nervous ticklee

[Ticklegrrrl]

Okay, here's a question for all you ticklees out there... how do I tell my new boyfriend about my tickle fetish. We've been going out for some time now and have an amazing sex life, but I want him to tickle me so bad. He does sometimes and I've been hinting around but I don't think he knows how much I love it. Is this a sexy fetish to most folks? What do you think? I can chat on the internet forever but what I really want is for HIM to tickle me, mmmmm. help! Thanks for the advice people, I'm new to all this (not loving tickling, talking about it, wink).

Ticklegrrrl

 

[dvnc]

Hmm... quiet 'lees today, apparently.

How about a "boyfriend's" point of view?

Havin' had former lovers confess their interest in bondage, spanking, various forms of role-play, and certain favored acts and positions, I would suggest perhaps approaching it in an intimate moment, completely honestly.

Something like "I'd really go wild if you'd tie me, tickle me, and then bring me to screaming orgasm" would be fully appropriate to hear from my long-term lover. It's much easier than hearing "I really dig spanking" casually a number of times, and then getting silence when asking for specifics. Like tickling, spanking has more than one aspect and everyone seems to dig it their way. Took a bunch for her to 'fess to it, and a silly bet lost to show it. Much easier if one just tells.

Mind ya, I'm open-minded, and since it didn't involve changin' diapers or anything olfactorily offensive, it was fairly easy to me.

That's my $0.02 on it. Hope you find your way on this one. It's a tough call for most!

dvnc

 

[Iggy pop]

This shouldn't be hard

Guys are not as freaked out by kinkiness as girls are. But just in case you may want to stay away from the word fetish. I would tell him that when he tickles you it really turns you on. If he is like most guys then he will probably be very happy to tickle you. If it was only this easy with girls.

 

[Ticklegrrrl]

you're so right

Thanks dvnc for your boyfriend-y advice! My fabulous guy and I are long-distance right now so we do a lot of sexy talking (in person and on the phone) and he hasn't had much trouble telling me how he'd love to kiss my feet or redden my bare behind, but somehow when you've been keeping your love of tickling quiet for so long it's hard to get the word itself to come out of your mouth, ya know? All advice is appreciated, I want him to rock my world...


Ticklegrrrl

 

[46and2]

Hey hows it going?
Most guys are perfectly willing to engage in anything that will gratify you (tickling is well within reason). You can always just straight out tell him but I know that's a hell of alot harder then it sounds. One thing you might want to try is instigating a tickle fight, you don't neccessarily have to tickle him to do that ( I know some lees don't like to). You can always just do somthing you know will get him to tickle you. For example: I had this friend of mine who was quite pretty (the reasons I'm not together with her I won't go into) whom I found out was a lee by her own way of telling me. She would poke me in the stomach and make a pillsbury doughboy comment, and I would end up tickling the daylights out of her everytime for it. Well she did this so frequently, that I would tickle her for alomost an hour some times. Thing was she kept asking for it and poking me again right after I stopped, so I would continue until she said she gave up, which was usually a loooong time. My point is if you keep doing something that just asks for it, he should get it eventually. However, I know that some of us guys can be extremley thick headed and naive about such things. So you might have to tell him. Hope this helps.

 

[dvnc]

Ooh, props to Pop for the wise mention of avoidin' the word "fetish". Sayin' somethin' turns you on, whether it's ticklin', flowers, silks sheets or chocolate is likely to go a better way when it's a turn-on than when it's a fetish, 'less he's way-kinked already, and cool wit' it.

Good on ya, Iggy Pop!

 

[QBWeaver]

Being a fully fledged "lee" as well as an experienced "ler" I have an idea to share with you that I've tried and it worked terrific.

I was talking to a gentleman friend over the phone and we starting sharing our fantasies. I told him that my favorite fantasy was to be tied down and tickled. He knows I'm kinda kinky and that I have gatherings and such but I had never gone into any detail with him about the specifics. He knew I had restraints but he never asked why. I finally shared with him about my indepth interest in this whole tickling thing. So we tried it... Oh goodness! It was absolutely incredible.

I believe we have a fully fledged ticklephile added to our ranks now!

So you might want to just get into the conversation about fantasies and share yours with him. That should give him some good ideas.

 

[korovan]

Tickegrrrl, you could also try emailing him a link to your favorite tickling website : "hey,look at this!" and then talk about it afterwards. You might not have to do so much explaining and exposition that way, and be able to cut to the chase quicker....

 

[Iggy pop]

Tickegrrrl, you could also try emailing him a link to your favorite tickling website : "hey,look at this!" and then talk about it afterwards. You might not have to do so much explaining and exposition that way, and be able to cut to the chase quicker....

I going to have to respectfully disagree with this advice. This may be too much for the guy to handle at least in the begining. I know guys scare less easily than girls, but I would never send a link to a girl and say take a look at this untill she became comfortable with being tickled. You do not want to overwhelm someone in the begining.

 

[Iggy pop]

Ooh, props to Pop for the wise mention of avoidin' the word "fetish". .

First thanks for the compliment DVNC. Unfortunately in today's world fetish has negative connotations. When you say fetish you may be thinking harmless fun, but she may be thinking serial killer and child molester.

 

[korovan]

Hmmm... good point Iggy. I guess it would depend on how kink-aware the other person was. If he was strictly vanilla, then probably a slower revelation would be better. If, on the other hand, he was already into something like spanking or bondage, then my earlier advice (like I'm some kinda expert... HAH) would probably serve and well.

 

[Iggy pop]

If he was strictly vanilla, then probably a slower revelation would be better. If, on the other hand, he was already into something like spanking or bondage, then my earlier advice (like I'm some kinda expert... HAH) would probably serve and well.

Yes, I agree with you here. I think somebody is already comfortable with a little kinkiness then showing such website could get the ball rolling.

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

I personally believe that when you are in a relationship, you really need to be looking out for the interests of the other person.

In that respect, your boyfriend should be more than happy to oblige to your desires.

I have dated some TICKLISH girs, who really DO NOT like being tickled, but all of them have let me many times tickle torture them beyond belief.

It's about love and respect, and if you two are close, he should WANT to make you happy.

I know, that when I am in a serious relationship, nothing makes me happier than to see my girl happy.

(Well and to tickle of course HAHAHA!!!! J/K!)

 

[Ticklegrrrl]

great ideas

Awwww what a bunch of sensitive guys (and I mean that in the emotional way not the ticklish way... well that too, ha). Thanks for all the great advice. Keep it up, bring it on!

Ticklegrrl

 

[Iggy pop]

Good Luck to you Ticklegrrrl. Hopefully you and your boyfriend will have some tickling fun together.

 

[milagros317]

I believe it was Susan Saradon's character in the film "Bull Durham" who said that men will do anything, if they think that it is foreplay. (She liked to tie men to her bed and read poetry to them.)

So just letting your boyfriend know that tickling turns you on should be great encouragement for him to do it, often.

Good luck.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Okay, here's a question for all you ticklees out there... how do I tell my new boyfriend about my tickle fetish. We've been going out for some time now and have an amazing sex life, but I want him to tickle me so bad. He does sometimes and I've been hinting around but I don't think he knows how much I love it. Is this a sexy fetish to most folks? What do you think? I can chat on the internet forever but what I really want is for HIM to tickle me, mmmmm. help! Thanks for the advice people, I'm new to all this (not loving tickling, talking about it, wink).

Ticklegrrrl

Easy, just tell him and ask him to tickle you. If needed or required if he asks you "why" , be honest and tell him why.
IF your relation and sex life is that great, he will find out how much better it is for you when you are being tickled!

There is nothing better than honesty in ANY relationship.

Sincerely,

TTD

 

[He-Man]

Re: you're so right

My fabulous guy and I are long-distance right now so we do a lot of sexy talking (in person and on the phone) and he hasn't had much trouble telling me how he'd love to kiss my feet or redden my bare behind, but somehow when you've been keeping your love of tickling quiet for so long it's hard to get the word itself to come out of your mouth, ya know? All advice is appreciated, I want him to rock my world...


Ticklegrrrl

Well, how about this: next time he mentions kissing your feet, maybe you could say something like "Ooh, I bet that'd tickle! " . And if you make it sound like you like the idea of it tickling, maybe then he'd realize you like being tickled.

 

[kurchatovium]

Good luck Ticklegrrl. I think I agree with Iggy that guys don't usually get freaked out about kinkiness as much as women do. So I would tell him. Lorelei has a webpage on how guys should tell girls their into bondage. Your situation is reversed but maybe the advice is still good for letting your partner know your into something kinky. The web page is listed below. I hope this is helpful. I know how hard it is to find someone and wish you two all the luck in the world.

http://www.bedroombondage.com/bondage/lorelei/partners/tellher.html

 

[marcusb]

I have a friend who is a closet 'lee. She's embarrassed to talk about it but she craves it. She didn't know I was 'ler but over time she did stuff to taunt me into tickling the daylights out of her.

I eventually brought it up and she, red faced as can be with eyes averted, mumbled that she like it. I've told her point blank I love tickling her and would nearly any time she asked. That was 6 months ago and she still can't come out and ask to be tickled (which is totally fine with me). She, in her own coy way instigates it and I then drive her mad. I've restrained her lots of times but mention of it still makes her blush like it was her first time even though she's been victim of my fingers for literally hours at a time.

My long winded point is, you don't have to come out and "spill the beans". Your actions can steer him in the right direction. Then, if the situation presents itself bring it up however you're comfy. If tickling is already a normal part of your play the step to bringing it up can be a small one.

Wish you luck. 🙂

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Re: This shouldn't be hard

Guys are not as freaked out by kinkiness as girls are. But just in case you may want to stay away from the word fetish. I would tell him that when he tickles you it really turns you on. If he is like most guys then he will probably be very happy to tickle you. If it was only this easy with girls.

Exactly🙂

If ONLY it was that easy with girls! i would be in heaven right now 🙄 🙄 🙄

 

[gig1965]

Make a bet where you offer to let him tie and tickle you if you lose........then LOSE!

 

[krallmarek]

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[Deleted member 2452]

ttd hit in on the head

honesty is the foundation, and backbone of any relationship.
be honest, be forthright, tell him you'd like to add more tickling to your relationship. lay out some tickle toys on the bed, or table, and say that you'd like him to try and figure out which one works best😉
then to try using his hands. make it a game, but be honest, and as all the others have said, he'll want to oblige you.
steve

 

[Battousai]

Yes, being honest is your best bet. And, speaking from a guys point of view...guys are pretty ignorant, we wouldn't get subtle hints if you smacked us over the head with them ^^x;