For what it's worth, gents, I know of a woman into this living there. She's happily involved still, far as I know, but she does read here.
You gents may want to consider meeting sometime, and getting to know one another. It's often easier for others to come out to a group event. Do consider starting a gathering of your own in your area. A simple munch (meeting at a public restaurant or coffee house) would be ideal. If you did it monthly, you'd encourage others there to show.
Worst case, you'd have friends who know EXACTLY how you feel, y'know?
Suggestin' as I'd once done,
dvnc