I have a sort of unusual question I'd like to ask... I feel kind of awkward and nervous to ask it but nothing ventured nothing gained, so I'll take the plunge!
I'm a newbie to gatherings in general, though it sounds exciting to me. If NEST is on this year, I am thinking of signing up to go, it seems like everyone has a great time! But, I would like to ask if anyone here has any experience recovering from a traumatic BDSM experience.
To gloss it over, a few years ago I endured a bondage session that went very badly. Recovering from it took a long time and I couldn't even consider indulging in my kinks for quite a while without shaking and feeling nauseous. But I've gotten to the point now where the idea of being tied up and tickled sounds fun and exciting to me again, rather than scary, and I feel pretty confident about it! But, if I attend NEST and do any play scenarios, it will be the first time I've done anything since the bad time. I have to acknowledge its possible that I'm being too optimistic. I don't want to end up having a flashback and accompanying meltdown...
I guess this is a sort of an awkward thing to ask. But I've been reading the posts on this forum and everyone seems so friendly and helpful! If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate hearing it, either here or in a PM.
Thanks in advance, and I hope I might be able to meet some of you at a gathering soon! 🙂
I'm a newbie to gatherings in general, though it sounds exciting to me. If NEST is on this year, I am thinking of signing up to go, it seems like everyone has a great time! But, I would like to ask if anyone here has any experience recovering from a traumatic BDSM experience.
To gloss it over, a few years ago I endured a bondage session that went very badly. Recovering from it took a long time and I couldn't even consider indulging in my kinks for quite a while without shaking and feeling nauseous. But I've gotten to the point now where the idea of being tied up and tickled sounds fun and exciting to me again, rather than scary, and I feel pretty confident about it! But, if I attend NEST and do any play scenarios, it will be the first time I've done anything since the bad time. I have to acknowledge its possible that I'm being too optimistic. I don't want to end up having a flashback and accompanying meltdown...
I guess this is a sort of an awkward thing to ask. But I've been reading the posts on this forum and everyone seems so friendly and helpful! If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate hearing it, either here or in a PM.
Thanks in advance, and I hope I might be able to meet some of you at a gathering soon! 🙂