the meantime, you should know that alcohol is a depressant and should be avoided if you're looking at that as a possibility.
Some things to be prepared to answer when you go to see the doctor...
- When did this start?
- Have you experienced any changes in social situations?
- Have you changed your diet at all?
- Is there any history of depression in your family?
- How much drinking do you do?
If you aren't normally like this, then I doubt that laziness is the answer...just a symptom. Joining the military (as Dave said) would not be a solution and should only be done with a clear mind and heart...which you obviously don't have at the moment. Hang in there. See what the doctor says and go from there.
Ann
What Marauder said is right on the money. Depression was the first thing that popped into my head in reading your post. You should seek the advice of a physician. In the meantime, you should know that alcohol is a depressant and should be avoided if you're looking at that as a possibility.
Some things to be prepared to answer when you go to see the doctor...
- When did this start?
- Have you experienced any changes in social situations?
- Have you changed your diet at all?
- Is there any history of depression in your family?
- How much drinking do you do?
If you aren't normally like this, then I doubt that laziness is the answer...just a symptom. Joining the military (as Dave said) would not be a solution and should only be done with a clear mind and heart...which you obviously don't have at the moment. Hang in there. See what the doctor says and go from there.
Ann
Krokus:
I kind of know how you feel. For roughly over a year until December last year I gradually then completely lost all my motivation and energy. I couldn't believe how lazy I was being...I'm not naturally a lazy person you see. Anyways, after some eye opening events I realised that my lack of wanting to 'live' was caused by my unhappiness with how my life was going (I don't mean suicidal, just a constant listlessness). The cause of this: my boyfriend at the time (most folks should now how hard it is to realise this). It was amazing how much better I felt when I discovered this and I started making arrangements to move out of the flat. After the move basically every single person I know (even those who didn't know what had happened) kept commenting how much happier, lively, relaxed, healthier etc I was looking/behaving. The difference apparently was incredible. I had had no idea that I was unhappy and that I wasn't being myself. Fortunately now I am, and I am ever so happy; I have my energy, motivation etc. back in abundance. 🙂
Of course, Krokus, your situation is likely to be entirely different to mine. I just posted this for you in the hope that it may help in some way. It is solvable - I can guarentee it.
Let us know how you get on (that is of course if you feel comfortable).
Ayesha
I kind of know how you feel. For roughly over a year until December last year I gradually then completely lost all my motivation and energy. I couldn't believe how lazy I was being...I'm not naturally a lazy person you see. Anyways, after some eye opening events I realised that my lack of wanting to 'live' was caused by my unhappiness with how my life was going (I don't mean suicidal, just a constant listlessness). The cause of this: my boyfriend at the time (most folks should now how hard it is to realise this). It was amazing how much better I felt when I discovered this and I started making arrangements to move out of the flat. After the move basically every single person I know (even those who didn't know what had happened) kept commenting how much happier, lively, relaxed, healthier etc I was looking/behaving. The difference apparently was incredible. I had had no idea that I was unhappy and that I wasn't being myself. Fortunately now I am, and I am ever so happy; I have my energy, motivation etc. back in abundance. 🙂
Of course, Krokus, your situation is likely to be entirely different to mine. I just posted this for you in the hope that it may help in some way. It is solvable - I can guarentee it.
Let us know how you get on (that is of course if you feel comfortable).
Ayesha
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Gotta go with the Pirate on this one, Krokus. It's good to see that you're going to see someone. Depression can be very insidious, with many physical symptoms. It's not as easy as "picking yourself up" as some would say. You've taken the first step, keep us posted.
Again I raise a hand that it reminds me of depression, BUT...your mental state could be a draw over from the physical if it is a health problem. There are a number of health issues that can lead to the same physical symptoms of drepession.
That's another reason to get thee to a doctor. Don't wait. Timely interevention in things is what makes them curable!!
You'll be in our thoughts!!! LEt us know what happnes,
Joby
That's another reason to get thee to a doctor. Don't wait. Timely interevention in things is what makes them curable!!
You'll be in our thoughts!!! LEt us know what happnes,
Joby
I agree with the advise to get to a medical doctor to see what's going on. Depression is much more common than you might think and it's easily treatable.
I'm glad to see you're pursuing that avenue. You've taken a very important step to get this resolved and I'm really proud of you and feel humbled that you would share that with all of us. But that's why we call this a community. We all look out for each other. Plus... been there, done that!
Best of Luck and if you ever need to talk just drop me a note. I'm here for ya!
I'm glad to see you're pursuing that avenue. You've taken a very important step to get this resolved and I'm really proud of you and feel humbled that you would share that with all of us. But that's why we call this a community. We all look out for each other. Plus... been there, done that!
Best of Luck and if you ever need to talk just drop me a note. I'm here for ya!
Krokus, judging from what you describe I think you must be my long lost twin brother. I've got a very similar mental state, even to the point of the doc putting my on anti-d's. So far they've definatley kept it all in check, but I know I need a long term solution. That I've yet to discover, but I keep hoping and looking. I've even been contemplating joining the military like yourself, but don't quite have the guts to do it.
Any advice from the rest of you on the long term solutions would be gratefully received.
Any advice from the rest of you on the long term solutions would be gratefully received.
