Aw, now that's disheartening. Being someone who married one of us, from online, I can tell ya it DOES happen. Requires more than just posting personals sometimes, though. Personals are a start.
So is attendance at social events with others from here. It's how many here know me. They met me.
Gotta keep trying, same as for the vanilla folk trying to meet "the one". I met her. Married her. It's possible. It took me a while, though. Persistance is a big help.
Good luck to you both!
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