long ramble/open sharing of feelings/questions for experienced ladies

[siamese dream]

The following questions and personal confessions are for any women who want to answer that are lesbian, bisexual, and bi-curious. Of course, everyone else is welcome to comment too, but I would be especially interested to hear answers from above mentioned ladies.

Okay, so I've known for a long time now that I'm bi-curious. I didn't really 'know' when I was a kid that this was what I was feeling, but I remember always feeling attraction to women as well as men. As I got into puberty age, I started feeling sexual curiosity about women, even wondering if I was a lesbian and would prefer to spend a lifetime with a woman rather than with a man.

Later, I met a man, fell in love with him, and had a 4 yr relationship. Since then, all my relationships (none of them significant or lasting since the first, but that's a whole nother story) have been with men. I've never been with a woman, but I've felt curious for a very long time now. I've also had two 'more-than-friendly' experiences with women... but it never went beyond making out, and some tickling with the first one.

I kind of feel now that my attitude towards the bisexuality question is that it's a matter of emotional connection and love... even though I might imagine my life with a man, I think it's entirely possible that I would meet a woman who was totally amazing, fall in love with her, and be with her. It wouldn't matter her gender, or whether or not I'm gay... it would just matter what I feel about this person.

I've also heard "you never really know for sure until you've experienced it".... and recently, I've been meeting people and been introduced to some women who are lesbians, or bisexual, and one has even expressed an interest in me. To tell you the truth, though I've not been tempted to have casual relationships with men (another long story, I tried that crap in the past and it was totally unfulfilling)...I am very tempted to have a sexual experience with this woman. Maybe it's because I've never done it before, maybe because I'm physically attracted to her, but I don't really know her all that well yet. I want to get to know her, but...

...here's another issue. So say that I spend time with this woman, get to know her, we both like each other. And then we go to bed and it turns out to be not at all what I hoped... and I realize that I really prefer men and don't want to continue a relationship like that with a woman. Well, I just think that I might end up hurting someone's feelings if things turned out that way. I feel like since it's something I'm curious about, I probably WILL enjoy it... why would I be curious about it otherwise? But then, there's the thought of "you never know till you try", and it may end up not being what I think it is. I almost feel like if I was to have an experience with a woman, it would almost have to be casual because I wouldn't want her to feel like I was 'leading her on' in any way; it would be something I was uncertain about. So I'm all conflicted in my morals regarding this. Part of me wants only the serious relationshp or nothing, part of me just wants the experience and to 'know'.

My questions... how did the women who feel this way discover their sexuality? Have you known since childhood, was it an experience later that led you to this understanding of yourself? Should a young bi-curious lady such as myself seek to satisfy her curiosity? Or just leave it alone and 'let it happen if it happens'? Lately I've been thinking A LOT about other women and just wondering, wondering, wondering... sexuality is a confusing thing. Just to make this tickling-related, I would tickle another woman in a heartbeat if she wanted me to 😀

 

[robmic]

Questions....

Siamese;
Being a man, I can't answer most of your questions, but there's one that I can give you my opinion on. As far as how to approach a situation such as you described, my advice would be to honest with the person if you feel that they would be understanding. My experences have been that it may not go the way you like, but it only hurts a little compaired to letting it go too far, then having things fall apart. If the person is honest with you, you will feel better either way it goes. Best of luck with your life and take care, Bob.😉