As Big_Dogg so eloquently pleaded, there are a lot of people who wonder how and why we accept people to NEST, or don't welcome them back. There are also some simple rules we expect all NESTees to follow, which we occasionally have added to over the years. As of this moment, there are 11 rules. There are also some basic guidelines we expect that civilized humans follow (and if you're coming to NEST, you'd better fall into that category! 😉 )
First of all, I've attached the rules at the end for your perusal. I don't want to rehash them, because they're kind of self-explanatory. And we do require all first timers to attend an orientation, even if you've been to many other events before. Why? Well, for these reasons: NEST is a different kind of culture than other events, certainly different from most BDSM events, and it's far larger than just a house party. It's very friendly, and very family like. Yes, with occasionally that odd aunt, that strange uncle, or those bratty children, but also with the awesome and fun cousins, that really cool older brother, the fairy godmother, and perhaps even a really cute friend of a friend. When you come to the orientation, you get a taste of what we expect from you, and what you can (not should, but likely will) get out of coming to NEST. You'll also get to meet fellow newbies, and will get to see who some of the veterans are. You'll learn how things go, so that you can have the best possible time here, and who to go to if you need any help.
I like cutting edge things as much as and perhaps more than the next person. I think it's can be really cool scary/safe to use knives to tickle the right person with. That being said, do not bring weapons of any kind to NEST. It only invites trouble.
Sexual behaviour at NEST during ANY public event is not permitted. If you want to masturbate, go to your room. If you want to touch someone else in a sexual way, first, make sure that they have verbally agreed to it, without being coerced. Then, go do it in your room. Not in public. There are plenty of hot scenes you can do in public without getting naked, obscene, or making other people uncomfortable about where your hands have been and may go next.
Don't stand so close to me! Or, to others who are playing. If you happen to be sitting on the couch with some relative strangers, and a tickle fight happens to spill over on you, check to make sure that means you've been invited to join in. If people are playing, a reasonable distance to stand is 6' or more away. If you get in the way of what they're doing, they may accidentally hurt you. Don't blame them if you stand too close!
If you are asked to move away from a scene, or to leave to leave a room, DO IT when they ask.
Also, make an effort to get to know people before you ask to tickle them.
Really. Most people do not want perfect strangers to tickle them. Also, the NESTees I know are some of the most friendly people you're likely to meet. Don't be too shy to introduce yourself, and strike up a conversation, or ask to eat a meal with someone.
I'm sure that there are other good tips our veterans can share!
Lee
Rules of Conduct
1) There is a strict NO UNINVITED TOUCH rule with anyone that you do not personally know, who has not said, “Yes, you may tickle me.”
We do not want our guests to feel like people are going to be poking at
them all day long. If you see someone that you would like to tickle, as in any
social situation, strike up a conversation and ask them if they would mind.
2) If someone does touch you without invitation, please remember to be
courteous if you do not want them touching you. Remember, this is a
Gathering of people who like to tickle so do not humiliate anyone or
embarrass them by making it seem like they just violated you. Just say,
“No, thanks!”
3) If you approach a person wearing a "collar" it is respectful to ask their partner first.
4) During a DEMO please do not touch the person being demonstrated on
unless you are asked by the Dungeon Monitor or either of the Hosts. The
Dungeon Monitor will be the person who leads the demo or asks someone
to lead the demo.
5) If you feel uncomfortable watching a demo you can leave the room
but do not say anything inappropriate.
6) Do NOT join into a private tickling scene unless you ask first. Approval
must be given by the tickler, the ticklee or the ticklees "owner", spouse or
friend.
7) Please use common sense when dealing with anyone you do not wish to play with.
8) If someone continues to annoy you after politely telling them to stop,
go to a Dungeon Monitor and they will handle the matter.
9) Anyone caught stealing/damaging property will be dealt with severely.
10) NEST is a Drama-Free Event. If you are not adult enough to participate
in events and socializing without making others feel unwelcome, uncomfortable or unloved, then please stay home. If you are prone to
gossip or if you must be the center of attention at the expense of others,
if you may burst into tears in front of groups of people, please take a year
to think about appropriate public behaviour before applying again.
11) We all want to have a good time and enjoy ourselves but any violation
of the Rules can lead to you being told to leave and/or being banned from NEST.
Enjoy yourself ~ Life's too short!
First of all, I've attached the rules at the end for your perusal. I don't want to rehash them, because they're kind of self-explanatory. And we do require all first timers to attend an orientation, even if you've been to many other events before. Why? Well, for these reasons: NEST is a different kind of culture than other events, certainly different from most BDSM events, and it's far larger than just a house party. It's very friendly, and very family like. Yes, with occasionally that odd aunt, that strange uncle, or those bratty children, but also with the awesome and fun cousins, that really cool older brother, the fairy godmother, and perhaps even a really cute friend of a friend. When you come to the orientation, you get a taste of what we expect from you, and what you can (not should, but likely will) get out of coming to NEST. You'll also get to meet fellow newbies, and will get to see who some of the veterans are. You'll learn how things go, so that you can have the best possible time here, and who to go to if you need any help.
I like cutting edge things as much as and perhaps more than the next person. I think it's can be really cool scary/safe to use knives to tickle the right person with. That being said, do not bring weapons of any kind to NEST. It only invites trouble.
Sexual behaviour at NEST during ANY public event is not permitted. If you want to masturbate, go to your room. If you want to touch someone else in a sexual way, first, make sure that they have verbally agreed to it, without being coerced. Then, go do it in your room. Not in public. There are plenty of hot scenes you can do in public without getting naked, obscene, or making other people uncomfortable about where your hands have been and may go next.
Don't stand so close to me! Or, to others who are playing. If you happen to be sitting on the couch with some relative strangers, and a tickle fight happens to spill over on you, check to make sure that means you've been invited to join in. If people are playing, a reasonable distance to stand is 6' or more away. If you get in the way of what they're doing, they may accidentally hurt you. Don't blame them if you stand too close!
If you are asked to move away from a scene, or to leave to leave a room, DO IT when they ask.
Also, make an effort to get to know people before you ask to tickle them.
Really. Most people do not want perfect strangers to tickle them. Also, the NESTees I know are some of the most friendly people you're likely to meet. Don't be too shy to introduce yourself, and strike up a conversation, or ask to eat a meal with someone.
I'm sure that there are other good tips our veterans can share!
Lee
Rules of Conduct
1) There is a strict NO UNINVITED TOUCH rule with anyone that you do not personally know, who has not said, “Yes, you may tickle me.”
We do not want our guests to feel like people are going to be poking at
them all day long. If you see someone that you would like to tickle, as in any
social situation, strike up a conversation and ask them if they would mind.
2) If someone does touch you without invitation, please remember to be
courteous if you do not want them touching you. Remember, this is a
Gathering of people who like to tickle so do not humiliate anyone or
embarrass them by making it seem like they just violated you. Just say,
“No, thanks!”
3) If you approach a person wearing a "collar" it is respectful to ask their partner first.
4) During a DEMO please do not touch the person being demonstrated on
unless you are asked by the Dungeon Monitor or either of the Hosts. The
Dungeon Monitor will be the person who leads the demo or asks someone
to lead the demo.
5) If you feel uncomfortable watching a demo you can leave the room
but do not say anything inappropriate.
6) Do NOT join into a private tickling scene unless you ask first. Approval
must be given by the tickler, the ticklee or the ticklees "owner", spouse or
friend.
7) Please use common sense when dealing with anyone you do not wish to play with.
8) If someone continues to annoy you after politely telling them to stop,
go to a Dungeon Monitor and they will handle the matter.
9) Anyone caught stealing/damaging property will be dealt with severely.
10) NEST is a Drama-Free Event. If you are not adult enough to participate
in events and socializing without making others feel unwelcome, uncomfortable or unloved, then please stay home. If you are prone to
gossip or if you must be the center of attention at the expense of others,
if you may burst into tears in front of groups of people, please take a year
to think about appropriate public behaviour before applying again.
11) We all want to have a good time and enjoy ourselves but any violation
of the Rules can lead to you being told to leave and/or being banned from NEST.
Enjoy yourself ~ Life's too short!
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