My Heart Is Broken!!!

[CowgirlDancer_U]

I wasn't going to post here, been sitting quietly wondering If I did anything wrong but after I read what piano said about his experience on line I thought why not share a sad story or let others know what I went through in hopes that you won't fall through the same trap.
A while back I signed up for match in hopes to find people in the area where I reside and maybe go on a few dates, I mean it can't hurt right? HA I did but nothing panned out so I decided to take the plunge and join jdate which is a Jewish site. Maybe I was looking in the wrong places. Okay so get this. I get an email from someone I had not chatted with in years. At the time we just didn't meet in person but of course we had that one thing in common. He tells me he lives in Florida which is not too far from where I am but we talk on the phone, send each other text messages, IM each other when one of us has the time, and send emails. He send me emails first saying that he found my profile and was very much interested in getting to know me etc.

He got into who he was, what he looked like and he would be willing to travel to see me if the chemistry was right. So because I knew his name from a long time ago I thought why not send an email back. I did and this is how we began chatting. My feet are extremely ticklish as well as other parts of my body and it was great that I would finally meet someone that had this common interest. Okay so he gets my email and he sends me another back stating how excited he was that I replied. In his first sentence,"I saw your profile and thought you were everything I was looking for, I know it sounds silly but it's true right down to the tickling."
He was married, has a daughter (beautiful one if I may say so) and now he's divorced or so he says. I would make the trip and the effort to meet the right person - I am for real and not a player he says. His last comment int his email was write back I'm really glad I made contact with you.

Now we had talked on the phone plenty of times, sharing with one another what he was looking for and what I was looking for. I felt a chemistry. Now okay so it takes time to get to know someone but I was smitten for sure over this guy and hurt as I write this to all of you. The messages on my phone, the teasing, the fact that he was looking forward to spending quality time with me soon and he was even going to make the trip and come to visit.

I take great care of myself and I look good. I work out daily and I love to pamper myself so I knew even though I share very intimate things with him and he accepted them that it wasn't me. He left me a message a few days ago (text) saying how he was with his daughter, to have a good day, the hugs n kisses and his name oh and by the by he always put "love" and his name which I thought was very sweet. Oh I won't share with you who he is because I don't like to break confidentiality and I will keep his name out of the mud. Ya see I know he loves tickling that much and wants to do something with it like videos or a website.

I was beginning to worry since I had not heard from him. Now I don't expect to hear from a guy who is interested in you every damn day what I expect is when I make that phone call to return it with,"well I can't chat right now" or that well I am busy doing something just something and what do I get NOTHING! I called his phone today and it's not working anymore. I worry now because he has a risky job and I can't get in touch with him. If he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend then be honest with me, tell me you missed her and I will back off BUT remember buddy YOU contacted me I didn't contact you, in fact I didn't know how to get in touch with you in the first place.

So this gal goes back to Jdate where she belongs to find that special someone and hope that if he is into tickling great so be it but if he isn't into it well then life goes on and I've learned something very important. NEVER take what a man says to heart so quickly. My heart has been broken too many Fu**ing times and I will not stand for it any longer.

I will be stepping away from this community until I feel more comfortable and not so heart broken with memories of this childish man. Have fun ya'll, be safe and I wish you all the very best.

Sincerely,

TklshCountryGal AKA Broken Heart

Support Our Troops! Miss you USMC 5 - Bama, Gabe, Dave, Alex and Travis!!!

 

[lollercaust]

Sympathy is not my strong suit, so please forgive me if this comes out badly.

I have two observations on the matter. First, only the very lucky and the very manipulable escape the dating world without at least one broken heart. You could probably have changed your criteria by now and settled for a lesser someone, but it's a mark of strength on your part that you'd rather hold out for a good person. There's no reward without a risk, after all.

Somewhere during the course of typing that, I forgot my second point, but it doesn't much matter. Time heals all wounds, and I speak from experience with a great many wounds. The true measure of a person's worth is not whether you can avoid failure, but whether you can dust yourself off after failing and try again. It takes no strength of character to run from failure, no integrity or fortitude to flee from a situation you feel you can't handle. Strength comes in facing the sitation despite the pain. I know you probably don't feel that now, and I didn't when my engagement of more than two years ended earlier in 2004. It is however the truth, and perhaps you'll find some encouragement in it.

I wish you the best in whatever comes next for you, and I hope that one day you find what you're seeking.

 

[piano_er1]

...Yet another childish person in this world. God, that pisses me off so much...I've absolutely had it with people like those. I'd like to shatter this scumbag's kneecaps.

It sucks marbles that you've had your heart broken (again), TklshCountryGal. I hope that your heart mends soon and ya feel comfortable enough to return here soon. Haha, I wish I could offer you some eloquently structured intelligent advice like Lollercaust has 😛, but I guess all I can say is all the best for a speedy recovery!

Take care. Hope to see you back here soon. 🙂

 

[BCTickler1]

My only advise for you, my dear and as my family motto goes "Ayez Prudence" translated, have wisdom. you have now learned from this and a great risk because your emotion's were involved. But, now you can have wisdom from this and grow in to a better person. Trust me on this, its been our familly motto for 5 century's and still going strong and I believe it every step of the way and its never failed me.

*hugs for you*
Hope to see you soon

Cheers!
Nick

 

[tower98]

I am sorry to hear about what has happened to you. I know you don’t think so now but, in time you will be over this and YOU WILL find the right person.

Ten years ago I also had been devastated for the second time in as many years. When I met Karen I was sure we would me married and living in the ***** with the white picket fence. She was wild and fun with a laugh that never left. I actually felt as if I was high when we were together.

ANYWAY…

After that first summer that we were dating she had left for school. We now could only see each other every other Saturday. Our time together was cherished, at least by me. You see after another few months passed we were planning a weekend on the lake. The night before she was coming she called to cancel telling me her car broke down. Telling her I would come to her she said no. She never wanted me to visit, looking back I probably should have known?

Well I jumped in the car and drove the six hours to surprise her. Showing up at her dorm with a rose I thought I would really make her day. WRONG! I found her with her long time boy friend and that was that.

That goes to show you it’s hard to judge people character.

Five years latter I met someone who has come to share my interests and fetish. We travel every where with one another and every day we get closer.

Anyway, my point is you will stumble across that special someone. It will happen when you least expect it and I’m sure you will have a happy ever after story for all of us.

If it would make you feel better just post his name and address and piano_er
will set him straight. [just kidding]

 

[RottingLies]

wow to long of post!! TklshCountryGal. I didn't even read it. So i'm just gonna say i'm sorry and i hope that you recover in some way.

good luck 🙂

 

[Luckycat1]

I have had five letters from ladies on TT as a result from my foolishly
posting a "personal" ad here. Not ONE was responded back after my
initial return letter. Perhaps they don't relate to my honesty, or whatever,
but if the situation were reversed, I at least would have the common
courtesy to return my email with a line of two why they are not interested.
Although I am a bit older than the usual poster, I believe that most people
on line are good people! A few insensitive fools won't rain on my parade,
I would rather go through life and be dissapointed a few times, than to have
to always expect the worst from people.

Good luck to you!

Meow!

 

[TicklePinkFeet]

I wasn't going to post here, been sitting quietly wondering If I did anything wrong but after I read what piano said about his experience on line I thought why not share a sad story or let others know what I went through in hopes that you won't fall through the same trap.
A while back I signed up for match in hopes to find people in the area where I reside and maybe go on a few dates, I mean it can't hurt right? HA I did but nothing panned out so I decided to take the plunge and join jdate which is a Jewish site. Maybe I was looking in the wrong places. Okay so get this. I get an email from someone I had not chatted with in years. At the time we just didn't meet in person but of course we had that one thing in common. He tells me he lives in Florida which is not too far from where I am but we talk on the phone, send each other text messages, IM each other when one of us has the time, and send emails. He send me emails first saying that he found my profile and was very much interested in getting to know me etc.

He got into who he was, what he looked like and he would be willing to travel to see me if the chemistry was right. So because I knew his name from a long time ago I thought why not send an email back. I did and this is how we began chatting. My feet are extremely ticklish as well as other parts of my body and it was great that I would finally meet someone that had this common interest. Okay so he gets my email and he sends me another back stating how excited he was that I replied. In his first sentence,"I saw your profile and thought you were everything I was looking for, I know it sounds silly but it's true right down to the tickling."
He was married, has a daughter (beautiful one if I may say so) and now he's divorced or so he says. I would make the trip and the effort to meet the right person - I am for real and not a player he says. His last comment int his email was write back I'm really glad I made contact with you.

Now we had talked on the phone plenty of times, sharing with one another what he was looking for and what I was looking for. I felt a chemistry. Now okay so it takes time to get to know someone but I was smitten for sure over this guy and hurt as I write this to all of you. The messages on my phone, the teasing, the fact that he was looking forward to spending quality time with me soon and he was even going to make the trip and come to visit.

I take great care of myself and I look good. I work out daily and I love to pamper myself so I knew even though I share very intimate things with him and he accepted them that it wasn't me. He left me a message a few days ago (text) saying how he was with his daughter, to have a good day, the hugs n kisses and his name oh and by the by he always put "love" and his name which I thought was very sweet. Oh I won't share with you who he is because I don't like to break confidentiality and I will keep his name out of the mud. Ya see I know he loves tickling that much and wants to do something with it like videos or a website.

I was beginning to worry since I had not heard from him. Now I don't expect to hear from a guy who is interested in you every damn day what I expect is when I make that phone call to return it with,"well I can't chat right now" or that well I am busy doing something just something and what do I get NOTHING! I called his phone today and it's not working anymore. I worry now because he has a risky job and I can't get in touch with him. If he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend then be honest with me, tell me you missed her and I will back off BUT remember buddy YOU contacted me I didn't contact you, in fact I didn't know how to get in touch with you in the first place.

So this gal goes back to Jdate where she belongs to find that special someone and hope that if he is into tickling great so be it but if he isn't into it well then life goes on and I've learned something very important. NEVER take what a man says to heart so quickly. My heart has been broken too many Fu**ing times and I will not stand for it any longer.

I will be stepping away from this community until I feel more comfortable and not so heart broken with memories of this childish man. Have fun ya'll, be safe and I wish you all the very best.

Sincerely,

TklshCountryGal AKA Broken Heart

Support Our Troops! Miss you USMC 5 - Bama, Gabe, Dave, Alex and Travis!!!

Just curious. Are you Jewish yourself?

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Thats the internet for you, especially in such an area as delicate as romance and attraction. While it does work for some people and leads to real relationships and marriages, it doesn't work for everyone. Perhaps you should try a different, more secure venue. Pleasantries and flirtacious comments often develop into emotional feelings which have no actual source but trick us into thinking they are real because its what we want to hear. Any love that would happen isn't technically possible until you've met the person and theres REAL chemistry. Theres no way to say you have that online. Its a very personable and personal thing and is only established in the flesh. To be taken completely in by written/typed words, even phone conversations is risky business. You should safe-guard your emotions a bit more and save them for someone better and more worthy of your love and affection.

You may very well have been one of many for him in his lecherousness (and the fact he may not be divorced at all is something to be really wary off, you don't need his problems to become your own) and he may be dangling lines like this to other unsuspecting women with no intention of meeting them or developing a real relationship. For all you know, his wife thinks they have a good marriage and he's flirting with women online behind her back and he's using the old "I don't love her anymore and we're getting divorced" combo.

So you have some things in common. So what? He could be lying. Is it love? I'm in no position to say its not, but I highly doubt it is. He played you for a sucker, or he's one of those men that cannot commit to anything (which is why he isn't prioritizing his supposed relationship with you or his wife in any tangible way, all that talk might have been cheap). It seems the last thing you need in your life right now is a troublesome man with a wife and family that says one thing and means another.

I hope you find a good man and that through actual discernment can find out if he's right for you rather than by what he alone says, or promises. I'd strongly suggest finding men in the real world and not online. Its just too risky to put all your effort into. This sort of thing is bound to happen again sooner or later if you don't wise up and take more initiative to go out and find a genuine man yourself.

You needn't settle for this, nor throw your pearls before potential swine.

Forgive my being blunt.

He's out there, "Mr. Right", but finding him is going to take more effort on your part, and his (things will be as such for him as well). If its meant to be, it will happen for however long it's meant to happen. If its not, then its just a phase that you learn from.

I hope you don't leave this site, and I hope you find what you want. Don't worry too much, and keep your chin up. :happy:

 

[CowgirlDancer_U]

He's BACK and thank GOD he was NOT hurt! Oh my Gawd I'm going to puke now. I don't feel so good right now but wanted to let you all know thanks for the wonderful feedback, etc. You are all truly a gift in life and I thank you for that!!!

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Thats very wonderful news indeed. I'm glad for you. But still, be alert my dear and don't let your feelings get the better of you. I know this is a happy time for you, but you musn't get caught off guard. I wouldn't want to see you crushed, again. Its not right. Tell us what happens, I look forward to your progress. 🙂