LD relationship advice please help

[SteelJaw]

Ok now theres a reason I didnt post this in Gen diss. Those who saw my recent post know that iv recently met someone and she is starting to mean a great deal to me. we both love tickling and we both are part of the fur community, we acctully have a lot in comon. Heres the kicker, she lives in England and im in MA. so we can talk to eachother all the time online or we could both stand at the coats and use lazer signals lol. But I know a lot of people say LD relationships dont work, but iv heard counter arguments too.

So my questions is, anyone got some advice. Mind you I dont have the means right now to go over there but she has the means to come over here and plans to in the near future. Im just looking for general advice to help me from people who have been in this situation. Well any advice will help really.

Hope yall can help 😛aw:
Thanks, later.

 

[darkwolf1]

Never pat a burning dog.........well you said ANY advice.....

J/k bro, uhh for you and everyone else out there who is in a LD relationship, my advice is simple. And not all that different from my advice on non-LD relationships.

1. don't cheat. Now I know you pretty well bro, and you wouldn't do that on purpose, but it bears saying, that many guys out there would use the chance that 'She'll never know' and get a second GF. This is a decidely bad move.

2. Carry a picture with you at all times. And don't use that little photo album in your wallet just cause it's there. I'd recomend placing it over the top of your drivers license. This way you always have something with you to remind you of her.

3. rememerb a few years ago, when those 'friendship' braclets were such a big deal? well their a good idea in this case. if you can't find one, go to a craft store, and buy about 18 inches of a cloth-based ribbon in your favorite color. Have her do the same, and exchange them via fed-x or snail mail. Now your have a bracelet to remind you of her at allt imes what you can carry with you. (I once met a guy who did this with the draw-string from a pair of running shorts. He never took it off....she ment so much to him he even slept and showered with it on.) It's important to make sure when you put it on, that you wear it tight enough that it can't fall off, but loose enough that it won't cut off blood flow.

4. finally, flowers and small stuffed aniamls are great things to send her. A little old fashioned, but if you set a dollar a day aside for just her, and send her flowers every month, then you'll be having to put that much thought into the realtionship.

 

[TheChameleon]

Darkwolf, YOU ROCK! Best advice I've ever heard.

 

[Kittamaru1]

best advice I can give is some I didnt' follow myself until it was too late.

TAKE IT SLOW. Know what you feel and what she feels. If it's purely physical, it will NOT work out, i will stake money on it. If it's purely emotional, it is likely to have huge ups and downs that will drive you two mad. If it's purely spiritual, I'm wondering what you're smoking.

A good mix of the three is needed. You obviously have to be physicaly attracted to her, but you have to love her mind and soul as well as her body. They are what make her unique, and if there is a part you can't stand then you either need to compromise (which is hard but very rewarding in the end) or break it off.

Beyond that, take it slow and steady. NEVER stop telling her how much you love her- even if she says she hates hearing you say it, she doesnt'. Send her letters (NOT E-MAILS) that you write by hand. Sign them in pen and draw little funny scribbles on it. Do things that show you take time to think about her- it shows that you will take time to be with her when you can.

Oh, and one more thing (something I did once and only once)

Don't EVER call her by your ex girlfriends name (even if you and your ex are still friends)

For some reason, it puts women on edge (hey! I can have moments of cereberal flatulation can't I?)

 

[SteelJaw]

hey thanx amigo, I love everyting about her, shes smart, funny, beautiful, were into a lot of the same things, and like me she crazy lol. But she one of the most wonderfull people iv ever met, and I make ever effort to show her that. The letters are a good idea, though I have done her a pic (advantage of being an artist) and if I can get her address there id rwrite her letters all the time. Specily now, shes kinda sick, and iv been trying to cheer her up.

See it has always kind bugged me, some people will sit there and say u cant fall for someone on the net, but u can. and regaurdless of what they might think, I have found someone that I concider a huge part of my life. and im gona be as carefull as I can not to lose her.

 

[Kittamaru1]

Ah, that's where you will go wrong.

Don't be afraid to loose her- be afraid to push her away. Love hurts at times, that's why it is so wonderful. Thru it's ups and downs you will both discover who you are and if you are able to be together. The advantage of an e-relationship is because there isn't the whole problem with "love at first sight" or puppy love. Infatuation is a visage of visual beauty, which often only runs skin deep. Getting to know their personality first is often best 🙂

Don't hold her too close mate... if she wants space give her space but always keep her in arms reach if she should fall. Never wander so far as to be unable to catch her and hold her close. When you fight, make up for it. Laugh and be funny and playful with each other.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

In my opinion, LD relationships are possible including those over the net. Look at TKLVR18 and Senshi. They live in completely seperate countries, and even though at times they're strap for cash, they still find a way to see each other, and now they're engaged.

This can, and most likely will, happen to you if you work at it. Make every possible effort to make her happy. This can range from sending her gifts to writing poems or even a simple "I love you". 😀

Everyday I try to make my wife feel like she's the most special person in the world to me, and it works wonders. She's stuck by me through even the hardest of times (me almost dying from Cancer). I could never repair her for such care and devotion. 🙂

So make her feel like she's special to you, is my advice. But don't cross the line where it seems as though you may have an obsession with her. That may scare her. 😛

 

[SteelJaw]

In my opinion, LD relationships are possible including those over the net. Look at TKLVR18 and Senshi. They live in completely seperate countries, and even though at times they're strap for cash, they still find a way to see each other, and now they're engaged.

This can, and most likely will, happen to you if you work at it. Make every possible effort to make her happy. This can range from sending her gifts to writing poems or even a simple "I love you". 😀

Everyday I try to make my wife feel like she's the most special person in the world to me, and it works wonders. She's stuck by me through even the hardest of times (me almost dying from Cancer). I could never repair her for such care and devotion. 🙂

So make her feel like she's special to you, is my advice. But don't cross the line where it seems as though you may have an obsession with her. That may scare her. 😛

Well first off, glad to here ya made it amigo, and heres wishing u many healthy years ahead.

Id say my biggesnt problem is my own lack of self confidence, and thats what makes it hard. Its not as hard as it use to be though. Lol im not sure im any good at writing a poem. But iv done her a pic of her Furry character and I have to admit that a lot of my art ideas are getting a bit more romantic then im use to. Its strange, she has no problem telling me how she feels but I still have a bit of a problem expressing myself. Maybe its cuz I dont want to sound like im obsessed with her (im not) but shes a very important person to me.

I guess ill have to just take it slow and see where it goes. Shes unfortunetly sick right now so iv been making every effort to make her feel better when shes online. And thats great, TKLVR18 and Senshi are an isperation. Basicly the way I see it, we have good thing going, she seems to have the ability to travel and has talked about coming over here. Me im a classic starving artist but hopefully that will be changing soon. And when she dose come over for a viz im gona try to show her the time of her life ^^

Thanks for the tips Bud

 

[Budweiserbob!]

Ah, self-confidence. 😛

Well, in my opinion this will grow over time. 😀

Eventually you'll be able to do things you thought you'd never do in the first place with her. 🙂