Outted On The Job!

[Sunriseticklee]

Ok... Not yet! 😀

I'm just curious! What you would do if you were outted for your love of tickling on the job?

This is assuming that it would even matter. For me, it would and people would freak out. No matter how hard I tried to explain it, I don't think anyone would care to listen.

As it is... Because I hang out with my coworkers outside of the job, I know I have a couple of collegues that know I love to be tickling/ like tickling. Alex is always coming to my job and almost always tickles me in front of someone. But that's not so bad.

So what would I do if the worst case senario happened and I ended up losing my job? Well.... I'm already a graphic artist and photographer on the side. I guess I would just do both full time, open up a sports memorabilia store with Alexwarfield like I've always wanted to do, and I guess I would also start producing tickle videos like everyone else. 😛 LOL I want to open up a coffeehouse too. Hmm....

So... would it matter? What would you do if you were outted on your job? Would any of you deny it? Have any of you been outted on the job?

Curious... Curious
Sunriseticklee

 

[Artoo]

A few of the girls at my old job knew I had a thing for it, when we were bored and playing truth or dare. One of them asked what kinks I had, and I wasn't going to do the dare. 😛

 

[marcusb]

I'm outted at work... but I don't know who it is.

I had some legal paperwork related to my website that had references to my URL and a description of what the content was bla bla bla, that I had taken into my day job office, to make copies and fax. Long story short, I left the originals on the copy machine by mistake. Some time later... like weeks afterward, the paperwork showed up on my desk in an envelope laying on my computer keyboard. I nearly had a heart attack when I opened the envelope.

Somebody knows. But I have no clue who it is--that is the disturbing part.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Funny, that play in New York that I was helping some friends of mine promote last fall, titled "Weird," dealt with that precise theme, with a college professor unknowingly making friends with one of his students in a cyber forum not unlike this one. In the climactic scene, the professor turned the tables on everybody by delivering a speech that pointed out to them that they did things that seemed just as weird to him as his proclivity (spanking in this instance) seemed to them.

That said, pragmatically speaking, with reference to your situation as a teacher and a ticklephile, the good news is that the average person outside of this community has never heard of this community. Thus, if people see that you enjoy tickling, it's still going to be many steps away from finding out that you belong to a society of people who have annual conventions to tie each other up on bondage equipment and do mass tickling and be getting off on it in the process. So chances are, the outside public isn't going to know any more about this than you volunteer to tell and explain. Chances are, as well, that if you meet the parent of one of your students at NEST or the like, that parent will be just as protective of anonymity as you are, and no beans will get spilled. I get the feeling, though, that you're a bit of an adventurous sort, and that the fantasy of it and the sense of living dangerously gives you some fun, especially where you talk about what you'd do for a career change if you ever needed it. Truth be told, being a teacher carries its risks anyway, so anybody who teaches should have a Plan B in mind. Lord knows I do.

In my case, when I stand in the classroom and see young coeds' bare feet dangling and see them text messaging on their cell phones thinking they're clever at camouflaging it, and when they sit there and tell me I should postpone the next test or make the next writing assignment optional, it certainly takes work for me to pretend I'm not having wild tickling fantasies. I keep the stern facade, though, and it's worked so far. I did give a colleague a foot tickle at a department party a few years ago at another job, and it worked fine with no consequences, but I wouldn't dream of doing that again as I advance further in my career.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Marcus: If you don't hear anything more about it, then chances are the person respects your privacy and won't use any of it against you. Some people really are nice that way.

 

[Babyshambles]

Marcus: If you don't hear anything more about it, then chances are the person respects your privacy and won't use any of it against you. Some people really are nice that way.

I'm assuming the only reason this would happen if it were passed on to a manager, who sat on it for some weeks whilst deciding what to do, and then realising that it would be best to just give it back and move on.

I would assume there is a clear message being sent. We know about this. We want you to know that we know about this. Don't step out of line.

 

[Radiohead 7140]

fortunately this site is firewalled at work. it is banned under the flag of "pornography". so chances of outtage are slim. nothing would happen, they sure as shit wouldn't want to risk the legal implications of firing someone over something like that. but i would be very uncomfortable and embarrased.

 

[ZenTickling]

I'm outted at work... but I don't know who it is.

I had some legal paperwork related to my website that had references to my URL and a description of what the content was bla bla bla, that I had taken into my day job office, to make copies and fax. Long story short, I left the originals on the copy machine by mistake. Some time later... like weeks afterward, the paperwork showed up on my desk in an envelope laying on my computer keyboard. I nearly had a heart attack when I opened the envelope.

Somebody knows. But I have no clue who it is--that is the disturbing part.

LMAO! That story is hilarious. I probably would have had the same reaction seeing that letter sitting on my desk.

I did taxes for a few months and one of the perks was being able to do and file my own taxes for free. I had a 1099-MISC from clips4sale and expenses such as camera and bondage equipment and model fees. Only the monetary amounts showed up, but I had a bunch of people asking me what I was doing to make money in addition to my job. I just made stuff up.. computer affiliate marketing or something.

 

[Bizkit]

I do not need my co-workers knowing my personal business.Not at all.I work with some fucked up individuals and the wrong thing might get said and most likely there would be an altercation.If I worked in a different field with perhaps open minded females that might be a different story but I don't.

 

[Babyshambles]

fortunately this site is firewalled at work. it is banned under the flag of "pornography". so chances of outtage are slim. nothing would happen, they sure as shit wouldn't want to risk the legal implications of firing someone over something like that. but i would be very uncomfortable and embarrased.

There is a possibility that management can view a wider range of websites at work.

There is the further possibility that the site was viewed from a home computer.

I'd be willing to bet that whoever found your paperwork has been on your site too.

But it's also clear that they don't want to make much of an issue out of it.

If it were really important paperwork, perhaps it was felt that you needed to have the papers back. If it is something non-important or easily replaceable, it makes you wonder why they didnt just throw it away.

 

[Mitchell]

I was very nearly outted several years ago, when I was working in my former company, Market America.

I was an indepedent sales rep for the company, which is a product sales and internet marketing company. A former forum member had spoken to me about an interest in signing on to be a representative with our company, and I had to explain such to my business partner, who assisted me with contract recruiting. I didnt say to him "X person is from a tickling fetish forum". I just said "X person, who I met in an adult themed chatroom, might be interested in signing on with our company". We called the person, and it turned out they didnt join our company anyway.

I dont discuss this forum with anyone who I have worked with over the years. Work is work, and this is my private life. I don't feel that any of my business partners or associates have the need to know.

Mitch

 

[Radiohead 7140]

There is a possibility that management can view a wider range of websites at work.

There is the further possibility that the site was viewed from a home computer.

I'd be willing to bet that whoever found your paperwork has been on your site too.

But it's also clear that they don't want to make much of an issue out of it.

If it were really important paperwork, perhaps it was felt that you needed to have the papers back. If it is something non-important or easily replaceable, it makes you wonder why they didnt just throw it away.

Paperwork? what are you talking about?

I don't go to other tickle-related websites at work. Generally when I'm at work I do work. But if it was safe I might wander here at lunch to see if I got a PM or something

Site was viewed from a home computer? What? No, they do not care and are not spying on what I do outside of work. It's not a fascits regime.

Make an issue out of what? they haven't found anything...or are you semi-responding to marcus here?

This whole thread confuses me. Plus it sounds a little like you're trying to scare me, lol

 

[milagros317]

I've never been outed at work. Since I keep all my kink activities off campus and on my own time, I don't believe that I could be fired, just embarrassed.

Truth be told, being a teacher carries its risks anyway, so anybody who teaches should have a Plan B in mind. Lord knows I do.

I've reached the age where plan B is to retire. 😀

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I'm so easy to figure out!

I get the feeling, though, that you're a bit of an adventurous sort, and that the fantasy of it and the sense of living dangerously gives you some fun, especially where you talk about what you'd do for a career change if you ever needed it. Truth be told, being a teacher carries its risks anyway, so anybody who teaches should have a Plan B in mind. Lord knows I do.

How long did it take you to figure that out about me. LOL So YES... part of me kind of wants it to happen. Like when I changed the board in the concession stand from PICKLES 75 cents to TICKLES 75 cents just to see the look on everyone's face when they saw it. Oh goodness... You can't believe how funny it was AND how many of my coworkers told me they would tickle me for free... and did it. LOL

And half the time Alex tickles me at work, I whisper out, "TICKLE ME!" and run. LOL. So yeah... I kind of think it would be funny if they found out, but at the same time I would still be embarrassed. Of course this side of me comes out only AFTER HOURS! I wouldn't want to ruin my stern reputation. Most of my coworkers were highly amused, and only one questioned me about it, as I mentioned in my blog.

I have one sister (everyone else in my family, and my mother even knows) that I would HATE to find out. Not that it would creep her out. On the contrary, she would be on the forum 24-7. I can think of nothing more EKK than going to an event and seeing her there. Ewww.

Now I'm scaring MYSELF.
Sunriseticklee

 

[WorkInProgress]

Sunrise: Interesting, the whole thing with your sister and the rest of your family, like it's a secret that you all keep from her, and it's ironic that the person the secret is kept from is the one who would be most enthusiastic about it of all. Be that as it may, I would guess that your colleagues, no matter how much of it they see, assume it's playful tickling that you're into, and wouldn't even dream of the stuff that goes on in this community. But yeah, we all have different sides to us. The other night at a bar I witnessed a slightly tipsy woman getting her first serious lesson in playing pool, and was being very playful and boisterous about it, but because she told me she's the director of a human services program in the city, I know that tomorrow morning she's going to be back at her desk, humorlessly demanding to know why the memo that was supposed to be completed by 10 is already an hour late. And boy would I have liked to tickle her that night at the bar.

Baby Shambles: I interpret the delay in returning the papers to Marcus as the co-worker's embarrassment. I think the co-worker wanted to do it anonymously and was waiting for the right time. If management got in on it, it would probably be do ask him not to do any more personal copying at work, not to probe his fetish life. Most people, if they're uncomfortable with fetishism, just prefer not to know about it, rather than having any great desire to probe and snoop.

Milagros: Yes, there is indeed that too.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

It's not because of her enthusiasm (which would be fake). Ever since we were kids... (all of us), she has attempted to copy, take over, or literally steal everything we've done. (boyfriends/husbands, clothes, styles of dress, poetry, songs, underwear, glasses, social security numbers, credit.. LOL EVERYTHING. I'm serious!) And if she was truly into it, it wouldn't be so annoying.

I actually had a sister with me at NEST once. I had about 14 hours to let her know I was into tickling on the drive up. LOL I think after I told her, the thing I worried about most was breaking the fingers off of anyone who tickled her without her permission. LOL But the guys were very protective of her and we both ended up having lots of fun.

1 for 2 isn't that bad Workinprogress LOL
Sunny

 

[WorkInProgress]

Now that's quite a combination--underwear, Social Security numbers, and boyfriends. I hope she has some life of her own, and some semblance of normal relations with you some of the time.

 

[Gadilici]

Well, unless you plan to quit the job over it, there's only one way to handle it:

Say "Yup. Was there anything else?"

Make it a total non-issue. Don't hem or haw. Just fess up in a totally nonchalant way. If you get all nervy, you open yourself up for that most feared of things...intentional humiliation by others. They may not intend for it to be mean, but they can dog you. If you act all enthusiastic, you can creep people out.

Just answer it like you would if they asked "Are you drinking coffee?" "Yup." Have an attitude almost like you assume everyone does, and you'll get the least amount of discomfort over it.

Christopher

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Well, unless you plan to quit the job over it, there's only one way to handle it:

Say "Yup. Was there anything else?"

Just answer it like you would if they asked "Are you drinking coffee?" "Yup." Have an attitude almost like you assume everyone does, and you'll get the least amount of discomfort over it.

Christopher

I like this, and this is how I imagine myself reacting. But LOL, I proabably would still be fired. LOL Ok, it isn't too funny, but I have a plan B and C

 

[Gadilici]

Why would you be fired? One's personal sexual desires are not a fireable offense unless you're military.

Now if you outed yourself, and started asking the secretarial pool if they're ticklish....

But so long as you "harrass" no one, shouldn't be an issue.

What's B and C?

Christopher

 

[unit5610]

I would assume there is a clear message being sent. We know about this. We want you to know that we know about this. Don't step out of line.

^ I think this nails it.

I'm in a place where layoffs are a good possibility in the next few months and I don't have much seniority. Being that there are also politics involved it would take only a tiny mis-step to assure my place in the unemployment line. Since I'm not really 'out' among family and local friends, this would also affect other aspects of my existence. So basically, I'd be reamed if I were outed at work.

 

[Maestro1874]

It would be problamatic to be " outed" at work since I am the boss. There's just a certain...lack of information that is required if you follow?