wendynpeter said:
Wholesome? Please. Let's not kid ourselves about what we're doing here, OK? To wit:
"WARNING -- Adults Only. This is an adult site. You must be over the age of 18 or 21 in some areas. You must not find adult content to be offensive..."
I do agree that we are "quite 3 - dimensional." Which is to say (I hope) that this site is not the be-all and end-all of anyone's lives. We are a community, it's true. But what we have in common (commun -ity) is that we are all ticklephiles. My original point was that perhaps we ought to focus on the positive. Just because we are all ticklephiles doesn't mean we are all of the same religion or political persuasion, and it seems to me silly to push those buttons.
As for your assertion that the tickling material "is not what makes this site a success," well, let's just say that I wouldn't want to test that theory by removing the tickling material.
Again, what this site presents as it's purpose, doesn't change anything about people, nor does the necessary warning that this site may and does have adult content on it. That messege is a cautionary to legally protect this site and it's propriator. Its not there to state anything but that or to drive people away from using this forum for more than the general purpose.
The fact the site is what it is is not whats in question, it seems your issue is with general discussions that lead to flames. And all I've said is thats just part of reality. Accept it or don't get involved or even read it. In fact, its people in your situation that cause alot of flames in the first place.
If you feel disjointed or out of place in what you read or take part in or feel that it is out of place, don't read or take part in it. If what you are here for is the material, come for the material. But please don't suggest that people should change what they talk about simply because its of no interest or concern to you, or that it angers you and you resent where these conversations,
ANY conversation (tickling or not) has the
potential to go.
People will insult eachother. Accept it.
People can be petty. Accept it.
People will not like eachother. Accept it.
People may reconcile and forgive. Accept it.
People may not reconcile and forgive. Accept it.
People are more than fetishists. Accept it.
People come here for reasons that aren't even fetish related. Accept it.
People being here does not make them a ticklephile or a fetishist and so demands they conduct themselves in a miniscule way to perpetuate that. Accept it.
People have different opinions. Accept it.
People are different. Accept it.
If you cannot accept these facts of what open speech to another person possibily brings then you shouldn't be here and subjecting yourself to reality if you cannot handle it.
You are right about one thing. This site isn't nor should it be someone's life. But that doesn't mean that people should be forbidden or discouraged from talking about whatever they want if they've been allowed to to begin with. And, by the same token that you present this, you shouldn't treat this site as if it itself, and not the people needs to be serviced first or that the material is inevitabily more important.
If people aren't happy, they leave. And it just so happens that many people here come for the discussions whether they take part in them or not. And because that is true, naturally the discussions take on the significant purpose of the site and reform it.
If you cannot accept this fact, then you're wasting your time with threads like this and are just brooding over things. And thats no way to be.