Need opinions, i am in a bit of a dillema

[chode]

I am 26 years old. I have a stable well, decent paying job. And all of my friends and family are with in an hour from me. I recently have been offered by one of my rather rich clients (i am a personal trainer/therapist) to move to North carolina, charlette(spelling?) She said to me out of all of the trainers she has had, that i have gotten her to progress the best. Aside from that. She and her husband want to pay for me to have my own private facility to train out of. Once in a life time oportunity? I think so? Lets just say that right now my career feels a bit stale. I make ok money, but could never really do all the things i want to do in my life with what i make now. There is a good potential for me to do well if i move. But the thing holding me back the most is moving 10 hours away from my friends and family. I live in kent ohio right now. I feel like i am riding the fence with the issue. I know, what a wuss. But i would be entirely on my own if i moved. Kinda scared i guess. Oh well, just want to see what you all think. Tell me to stop being a pussy and i will probably agree. Who knows.
Mark

 

[Krokus]

I was in your situation a few years ago...I moved from Texas to Florida....so I know how you feel....I ended up returning to Texas, but thats a different story. Anyhow, If you feel that you would do better for yourself there, then by all means move. However, if you value having the security of your folks being close more than that, then I'd stay...really it's on you. Personally? In your position I would move. Like you said, there is a huge chance for success. And like myself, you could always just move back if you feel too much pressure.

 

[chode]

Krokus. Thanks for the input. I do value having my friends and family close, but your right about the success part. If there is a chance for good things to happen. I should go. What was it like moving to a place where you didnty know anyone, you going to florida?

 

[Krokus]

Well, I knew at least a few people in florida, and I had some family down there....so it was a bit easier for me at first....however, I was sold on the idea of a band, and basically moved down there on an empty promise. I met the love of my life there, though, so all was ok. It's really a risk....you could go, and have huge success, or maybe not....either way, I think it's an oppurtunity that you would regret not taking.

 

[phfttklr]

yjgfn,
I feel you have to do what is best for you. I know it's hard
to leave family and friends but think of it this way. What if they left to do their own thing and you stayed behind and passed up this opportunity? I'm very close to my family but never came upon a situation to have to leave but they all moved. My sister, whom I'm very close to, recently moved a few states away from me. I thought we would always be near each other but, as it turned out, that wasn't to be. You can't live your life according to others just as they can't live their life to yours. You can always move back if things don't work out anyways.

Good luck in your decision.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

A matter of priorities

It sounds like you need to take a good look at what is most important to you and what you can or cannot live with. If family and friends are higher on that list than money and what you can do with it, then stay put. There's nothing wrong with that. If you feel that the extra income and whatever freedom/perks it provides is more important than being closeby, then you may want to consider making the move. Today's society tends to lean towards money over everything else. But, that isn't all there is to life. It's a very individual decision. You just need to go with what feels right to you. Good luck either way!

Ann

 

[BigJim]

I think it's important to remember a few things. This WILL provide a great opportunity to you, as do most chances of travelling somewhere new. Yes, it will also keep you at a great distance from your friends. However, it won't prevent you from seeing them altogether. You say yourself that you're paid reasonably well, so trips back home will be possible. The question you need to ask, is "Can I live with only seeing my friends a couple of times or so, a month?" And don't also forget that moving to a different place will give you the opportunity to meet new people and make new friends. That would be very good too, apart from the job oportunity. Given the choice myself, I think I'd go for it; at least in the short term. No move is irrevocable after all.


As an aside, think of it as a good opportunity to get some decent tickles in on the client as well. 😛 😛

 

[chode]

Jim, thanks, you make sense. It is a big opportunity, i havent looked at enough like that. How often in a liftime will i have someone beleive in me as my friend/client does. I am starting to teeter towards one side of the fense. I will keep you posted on what is happening. I am awaiting my phone call from NC so i can go check it out.

 

[BigJim]

Good luck, whatever decision you make. 🙂

 

[wahuhu71]

not that i would compare your situation to mine, but my now-ex girlfriend grew tired of our long-distance relationship(me in boston,her in florida). anyway, she recently gave me an ultimatum-move to fla now or end the relationship. i almost pussied out and left boston. now, one month later, all i can think of is how much i love boston and how happy i am to live here. it was rough for awhile, but i can't imagine being happy while being forcefully ripped from my chosen home to keep someone else happy. i hope this helps you. i know it feels good to write it. now if i could only find another stripper to fall in love with me(joke)

 

[sole seeker]

Hey Yig, I gather that you work for someone else at this time. Rather than quit, if you have the chance to do so you might consider asking for an unpaid leave of absence. (Six months would be great.) That way you can make up your mind and if you don't like the new situation, or it isn't as good as you pictured it, you can still return to your present job.

I moved away from family and friends about 30 years ago, when I relocated to the midwest from a large metropolitan area back east. I knew no one out here, I just wanted a change of life. It's true I missed my family at first, but we still chat weekly and see each other at least every year. Sometimes more often. (For instance, one mother's day I surprised my mom by dropping in on her with flowers. My presence at her home for mother's day, now that's a cheap gift!)

Anyway, about a year after I moved out here I took a two-month leave of absence from my job to go back east and work in partnership with a friend. I liked seeing my friends, but I preferred my life here in the midwest, so back I came.

I've never regretted my choices, but I didn't burn my bridges until I knew I wanted what I had... if you catch my drift.

Hope this helps.

 

[terorizer]

I think it's natural to be a little scared, when this decision could lead to such a big change. I would echo some of the previous comments about priorities and add something about regrets: They aren't worth having. While 10 hours away is certainly not 1, it is just about an hour flight (I believe Charlotte's a hub for several airlines), or a day's drive. With all the free minutes and family stay in touch plans and the internet, etc, there are more ways than ever to stay in touch. Just my thoughts, all the best on your decision, I'm sure you'll make the best one for yourself.

 

[execmail77]

Let's clarify "family" and friends...

I didn't see it specifically mentioned here by you, but by "family" are you including any of your own (non-adult) children that you'll be leaving behind?

If so, forget about it. I've never met anyone who ever did that and didn't live to view that as the single biggest mistake they ever made, regardless of what they got in return.

If not, go for it! I made a decision at 18 to move away from everything I'd known growing up, to attend college (as many do). I viewed it as an adventure, and knew absolutely no one in the city I was moving to. And it was the best thing I ever did.

 

[chode]

Thanks tero. Exec...i am 26, and unmarried, so there are no kids of mine to be left behind. No girlfriend tying me down either(that might be cool though, tyied down....i digress). I am awaiting my call to be flown down to NC to check it out. I do think a big change may be what i need in my life right now though. But like i ahve said and some of you agree with, it is pretty scary to leave people behind. But, only an hour flight away.........