My official good-bye to tickling...

[Hamlet0071]

This has definitely been fun while it lasted, but I consider this fetish more of a nuisance in my life at this point.

Over the past year, I have steadily dedicated myself to a program of self-transformation designed to improve my confidence and self-esteem and develop the tools to help me get what I want out of life, with great results. This had nothing to do with tickling - more with a lack of confidence in myself and a desire to improve my inner game.

However, as part of this, I have come to see this fetish as causing more harm than good. I don't want to be a man cruising these forums looking for videos. I want to be turned on by women, not tickling.

I am only 20 years old and so I think I can actually remove myself from this with relative ease. Some of you consider people as born with a fetish - I do not. We are all capable of changing any aspect of our personality and mindset if we put in the work required.

To those who have accepted tickling and found it meaningful in their lives, I have all the respect for you. Myself, however, I don't want to find a way to live with it. I definitely think that taking it away will lead to more fruitful sexual experiences in the future, and this will go hand in hand with the other changes that I am making.

I feel this post gives me a good sense of closure. I would appreciate any feedback, particularly if anyone has ANY idea of what I am talking about or can relate in any way.

Thanks.

 

[Senshi1]

Timewarp's borderline-flaming aside, sorry to see a potential regular leave. I understand what you mean about changing aspects as opposed to "being born with it" (I and a few others here only got into it fairly recently, and voluntarily).

I don't know how easily you'll be able to shake it, in honesty, though. It seems to always come back. Fetishes are like tattoos - if you're that determined, you can get laser treatment, but you'll always have a faint outline left. After all, some people have therapy for years to get out of certain fetishes, and it's not always successful.

But all the same, best of luck. If you truly believe that ridding yourself of it will benefit you, I hope it really does work out for you. 🙂

 

[TKLVR181]

Timewarp, please do us all a favor and grow up -_-

Hamlet, I'm sorry to see you go, but I totally understand why you want to. I know that, for a while, tk took up too much of my own brainspace and I had to take a break from TT--I came back after I'd straightened my school and home life out a little--that doesn't mean I think you need to. You do what's right by you, and that's all anyone can ask.

~K

 

[SilverleafLycan1]

Well, it's a shame you can't be turned on by both. I've been a very long time lurker (don't let the join date, been around longer then that), and I'm sorry that you couldn't take more out of this board.
I am a male who frequently scours around here looking at the videos, pictures, artwork and stories. I am not much of a contributer. But this is still a community I am part of and proud to be part of. I see the regular's post, and I feel like I've grown to know many on here, it's comforting to me.

Good luck with your attempt to change. Though I have never tried to get rid of my fetish I do understand what you are trying to do. It might not be easy, I feel that fetishes are hard coded into people, but that's only my view. In a few years, if you feel like you've only been suppressing your urges and you feel like something is missing, please return. We will be around in one form or another to welcome you to the community.

 

[footkl]

SilverleaflYcan (that was hard to type!) has it dead-bang on. I happen to indulge in both - I love the "normal" things that males should be turned on by - I just have a little extra turn-on called tickling🙂

However, I totally understand what you're going through, and I wish you all the best. 😉

 

[Timewarp]

Meh you people are no fun. He's gone already and i'm just typing in a dead thread. So weeeeeeeee.....I've always wanted to DIE. heheh, mehehehe...ho ho, ho ho.

(oh nice edit. Oh everyone loves to kiss ass but you have one honest opinion and the whole internet goes wah.)

 

[Violetta]

Eh, one more person who's boring in bed. 😛 But hey, if being vanilla makes you happy... do whatever you'd like.

 

[DarkPoet]

Ouch. 😎 Nice, Sammi. XD

I understand the self-confidence deal, but mate, getting rid of tickling is ridiculous, IMO. If you really want to work in your self confidence, then let your fetish show and go with it. Show people you love who you are, not who you want to be. THAT is what self-confidence is about. I let my fetish show, and it's awesome. Girls who aren't "into" tickling think it's fun. I tickle and get tickled all the time, by some seriously hot girls. I'm a leader in my field, leader in my church, great with people, and great with girls. It's not about the tickling, slick. No matter what your flavor, it's all about how you display it. Trust me, vanilla people have self-confidence issues too. You won't get rid of em by getting rid of tickling.

Not that I'm trying to keep you here, mind. Do whatever you want to do. But if you're getting rid of tickling as a step to becoming more self-confident, then I'll tell you now: that is a class A demonstration of taking a step in exactly the opposite direction.

 

[Timewarp]

:Being mean to users is not nice, especially when they are leaving:

Being mean to someone is a matter of perspective and interpretation. In your case, tell the angry voice in your head to shut up.

 

[Senshi1]

Being mean to someone is a matter of perspective and interpretation. In your case, tell the angry voice in your head to shut up.

lol Am I missing something or are you arguing with yourself? Either way, you seem to have taken our comments to heart. Basically, there's a time for humour, and a time to keep a lid on it, lest you cross the line into downright rude.

 

[Big_Dogg85]

Even though I agree with timewarp in the sense that Hamlet may not be actually reading these posts, I can understand Hamlet's decision and I respect it as well.

I'm sure the majority of us here, myself included, would not be able to turn ourselves off to tickling but if Hamlet feels that the fetish of tickling that we all love will impede his progress through life then I wish him the absolute best moving forward. I will say this though: my experience has taught me, as cliched as it sounds, that everything has a proper time, a proper place and a proper set of circumstances. I would say to Hamlet that while he should do what he has to in order to succeed in life, he shouldn't completely abandon tickling but rather understand that he can get what he needs out of life and still enjoy tickling to the extent that regular people or couples do.

Hamlet, if by chance you are reading this, I truly wish the best in all of your future endeavours, but I would implore you not to abandon tickling so completely and absolutely: everything has a proper time, place and circumstances and when all of those fit into place for you, I hope you get the pleasure of enjoying something that we all love to do and get.

Good luck! 🙂

 

[Timewarp]

lol Am I missing something or are you arguing with yourself? Either way, you seem to have taken our comments to heart. Basically, there's a time for humour, and a time to keep a lid on it, lest you cross the line into downright rude.

Unfortunately sneshi my boi, ISTPs best one liners are during the wrong times. Did anyone remember the thread i made about personalities or did everyone brains esploded? Either way, you can't change me. Though I wish our leaving chap the best of luck. (1 post back)

 

[TKLVR181]

Unfortunately sneshi my boi, ISTPs best one liners are during the wrong times. Did anyone remember the thread i made about personalities or did everyone brains esploded? Either way, you can't change me. Though I wish our leaving chap the best of luck.

Trust me, Senshi LOVES bad-timed jokes, so he can identify😛 I remember that thread, though I can't remember my personality type--all we're saying is show some respect for the departed😉 We don't wanna change you totally, we just wanna see a bit of respect for others!

~K

 

[Timewarp]

WHich is why I've added the line "Though I wish our leaving chap the best of luck" one post back.

 

[Senshi1]

Then we're all good friends again, so let's leave all this nasty business behind us. 😛

 

[Hamlet0071]

Hey, you guys didnt think I'd write this without even making one check-up, did you? Thanks for all the feedback and support - its good to see support in the community even when one is leaving.

What particularly resonated with me was what the guy on the previous page said about this being a step in the wrong direction if I wanted to work on confidence. Bro, I actually agree with you. If I had total confidence in myself, this would not be an issue. The issue as I see it is that, while I am developing, lurking on these forums will in no way help me. Its not a causation, but I do see some correlation.

Hey, those of you who said I might come back - you might be right as well. But, as with anything in a complicated life, we definitely need to take breaks from things in order to focus on other things and figure out more about ourselves. That's what I'm doing. And if I stay away, fine. If I come back, hopefully it'll be as a better person.

No need to post more to me unless you guys wanna continue the dialogue among each other - I actually think that if I'm going through this, a lot of members (mostly young lurkers like myself) might be going through this as well. Later!

 

[Big_Dogg85]

If I come back, hopefully it'll be as a better person.

Then that is all we can hope and wish for. Good luck Hamlet and cya soon. 😉

 

[hotchytick2]

I want to put my two cents in. This fetish is like a drug habit that I can't get rid of. I call it that because it is exhilerating and I have a need for it that I can't shake at the same time. But as a whole it is not very satisfying and adds nothing to my life. It's just a cheap thrill. If I lost my desire for my fetish, it wouldn't be a loss at all.

 

[Featherdemon]

Hamlet, I wish you the best of luck. 🙂

There is nothing I respect more than someone taking a step to better themselves.

I hope you find what is you want though I hope you come back to tickling eventually. I think it is nice to have a fetish so long as it does not become all consuming. I have spent many the early hours of the morning browsing and chatting hoping to chat about my newly discovered (only 19 yrs!!) fetish.

But do not be too harsh on yourself in your desire to be yourself. Tickling is a part of who you are; you just need to decide how much of a part.

Best of luck, and may the blessings of the Elves, Men and Free races of Middle Earth go with you.

F,

 

[BigNorm]

Eh, one more person who's boring in bed. 😛 But hey, if being vanilla makes you happy... do whatever you'd like.

zing!

 

[FeatherFeet]

People really need to stop trying to change who they are for who the norm wants you to be. (given there are plenty of people, HERE included who just try to do outrageous stuff to prove they arent the norm, some people borderlining on serious mental problems actually) but seriously, if you find joy in something and it's not hurting anyone, (your partner or yourself included) who cares what you do.
and i seriously never got what was so appealing about just sex anyway. then again, tickling isnt sexual to me either, (unless its with an intimate partner who is doing other things that i dont need to mention) but for christ sake, the normal thing is such a double edged sword. so many people have such an urge to either be NOMRAL or NOT normal that they never live life who they actually are and were meant to be. and that's sad.

 

[MistressValerie1]

People really need to stop trying to change who they are for who the norm wants you to be. (given there are plenty of people, HERE included who just try to do outrageous stuff to prove they arent the norm, some people borderlining on serious mental problems actually) but seriously, if you find joy in something and it's not hurting anyone, (your partner or yourself included) who cares what you do.
and i seriously never got what was so appealing about just sex anyway. then again, tickling isnt sexual to me either, (unless its with an intimate partner who is doing other things that i dont need to mention) but for christ sake, the normal thing is such a double edged sword. so many people have such an urge to either be NOMRAL or NOT normal that they never live life who they actually are and were meant to be. and that's sad.

That's an excellent response. What is defined as "normal" is largely determined by the psychiatry profession, organised religion, and legal codes and is subect to change over time. For instance, in the 1950's, oral sex was considered a shameful perversion but is now widely accepted. I think it's pointless to worry about what the "mainstream" thinks is normal. It's better to enjoy the sexuality you have as long as you aren't harming anyone.

 

[P[a]pi]

I don't want to be a man cruising these forums looking for videos. I want to be turned on by women, not tickling.

I'm assuming you want to do something physical with the woman you fall in love with. You'll do sex, we'll do tickling and sex. Are you turned on by sex, but not the woman? No, so we aren't turned on by tickling, but not the woman.

Some of you consider people as born with a fetish - I do not.

I consider some people born with it and some people are introduced to it by others, and they decide they like it, or can tolerate it.

To those who have accepted tickling and found it meaningful in their lives, I have all the respect for you. Myself, however, I don't want to find a way to live with it. I definitely think that taking it away will lead to more fruitful sexual experiences in the future, and this will go hand in hand with the other changes that I am making.

You make it sound like a disease or cancer that you either choose to "live with" or cut it out of you. I'm not "living with" anything. I'm being myself. I like tickling. It's not immoral or illegal, so I have no reason to change myself.

Granted, it is something you have to control, but you also have to control how much you eat, how much liquor you drink, how much you play video games, etc.

 

[FeatherFeet]

That's an excellent response. What is defined as "normal" is largely determined by the psychiatry profession, organised religion, and legal codes and is subect to change over time. For instance, in the 1950's, oral sex was considered a shameful perversion but is now widely accepted. I think it's pointless to worry about what the "mainstream" thinks is normal. It's better to enjoy the sexuality you have as long as you aren't harming anyone.

all true. and thanks for the compliment ^.^

but yeah, if anything, its the norm that should change for the people, not the people that should change for the norm. (either by giving into it, or rebelling against it so harshly they poison who they really are)

 

[BigNorm]

People really need to stop trying to change who they are for who the norm wants you to be. (given there are plenty of people, HERE included who just try to do outrageous stuff to prove they arent the norm, some people borderlining on serious mental problems actually) but seriously, if you find joy in something and it's not hurting anyone, (your partner or yourself included) who cares what you do.
and i seriously never got what was so appealing about just sex anyway. then again, tickling isnt sexual to me either, (unless its with an intimate partner who is doing other things that i dont need to mention) but for christ sake, the normal thing is such a double edged sword. so many people have such an urge to either be NOMRAL or NOT normal that they never live life who they actually are and were meant to be. and that's sad.

wha?.... what am i trying to do now?