Local BDSM/TNG/Munch Groups

[Camel26]

Dear TT Community,

After a long stint without internet in my home, I am pleased and honored to return to you all!!!

Fortunately, I have been spending quality time with local BDSM groups, going to munches, and volunteering my CPR/First-Aid prowess at the local dungeon. Everyone in these varied environments has been extremely friendly and welcoming. However, I've noticed that I'm one of the few people that doesn't enjoy being hit/whipped/spanked/flogged, and the fact that I enjoy being held down and mercilessly tickled makes me feel less "hard core" than the other members of these groups.

Everyone assures me that I am welcome and it isn't a matter of being hard core, or enjoying pain. However, I still feel somewhat awkward.

I know that these groups exist in other cities...so I was wondering if anyone here is a member of a local BDSM group and, if so, how do you feel being a ticklephile amongst a bunch of leather loving, whip/paddle toting painphiles?

Thank you in advance for any responses!

Sincerely,

:greenstar:feather😀oc Camel:feather::greenstar

 

[Violetta]

Well, Doc, I personally can't really answer your question, since tickling for me is only one aspect of BDSM play that I do enjoy. Call me a painslut if you'd like. But my advice is to really not question things too hard. A lot of this is about a sense of closeness and fellowship of a sense, and if you're being told you're welcome there, then they're likely being sincere about it. I'm not sure how you'd go about putting that nagging awkward feeling aside, but hopefully in time you'll find a way. It seems to me that, for as active as you are with these groups, that you've very likely got friends there, and that's what should come first before you let differences in sexual kinks put any sort of distance between you.

I really hope that made sense. I'm still reeling from food poisoning, and not too sure about anything I just typed.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

First, let me say that it's great having you back, Camel26. :happy:

Then, I'll just back what Salmonella-Chan said. In fact, I'll even go it one further, and wager that many of your friends who are into pain games wouldn't dare allow themselves to be tied(or held) down for tickling. Seriously. I've had friends who gave themselves "Prince Albert" piercings and such, who wouldn't dare stand for tickling. You know, real pain-mongers. Who knows, maybe eventually you'll manage to convince some of them to come over to the dark side. 😉

 

[Violetta]

Salmonella-Chan

You know you love my disease.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

You know you love my disease.

Stay away you! With your spicy peppers and luscious tomatoes...

 

[kopfhorer1]

Back toward the original topic, I wonder if anyone there are any groups who are into tickling (by itself or along with other kinds of things) from upstate New York?

And yes, watch those tomatoes!

 

[JimBoy]

I am a member of the BDSM realm as well as a tickle fetishist. I am in NYC and am a member of the TES association http://www.tes.org/

I'm not really a masochist at all (painslut) but I do like corporal play; whipping, OTK spanking, paddling.... etc.

I have other kinky interests besides tickling but I must say that tickling is #1 on my must-do list. I never felt awkward about it going to BDSM events and such. Most of the Pro-Dommes that I am friendly with know my limits and what I am into which makes it easy for me. I am never forced to do anything I don't want to do.

My pain tolerance isn't very high but I do like corporal play because when it is done right to me it becomes very relaxing.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

first of all let the hollywood brother say it is very good for the hollywood brother to be back from vacation and to see that you are back with us on the grand forum here. as far as pain, it is up to you if you like it. as long as the people there do not make you feel uncomfortable then it is okay. you can always try it once to see if you like it. also if you can not get over the uneasy feeling then maybe this is not the best group for you to be rocking and rolling with. anyway the hollywood brother is glad to have you back here and hopes this issue works out for you

 

[Camel26]

No one has ever made me feel unwelcome there...and I get the feeling that some folks are completely intrigued by my ler and I...as we do not join in when asked to participate with others, as pain just isn't our thing...

The thing that got me wondering about others experiences in the BDSM scene was the fact that my lady and I went into our own corner, onto a table, and first she lay down...and I gave her a full body rub down/massage...and then she returned the favor by having me lay down on the table and she started to tickle me...and I was so freaked out I made her stop at first...but when I realized that everyone was doing their own thing, and I wasn't being watched, I encouraged her to continue. It was the first time we ever "played" in public. It wasn't hard tickling, and it wasn't prolonged, nor was I tied up. I was informed that I had to keep my hands in certain positions above my head, or that I wasn't allowed to laugh or else it would get worse, etc...

I just don't know where the fear or shame or whatever it was came from, and I wonder if anyone else has dealt with this same issue? That's all...I love these folks in my local BDSM group. They are fabulous, and I adore that my walls are almost all down around them.

Just looking for insight from anyone who has ever been in my position. I would love to feel more comfortable about everything around these folks.

Thanks in advance for the love and advice, and for advice/thoughts already offered.