Moral question...?

[medikation65]

Is it right or wrong to be on this site, and site like it behind your significant other's back? As in, they don't know you visit the TT and the TMF?

Opinions?

 

[TKLVR181]

Well, define significant other. Husband/wife, it's the type of thing you shouldn't be afraid to share. Boyfriend/girlfriend, I think not. At any rate, it's your business and it's whenever/ifever you feel comfortable with it! 😀

 

[conehead180]

I don't see how it could possibly be wrong. Do you think your significant other tells you of all the sites they go to? I seriously doubt it. It sounds to me like it's kind of a trust issue. Do you think that by keeping the sites you visit a secret your breaking some kind of trust bond? I think it really all depends on what your definition of "morality" is, too.
Also, sometimes it's best not to read too much into a situation. But since I don't know exactly what your situation is, then I can only offer my opinion in a general fashion.

 

[drizzay01]

Yeah, I don't think it's morally wrong. But I do think, if you're in a relationship that can't be honest enough about it, then the relationship needs to change.

So it's wrong in terms of...unhealthy, but not morally wrong.

 

[Weedly]

for the most part i agree with Ticklvr18

and i dont have a "significant other" right now so it doesnt matter

 

[medikation65]

Well I was thinking of getting engaged in the next few months to this girl, and I'm not sure if I should tell her about all this, or leave it as something she doesn't know about. My frequency on visiting is going down anyways, so I just thought I might inadvertantly stop all together. But I'm not sure what to do, thanx for the replies though.

 

[guest5]

i am working on telling my gf🙂

bonster27

 

[DarthGrinn]

It all depends on what type of person your 'S.O.' is. If telling her/him is going to ruin the relationship; why bother?

Personally, my gf and I are very open about our... obsessions... with eachother lol.

And even tho she totally doesn't get the f/f tickling (she doesn't mind m/f, of which I have very little); I do share my stuff with her, and we enjoy discussing it and just goofin off. She knows about the forums, and even signed up (as a lurker lol).

It's an adventure, I must admit. For me it didn't happen all at once; I spent a good deal of time trying to see what kind of person my gf was, and considering how telling her/not telling her would affect my relationship. I decided it was better to tell her, and it worked out fine 🙂

 

[Camel26]

I don't think being a member of this site is immoral, even if it's behind your SO's back. If you're not ready to tell them, you're not ready...things become immoral, imho, when you start messing around with people from the community behind your partner's back to get your fix. Posting, looking at vids, reading stories...I don't think that's immoral--it's a healthier way of getting your fix than cheating.

It took me a little while to tell my ler about myself and this site when we started dating...and once she learned more about it, and what it all does for me, she also joined the site as a lurker...she's pretty fabulous...

 

[TKLVR181]

I don't think being a member of this site is immoral, even if it's behind your SO's back. If you're not ready to tell them, you're not ready...things become immoral, imho, when you start messing around with people from the community behind your partner's back to get your fix. Posting, looking at vids, reading stories...I don't think that's immoral--it's a healthier way of getting your fix than cheating.
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I think that's EXACTLY it, Camel🙂

 

[tickle_fan031]

Is it right or wrong to be on this site, and site like it behind your significant other's back? As in, they don't know you visit the TT and the TMF?

Opinions?

I don't think that it's immoral.Like others have said it is a healthy way to get your fix.I remember when I first realised I had an interest in tickling and I thought I was really weird.But since browsing various forums and now posting at a few of them it put my mind at rest knowing that I wasn't alone.I think it's great to speak to others who share the same interest.How about looking at it another way(this prob is a bit extreme but nevermind).....say if this wasn't a tickling forum and it was a rock music forum instead or a writers forum,and you visited it without other people knowing,would you be asking the same question?Probably not.I think the moral question arises just coz it's to do with tickling and it's an interest that's not often openly talked about.It seems such a shame that with this interest comes a hell of a lot of paranoya.

 

[TKLVR181]

This place really is a "healthy" "morale" and all that way to get it "out". I've got some really good friends here *hugs TF* that will really talk to me, not just about tickling. People here don't see it as strange, and that's what we really need to "get it out". Just my opinion :happy:

 

[tickle_fan031]

This place really is a "healthy" "morale" and all that way to get it "out". I've got some really good friends here *hugs TF* that will really talk to me, not just about tickling. People here don't see it as strange, and that's what we really need to "get it out". Just my opinion :happy:

Aww*hugs tklvr back*yeah me too,I've made some great friends here and like tklvr said it's great to also talk to people about other things as well as tickling. 😀

 

[MistressValerie1]

There's nothing wrong with keeping some aspects of one's life private. I think it might even be unhealthy to share everything with a S.O., especially things that you think might offend them unneccessarily.

 

[Wade1]

Agreed, MistressValerie.

I've never sat down and told one of my girlfriends, including my current one, that tickling specifically turns me on. The nice thing about tickling is that they still tickle the crap outta me anyway; I don't have to go askin' for it. It's just something that girlfriends do.

 

[medikation65]

Thank you all for answering, this has really given me some more opinions which I get from nowhere else cuz I don't discuss this part of my life openly. You guys are the best, and keep them coming!

 

[TheChameleon]

.....say if this wasn't a tickling forum and it was a rock music forum instead...

man, having A rock music fetish would rule.

"Sorry babe, I can only have sex if we're listening to A song by Motley Crue..."

I would totally tell everybody.

 

[conehead180]

lol, I could see myself having a rock music fetish. *goes to listen to Motley Crue*

 

[ticklefiend30001]

Well it seems I might be in the minority, but I would not propose to a woman who did not truly know who I am. Now ofcourse at this point you have to deduce how much of a lee or ler you truly are, but if it is a significant part of who you are, like it is myself, then you are not being honest with your future spouse, and while I would still not say this is immoral, I would say that you have to seriously consider the repurcussions of not being your true self with someone you are obviously considering as your life partner. Let me at this point tell you, that apart from being a 'ler, I am straight as they come, and when I brought up my fetish to my SO, she did not give 2 shits, she was just glad I was honest with her.

From this point out it is your call my friend, I just wish you good luck with any and all you endeavours.

 

[MistressValerie1]

man, having A rock music fetish would rule.

"Sorry babe, I can only have sex if we're listening to A song by Motley Crue..."

I would totally tell everybody.

I would too! 😀

 

[MistressValerie1]

Well it seems I might be in the minority, but I would not propose to a woman who did not truly know who I am. Now ofcourse at this point you have to deduce how much of a lee or ler you truly are, but if it is a significant part of who you are, like it is myself, then you are not being honest with your future spouse, and while I would still not say this is immoral, I would say that you have to seriously consider the repurcussions of not being your true self with someone you are obviously considering as your life partner. Let me at this point tell you, that apart from being a 'ler, I am straight as they come, and when I brought up my fetish to my SO, she did not give 2 shits, she was just glad I was honest with her.

From this point out it is your call my friend, I just wish you good luck with any and all you endeavours.

I agree. When things are getting serious enough to talk about proposing, it's important to make sure that there aren't any awkward sexual secrets that would cause friction in a marriage or LTR. Even if you want to keep your browsing habits private, it would be a bad idea to keep your fetish interest completely hidden from your partner.