Lack of enthrusiasm in things other than tickling

[banana]

Does anyone else here experienced the same as me?

To keep it short, basically, my gf knows i love to tickle her, not knowing that's my fetish. Although i never say it, it is very obvious, i tickle her a lot when i've chances. One day, she offered me a blow job.
And my reaction was "um.....er....um....ya why not..."
She was quite pissed off, coz she expected me to be very happy, like normal guy would, which i'm not. =.="

 

[blackmagicjack1]

This goes back to the old adage "it's the thought that counts" Next time your g/f does something nice for you be excited, besides you could always take getting a blow job into a nice round of tickling. She feels good because you are excited/appreciative, and you get tickling...sounds like a win-win to me.

 

[Journia]

I am not really, a fan of oral....things. I am with the peal on this one.

 

[TheBoyk1]

I have this problem, but my girlfriend doesn't even let me tickle her very much because she hates it. Needless to say it's a frustration but there's more to a relationship than tickling.

Unfortunately it has resulted in me not having much desire to have sex etc because I consider tickling a serious form of foreplay to get me 'ready'....and of course, she thinks if I can't get ready by 'normal' means that I'm not attracted to her, which isn't true.

So I feel your pain!

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

The Tickle, The Whole Tickle And Nothing But The Tickle

I Agree. The Fact That Tickling Is What Really(only?) Primes The Pump, So To Speak, Is Not Meant As A Dig Against Anyone Else. If She Doesn't Realize How Essential It Is, Well It's Kinda Like Trying To Eat Sugar-free Cotton Candy.

 

[jmedic20]

Moderation guys. Speaking from my own experience here, your mileage may vary. I got married at 21 (big mistake) and when I did it was like a huge bondage party. My ex wife turned out to be a gold digger, she wanted to hook me so I'd pay her way through life so of course sexually she gave me whatever I wanted....for a while. I was tying her up and tickling her several times a week. The more I did it, the more I wanted it. Soon I realized that I wasn't interested in "normal" sexual activities any more and it was difficult to get turned on any other way. When I got my first computer and started viewing online bondage images it got much worse. In the end our marriage turned into a sexless one. We divorced and I took a year and a half off from women, tickling, bondage, and sex. When I met my current wife I didn't tie her up for over a year. I used tickling in foreplay but I kept it brief. I try not to tie her up and 'torture' her more than three times a month and we never have two bondage sexual encounters in a row. I don't want to get into a vicous circle again. My wife really likes being tied up. The loss of control is what she enjoys. That being said she has made it clear that she doens't want to be tied up every single time. Most women won't.

you could always take getting a blow job into a nice round of tickling.

Be careful with that. If she wants to blow you, let her. If you can't get excited by just the blow job then you need to have a chat with her and explain why and find ways to make it work. If every encounter results in your gf getting tickled she's going to get sick of it eventaully unless she truly is a masochist. Example: my wife loves foot rubs (this is not a fetish thing for her, they just feel good, few women will turn down a foot rub, ask and you'll find out). I enjoy giving foot rubs and give them to her often. The urge to tickle the feet that are right in my face was overwhelming so I frequently did tickle them. That is until she pointed out to me that one tickle ruins the whole rub. She was nice and relaxed and just that quick I ruined it by tickling her feet.

Do nice things for your women. Make sure they get what they want in bed. If they like oral (giving/getting) make it happen. Make it clear her needs are important to you, do that often. Do that and she'll return the favor...then bring on the tickling.

Just think to yourself "she comes first".

 

[Camel26]

My philosophy on sex is similar to jmedic--the fun isn't over until everybody gets their cookies...

Just give her a cookie (or two...or three) first, and then go from there...and I agree, moderation is key...space things apart...thats how I do it...otherwise I can't concentrate during tk free sex...

 

[banana]

Thanks for sharing your experience.
Yes, by gf is the type of girl that let me do most things that will make me happy and turned on to her. I though it will be very good, but if i'm not warned here, i might as well become a fetishist that only get turned on by tickling and nothing else.

***I really appreciate the advices, thanks!***