New GF, need advice

[ra2punk]

Hello,

I've been dating my girlfriend now for about 2 months. We've established that I like tickling her, but she doesn't know that I actually am turned on by tickling her and her laughing. I think she just thinks I like doing it to get a reaction out of her (which of course is another reason I love it).

My question is how can I mention it to her? Also how can I incorporate cuffs or restraint into the relationship? I just don't want to come off as a creeper cuz it may be a weird subject for her to talk about... so I want to slowly introduce it.

Any ideas of when you were introducing tickling to your partner? Thanks.

 

[P[a]pi]

It's pretty much a judgement call. I wouldn't mention the word fetish. Just tell her that you think her laugh is sexy and you think it's sexy to see her squirm when you tickle her.

Then maybe later you could ask her if she thinks she could handle being tied up and tickled. Just gauge her reaction to that question. And go from there.

 

[duck171]

Start small and reveal more as she becomes cool with it.

 

[TKLVR181]

Papi is an expert here, and I tend to agree with him. Don't use the big 'f' word (Not that f word you idiots!😀), it scares people off, but do mention seeing her helplessly laughing and squirming is a turn on. Maybe make a game out of it, "How long do you think you could handle it"? Bet her ten bucks you can get her to say a certain word in a certain amount of time (and actually pay her if you don't😛) Make it fun for her, too😉

~K

 

[ra2punk]

Thanks

Great suggestions - I will definitley try some of those. I will also keep ya updated on it and my progress, even though it may take a awhile. haha.

Thanks again.

 

[c_tickler]

I admit its not easy, hence why I've only ever told one g/f,
Luckily she was into Bondage big-time when our relationship got stronger - which i didn't know but was a huge advantage,
She asked me one day what turn's me on..... can't remember why we were talking about such things but it gave me the chance.
I told her after a long period of joking around as she tried to guess - she didn't understand it but was very eager to make me happy and despite HATING being tickled put up with it for me.

So all it's hard but somehow you find a way - I agree with the above - avoid the word Fetish and try to get it across as a playful thing, she might be up for it if you make it Fun rather than Weird for her (as said above as well)

Best of Luck!

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the legend himself, a.k.a. the hollywood brother thinks if you tell her that you like hearing her make noises and and you like touching her, then this is a start. later you can tell her you want to try something a little different and then suggest the tie up and or blindfold. once she gets used to this, you can try more things and even more items. eventually you can tell her that sharing these ticklish things with her means a lot to you and the fact that it makes you feel so close to her makes you get turned on is a good way to talk to her about it.

 

[Slayerfan13x]

I had a hell of a time telling my girl. I Just flat out told her after 2 months. I said Thing instead of Fetish. She understood thank God. I hope ur Girlfriend understands.

 

[tk0]

Try telling her that her laugh is very sexy and even more sexy when you tickle it out of her. Also that it turns you on or "makes you hot" 😉. You could bring this up the next time that you start tickling her.

 

[P[a]pi]

Papi is an expert here, and I tend to agree with him. Don't use the big 'f' word (Not that f word you idiots!😀), it scares people off, but do mention seeing her helplessly laughing and squirming is a turn on. Maybe make a game out of it, "How long do you think you could handle it"? Bet her ten bucks you can get her to say a certain word in a certain amount of time (and actually pay her if you don't😛) Make it fun for her, too😉

~K

Thanks for the compliment K. Making a game out of it is a good idea and I agree that making it fun for her is very important.

Girls just want to have fun right? haha Crappy song...

 

[ra2punk]

Thanks, and Update

Wow, thank you all for the quick input! In fact, some of these have already worked.

She definitley likes to make a game out of it and see how long I can tickle her, and then tickles me right back. Last night we had some fun with it, and I was very happy with the outcome of the night. I always remind her how much I love her laugh and like to tickle her. I'm taking all of your advice and slowly throwing in different ways to show her my interest!

Right now I'm at the stage where I can pretty much hold her down and tickle her underarms, sides, or feet without her feeling weird at all about it, and then she tries to "fight" back and tickle me. I think she notices that I'm getting turned on by it, but we haven't established it openly yet, so that is my next step!

Thanks again to all and Ill keep you updated! Eventually (long down the road) I'd like to introduce her to this site because it has truly helped me find myself and my love for tickling!

 

[CheshireCatNY]

I personally have always been completely straightforward with it, but then again, the type of people I hang out with are a little more freaky than most; a weird combination of medievalists, goth/metalheads and general weirdos...LOL

Then again my girlfriend is about as "vanilla" as they come who I met online 2 years ago (we're actually celebrating our two year anniversary tomorrow night, my mother is so happy I finally met such a "nice, normal girl" LOL) and I was completely straightforward with her about it when we were still chatting before we even met. I always had the attitude "This is who I am, take it or leave it"....

I think her being open minded about it is also because she's so much more willing to experiment, being a "good girl" her whole life and wanting desperately to break out of her shell.....