Late Start?

[jxavier]

I know I've had a tickle fetish for years now. I've been open with it for awhile too. That's not the issue.

My fetish is so extreme that I thought it transcended sexuality. I've always considered myself straight, yet I've sure been watching a lot of male tickling videos recently. I've had sex with a lot of women, dated lots of women and have never once even kissed a guy.

But I've been giving a lot of thought to this sort of thing. Sometimes when I have sex, it sorta feels like something I just have to "get through." Like sometimes it just lacks passion. I tell the girl that tickling will help--I always do. And it always does, for the most part.

Because of this, I always thought that tickling WAS my sex. That sex was just sort of an outcome of tickling.

But what if that's not it? Male tickling has very much become part of my normal video regime... what if I'm gay? Honestly... it would make sense. And, I would also be a little upset that I've waited this long to come to terms with it, god dammit.

Anyone else going through this? PM me if you want, I would love to talk about this.

 

[RangerLoki]

Sexuality can be a tricky thing. For some of us, the foreplay is more enjoyable than the act of sex itself and that's just fine. Some of us aren't interested in sex at all, and that's fine too.
What you're experiencing may pertain only to your fetish, even if you're getting aroused over seeing men tickled. Observing the act can trigger different reactions and pornography can confuse your sexuality in general, but even if you come to find you have a sexual interest in men, that's nothing to be stress over. Explore your sexuality and see where it leads.

Personally, I watch videos featuring both men and women and don't mind getting my hands dirty with either gender, though I still consider myself straight. They're just eggs i keep in different baskets, if that makes sense.

I hope this was helpful, or at least gave you some food for thought.

 

[Smoten]

Also something to keep in mind: if you think about a particular subject matter long enough when you masturbate, you will eventually be turned on by said subject matter because your brain starts associating said subject matter with sexual pleasure. The best advise I can give you is to just explore that side of your sexuality and see for yourself if that is indeed what you're really into. If you're on the fence about it, here's a few questions for you to consider:


In your opinion, what is the most appealing aspect to being with a male partner?

What feature(s) do you think is most attractive in a guy?

Have you ever fantasized about being in a relationship with a guy?

If so, what type of guy do you envision yourself being with?

If not, why do you think you haven't?


You don't have to share your answers with the rest of the world if you don't want to, but the more detail and elaboration you put into them, the more it will help you identify your sexuality. If you are having problems coming up with answers to most of these questions, that's okay too; it just means you're not as gay as you thought you were.

 

[Mash]

For me, it's more about relating with the guy in particular, which appeals to my 'lee side.

I don't know that it necessarily has anything to do with sexuality.

 

[U.N.Owen]

I'd recommend talking it through with a therapist who specializes in sexual identity issues. That should help you figure out what's coming from what, and whether you want to start looking for male relationships. It's simply a question of what you're most comfortable with and what will make you happy... there's no right or wrong answer.