Meeting of two tickle lovers

[ktaber00]

Hi, Y'all!!!

A week or so ago there was a thread posted about a guy and a gal who were going to finally meet in person after talking to each other for a month a half about their love of tickling. He was a ler and she was a lee.

It sounded too good to be true and it was. This post is to let y'all know that talking to someone miles away and then actually meeting them is not always going to work. Sometimes it does and I am happy for those people. For the ones that it doesn't work out for, like this situation, you wonder what happened and are disappointed, but then you move on. One thing that I did find out was that he did try to tickle my feet (that apparently weren't "nice enough" for him....but I know that he was very picky and also not the same person I had talked to on the phone) and they aren't ticklish. I hope to find a session where other ticklish spots are discovered and enjoy the commaraderie of fellow lers and lees.

Just wanted to give you all an update on my view of what happened. I am still going to try and get together with other tickle lovers and exchange our likes and dislikes. This time I hope to make some friends along the way and still stay grounded.

Kathie

 

[sole seeker]

Kathie,

Just hang in there, I'm sure the situation will improve over time. Could have been worse, the guy might have got you alone with sweet talk, and then been physically abusive! Since this community is made up of people from all over the world, it stands to reason that there are all kinds of predators as well as nice people out there/in here.

The part of your story I found a little alarming was, "he was... not the same person I had talked to on the phone".

Do you mean he had someone else call you to set up this date? (That is not typical guy behavior.) Or do you mean that he turned out to be different in person than he seemed to be on the phone? (That would be true of almost everyone. How we see ourselves is rarely the same as how someone else sees us.)
Anyway, I wish you luck in future meetings.

 

[Bride of Dracula]

Don't worry Kathie there truly are some happy endings in the tickleworld.

At this past years NEST I counted far more couples there than the year before.

When I first discoverd this wild side of mine I knew I just HAD to go out and experience it for myself. From reading all of the posts on the assorted yahoo groups as well as the TMF it quickly became clear that the guy girl ratio was definetly in my favor.,😀
and so I set out to start meeting all the kind folks in the community and start exploring this new kinky facination.

But, as far more warm, careing, civilized and compassionate a people I have met there are also, as in all cliques and communities, a cross section of schnooks.
Where as I had finallly hoped to have found a situation where physical imperfections did not mean as much as in the mainstream watering holes of socialization, I had been snubbed numerous times for commiting the sin of not looking like a tickle model from the videos. And, of course there are also those unfortunates who simply can not handle reality out side of the computer screne, who either never would set an actual date to meet or worse, set a date and would never show. In my early days of exploration I came very close to chucking it all and leaviing the community because of t he multitude of rejection.
Of course this was until it dawned on me that the problem with these no-shows were not my problem, but theirs.

But onto the good part.....not quite a year ago one night I met my beloved StarWolf online which quickly progressed to a 5 hour phone conversation that led to a rauchous day of nothing more than some naughty tickle fun on the beach. Litttle did we both know that a year later we are still together and will be living together very soon. He is my perfect friend and naughtiest Ler and bondage master extrodinaire. And what he does with his otther attributes aint so bad either. 😀 A forever mad celtic werewolf wrapped up in the trench coat of a dirty old pervert.
How lucky can one tickle slave get? 😉

Take heart Kathie. There are still many keepers out there in tickle land. And we all deserve to be happy.
May the Tickle Gods be Praised.

 

[dtrell]

once again i am proven right.....many many people on here arent what they say they are and thats why i am very leery of people that post on here....

as much as people on here dont like me, i would be glad if i ever got to arkansas to tickle you...if i didnt like your looks or whatever i would still be cordial during our meeting and go through with it, and not act like a jerk. i feel bad for you.

 

[ktaber00]

Thanks for your encouragement!!

To SavoryDish

Hi!🙂

I appreciate your reply and letting me know what it was like for you out there. I am not totally discouraged, but was disappointed in how things turned out. The thing that I miss most right now is that the man I talked to on the phone was a real affectionate, considerate and hopeful person. He did mention that this could happen, but we both felt that it was a long shot and that we were both on the same page about a lot of things. He also said that I was not the same person that he talked to on the phone. I guess you can't get to know someone on the phone as well as having the total picture right in front of you.

I am happy that you have found your "tickle mate" and that all goes well for both of you. You sound like a great person and I do appreciate your encouraging words. It's good to hear from someone who has been there.

Hope to correspond with you in the future. I am enjoying the people that I am getting to "know" here at the TMF.

Kathie🙂

 

[P50]

Did the two of you do any time with a web cam prior to your first real life meeting ?

 

[ktaber00]

No, just pictures . Mine wasn't even full length and he did request after that a full length one, but I didn't have one. I did try to send some from a digital camera, but they wouldn't go.

I don't blame him for wanting to see what I looked like, but I did describe myself to him and even when he assured me that I sounded okay and that any extra pounds we could work off together....there just wasn't a "spark" for him. His pictures were kind of deceiving
in that I thought he was taller. Mostly, his personality was totally different and he mentioned that mine was, too.

Live and learn!!

 

[Bride of Dracula]

Kathie, he is going to be a very lonely tickler with an attitude like his.
Remember, there is more than a 2 to 1 ratio, in the womens favor, in this community.
I am quite sure that your personality was exactly what you represented it to be. He on the other hand, finally revealed what a real jerk he is when he didn't get the fantasy model he wanted.

No worries Kathie.
He did you a favor by wussing out. It has been my experience that guys like him are very bad ticklers. He is more interested in his own needs than making tickling a fun and pleasurable experience for you.

There are many quality gentlemen in this community. Gatherings are a great way to meet them. You won't be alone for long.

 

[ktaber00]

For all the non-jerks out there

SavoryDishes,

Thanks for helping me to see that it is his problem and not mine. Most men like to "brag" about how great they are in other ways...why not in tickling, also?

I am not too worried about finding a tickler out there. I know that there are a lot of males who are interested in getting there nimble fingers on a helpless, ticklish female. Right now I am back in school for the semester and working, so I don't have a lot of free time on my hands. One thing I know for sure, I won't be so easily swayed to believe that people are who they say they are. I should have learned that one a long time ago, but this last experience was a real beaut!!!😡 I know that I say what I mean and feel that I need to tell the truth, so I expect others to do the same.

Meanwhile, hope you and your fellow are doing great.

Talk to you later!

Kathie
Tickled Pink
🙂

 

[dtrell]

kathie, i agree with you completely about saying what you mean and being honest...of course if you do that on here like i do it gets you into trouble. you have to be VERY wary of ANYONE you meet or talk to on the internet...period.

 

[ktaber00]

Honesty with tact

I don't know of any of your other postings, but I do appreciate your honesty. Unless I am put in a position that makes me angry and forces me to say things that people don't like to hear, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I am learning, slowly, that I need to read between the lines and not always give people that luxury.

Honesty with tact is something that I appreciate. I am also to a point where I can take more criticism that I used to and will try and learn by my mistakes more than I have in the past.

Sometimes we don't know the truth unless someone points it out to us.

Take care and hope to talk with you more!🙂

Kathie

 

[Iggy pop]

This illustrates one of the problems of meeting people over the internet. I really believe that you never get a good impression of somone over the internet. Even on the phone I do not think we get the full picture. In our mind we sometimes build a person up to something they can never live up to in real life. I've personally never met anyone through this forum, but I have met people on the internet and let me tell you it has never worked out. I have had lot more succes meeting people in bars and at the gym.

In this case I don't know what happened here. We have only heard one side of the story, and I wasn't there. It does appear that both sides thought the other side was something they were not.