Outing Others

[Grad]

We have all sorts of stories about people finding out if WE'RE into it.

Now I want to know how to safely out someone else withought outing yourself!

I have a really good friend and I think she's possibly a tad of a phile. I've got some decent evidence that she might enjoy it but I haven't gotten ad admittance yet. What's the best way of going about it without outing myself first?

 

[mysterytic]

Outing may be the wrong term

Outing has a negative meaning. I think you want to find out about her to show tickle interest in her, correct? Outing occurs when one person exposes another in hopes of doing damage or embarassment to the person. If that is not your intention, I think this is the wrong term. I would act curious, stating the evidence, and saying "I wonder what it would be like to be into that" and wait for an invitation or denial. Keep in mind that denials are not always true when it comes to ticklers, our history has shown, until recently, we have always hidden everything. The unfortunate thing is that unless a tickler is willing to take the chance, and be truthful, many oportunities may pass him by.

 

[tklr5150]

Just imagine what sort of circumstances it would take for you to divulge that to someone, and try your best to create them. Trust, obviously, is key. Maybe accentuate whatever interaction you have that leads to you suspect her interest, mention tickling in conversation and see how she responds, drop hints that you think it's fun or playful (which shouldn't give anything away). If she is one of us, she'll probably pick up on the fact that you are too, which will make it easier. If she's not, my guess is she won't think anything of it. I practically had to beat my friends who I've told over the head with exactly what my tickling interest means, so I doubt she'd jump to any conclusions about you unless she was already similarly predisposed.

 

[Grad]

Interesting. any more thoughts of assistance?

No, I'm not trying to embarrass this someone or anything, but I would love to know if she's a person who's into tickling. If she turns out to be, then I could definitely have someone near me who's like minded and that'd be great.

 

[ktickler]

Well, the only way I know of to find other people with a tickling interest is by trial and error. Most often than not, I find women who somewhat enjoy the playful aspect of tickling. Of course, there are the bitchy ones who just want to bite your head off, but luckily they come far in between.

When they ask me if I am ticklish to fight back or why I insist in tickling them so often, I just find it very useful to tell them "Oh yeah, I love being tickled". Which is a lot different from saying "I love tickling". You are putting all the interest in you. Then, they query a little more about the interest and you can say thinks like, "it relaxes me", or "I just like to laugh". With this attitude, they feel a lot more at ease because you are directing the discussion towards you and not to the action of you tickling them.

The truth of the matter is that's the way I feel about it. I like when they tickle back because it makes the "fight" fair. And it indeed relaxes me after I spend all that energy laughing.

I just like having a balanced tickle fight, and the more they realize that this is not just on them, the better.

Good luck,

Knight Tickler

 

[TickledToDeath]

Setting her up for the subtle hint giveaway.

IF you are checking for TICKLER in her....while relaxing one day or evening, stretch out on floor or sofa. Exposing your tickle spots and or place your bare feet on her lap and await her.....reaction/actions.

Try to instigate a tickle fight. See if she responds positively.

Looking for the LEEE in her?

Give a few playful pokes in the ribs or strokes down her soles and or pits.
IF you can repeatedly get away with it without getting decked or told to "fornicate off", things are looking good.

You may have to show a bit of yourself and your interest in tickling for her to feel comfortable showing herself and her interest in it.
She may be just as "shy" and or hesitant, leary or reserved as you and waiting for YOU to show signs before she opens herself.


TTD

 

[hiram]

I don't think I would ever want to be "outed." I've been tickling ever since I can remember. Once when I was a teen. one of my aunts said in a fairly significant group, "Hiram always likes to tickle." These days I think that curious because many folks in my extended family were into tickling, including the aunt that said it. At the time I remember getting extremely flustered.

In my life I've dated about 25 women, all but one before my marriage at age 24. I don't recall a single one that I saw a second time that didn't get tickled. Some let me more than once, and others didn't. Knowing what I know today, I doubt I could be happy with a woman that isn't deathly ticklish, yet at least tolerant of it.

Here's my point. The world is an almost infinitely exciting place to live these days. I think there are REALLY fun things to do every day and every weekend. I like going to movies, and baseball and basketball games. My wife does as well. I like camping and canoing the wild rivers and backpacking the wilderness. The wife does occasionally. I like reading and discussing the object. I like picnics in the park and walks by the lake. Same with bowling and golf. Part of what makes these things fun is doing many of them coeducationally. One thing I discovered long ago was that when you do things coeducationally, there will always be a chance to get in some serious tickling.

I think in the groups I travel, to be "outed" would be destructive. By that I mean it would be baring part of my soul, and would make it so I could no longer be myself in them. I think I would be as flustered as I was that day as a teen.

If you really like this young lady, take her to dinner and a movie. Next time take her to a ball game. I bet you will get lots of tickling in, but the idea of being a "ticklephile" won't get in the way if she feels about it the same as I do.

If it ever gets really serious, believe me, both of you will know what goes on inside the other.

Hiram