Opinions please!

[Adamluvsfeet]

Hi guys!

I'm caught up in a dilema and I was wondering what you guys would do if in my situation.........

Basically I've met a girl that I really like, I am not seeing her or anything yet but fingers crossed! However, just out of general discussion at my place she was telling me how she really hates feet and stuff and that out of anything there the things she hates the most.....!! Obviously I can't understand why but it puts me in a bit of a dilema and I'm caught up in two minds as to what to do?? Please could you forward any suggestions you may have as to how you would tackle this sinario.

Cheers guys!

All the best

Adam

 

[Hungarian21]

Hey, that is a dilema....wow. :wooha:

OK....how old is she? If this is someone you REALLY like, and she likes you, then I'm sure she will accept you! If you want to keep it a secret, well, I would recommend against that, but thats your choice. I'd say you should talk to her, (if this relationship gets started😉), and then be done with it. But you are jumping too far. First, worry about asking her out, leave the rest for later. :happy: Good luck. 😀

 

[Adamluvsfeet]

Yeh your totally right. She's 18 the same age as me just a matter of a few months older. I will see how things go and develop in the near future. Thanks for your advice though, much appreciated!

 

[Hungarian21]

:happy: You're welcome; he, I never thought I would be helpful like that.....it's a weird feeling...🙂

 

[morgandee]

use a baseball bat

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Some people are very stubborn and won't change their feelings, no matter how desirable a relationship with you may or may not be. Even if there is general acceptance, they may only go along with it for your sake while they secretly hate it.

In your case, where her feelings are quite clear, I wouldn't suggest committing or trying to commit her to a relationship if one of the leading reasons you want to spend time with her may be to play with her feet or whatever. You'd not only be setting yourself up for potential disappoint (which is a given anyway) in a dating relationship, but you may create a further rift between her, you, and what you both want and don't want out of this relationship. If she feels you're insisted or hinting constantly at foot play (no matter how you disguise it) and you already know now she doesn't like that sort of thing, its better just to avoid it and keep it in your fantasies or use sites like this one for your outlet.

Finally, you may have to compromise in order to be happy with her. Train yourself to let go if when you talk to her about this, her feelings remain the same. Its quite possible everything else may work out fine if you are willing to compromise. Because relationships are often about that, I'd suggest it. Fetishes are a double-edged sword in relationships, and you're going to have to learn to adjust to this arrangement.

One thing I wouldn't do is dismiss her entirely. You could be missing out on a good thing. Ask her what you need to and then make your accessment. Try and get as most of her opinion on the matter as you can out now rather than bring it up later. You'd be doing you and her a favor.