Wow, I’m actually kind of nervous, I feel like this is a sort of “coming out” for me.
I’ve been a lurker here on and off for years now, even before I was technically allowed to be here (come on, I’m not the only one, right?
). I just felt like it was time to finally say “hello” to everyone. I think this place is great; I’ve never been able to talk freely about my tickling interests, so I look forward to being able to chat with you all.
That being said, I have a bit of a dilemma that maybe some of you might be able to identify with. Sorry if this is kind of lengthy, especially for my first post. Thanks for bearing with me.
I’ve been fascinated with tickling nearly my entire life, nearly as far back as I can remember, and yet I’ve only ever mentioned it to three people. One being my mother when I was younger and I felt guilty for having this fetish (she was surprisingly comforting and understanding about it). The other two times were with boyfriends.
I told my previous boyfriend about it a few months into our relationship. I didn’t even tell him it was a fetish, I just said I enjoyed it, and that was all it took. I was treated to good tickles nearly every day I saw him of our year and a half relationship.
I met my current boyfriend years ago back in high school and we became good friends. He was definitely part of my tickling fantasies way back when. After we hooked up last month I figured since we were dating, I may as well tell him about it. He’s a bit of a whips and chains guy himself, I figured he would understand.
Well, he was cool with it, and I was thrilled, since it had almost been a year since I broke up with my last boyfriend and was in need of some awesome tickling. Despite my boyfriend being my best friend, I was hoping I really wouldn’t have to bring it up again that much since I am still kind of shy about it.
He’s tickled me for prolonged periods of time before, but either to be a pain in the ass (when he knows I have to use the bathroom, he gets a kick out of torturing me a little) or once to cheer me up. During the latter experience it was in front of other people, so I couldn’t appreciate it freely, and once I finally dragged him to his bedroom so we could continue to play in privacy, he totally stopped.
It’s horribly frustrating. I do things for him all the time I know he enjoys, I’ll rub his neck, kiss his ears, little things like that that I know he appreciates, hoping to be on the receiving once in a while. It doesn’t have to be sexual at all, a playful tickle fight that lasts for all of two minutes can totally make your day, you know?
I hope this doesn’t sound like a case of “girlfriend expecting the boyfriend to read her mind”. I’m pretty sure “I have a tickling fetish” is as clear as I could make it 😀. Beyond that I’ve tried to give him lots of little hints. He mentioned watching tickling videos together at some point so I sent him a few just so he could see what exactly it is that I am into. I’m constantly tickling him just in hopes of retaliation. I brought up going to NEST before. No luck.
Just to be clear, I don’t think he’s intentionally holding out on me. He just doesn’t seem to get it, for some reason. I’m just assuming that maybe since he’s a bit more vanilla then me, he doesn’t quite understand how much it means to me so it never occurs to him to indulge me.
So, I guess my question is, after this horribly long-winded post, is have you ever had a mate that just didn’t get it? I know people have had partners that hated tickling, or thought it was really weird. I’m talking about those that just couldn’t seem to grasp how much it means to you, even if you’ve spelled it out for them? Like, "Oh, cool, they like tickling" but it's such a foreign idea to them that tickling could be more then a childhood pastime that they kind of immediately push it to the back of their mind?
I know the obvious answer is, “Well, just bring it up again”, but it’s so hard. Today was what drove me to finally de-lurk here. I was on the verge of just coming out and asking him if he would tickle me, and I just couldn’t do it. It got caught in my throat. I think I would have an easier time of telling him I was pregnant then asking him for this one thing. Even though he's reassured me multiple times that it doesn't squick him out, I feel so odd actually asking for it.
Anyone else have this kind of problem before?
I’ve been a lurker here on and off for years now, even before I was technically allowed to be here (come on, I’m not the only one, right?
). I just felt like it was time to finally say “hello” to everyone. I think this place is great; I’ve never been able to talk freely about my tickling interests, so I look forward to being able to chat with you all.That being said, I have a bit of a dilemma that maybe some of you might be able to identify with. Sorry if this is kind of lengthy, especially for my first post. Thanks for bearing with me.
I’ve been fascinated with tickling nearly my entire life, nearly as far back as I can remember, and yet I’ve only ever mentioned it to three people. One being my mother when I was younger and I felt guilty for having this fetish (she was surprisingly comforting and understanding about it). The other two times were with boyfriends.
I told my previous boyfriend about it a few months into our relationship. I didn’t even tell him it was a fetish, I just said I enjoyed it, and that was all it took. I was treated to good tickles nearly every day I saw him of our year and a half relationship.
I met my current boyfriend years ago back in high school and we became good friends. He was definitely part of my tickling fantasies way back when. After we hooked up last month I figured since we were dating, I may as well tell him about it. He’s a bit of a whips and chains guy himself, I figured he would understand.
Well, he was cool with it, and I was thrilled, since it had almost been a year since I broke up with my last boyfriend and was in need of some awesome tickling. Despite my boyfriend being my best friend, I was hoping I really wouldn’t have to bring it up again that much since I am still kind of shy about it.
He’s tickled me for prolonged periods of time before, but either to be a pain in the ass (when he knows I have to use the bathroom, he gets a kick out of torturing me a little) or once to cheer me up. During the latter experience it was in front of other people, so I couldn’t appreciate it freely, and once I finally dragged him to his bedroom so we could continue to play in privacy, he totally stopped.
It’s horribly frustrating. I do things for him all the time I know he enjoys, I’ll rub his neck, kiss his ears, little things like that that I know he appreciates, hoping to be on the receiving once in a while. It doesn’t have to be sexual at all, a playful tickle fight that lasts for all of two minutes can totally make your day, you know?
I hope this doesn’t sound like a case of “girlfriend expecting the boyfriend to read her mind”. I’m pretty sure “I have a tickling fetish” is as clear as I could make it 😀. Beyond that I’ve tried to give him lots of little hints. He mentioned watching tickling videos together at some point so I sent him a few just so he could see what exactly it is that I am into. I’m constantly tickling him just in hopes of retaliation. I brought up going to NEST before. No luck.
Just to be clear, I don’t think he’s intentionally holding out on me. He just doesn’t seem to get it, for some reason. I’m just assuming that maybe since he’s a bit more vanilla then me, he doesn’t quite understand how much it means to me so it never occurs to him to indulge me.
So, I guess my question is, after this horribly long-winded post, is have you ever had a mate that just didn’t get it? I know people have had partners that hated tickling, or thought it was really weird. I’m talking about those that just couldn’t seem to grasp how much it means to you, even if you’ve spelled it out for them? Like, "Oh, cool, they like tickling" but it's such a foreign idea to them that tickling could be more then a childhood pastime that they kind of immediately push it to the back of their mind?
I know the obvious answer is, “Well, just bring it up again”, but it’s so hard. Today was what drove me to finally de-lurk here. I was on the verge of just coming out and asking him if he would tickle me, and I just couldn’t do it. It got caught in my throat. I think I would have an easier time of telling him I was pregnant then asking him for this one thing. Even though he's reassured me multiple times that it doesn't squick him out, I feel so odd actually asking for it.
Anyone else have this kind of problem before?
Great job at coming out with all of this! It's definitely a bold step, and I'm sure the reward for it will be wonderful. ^_^
